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Aug 7, 2010, 02:06 PM
Salam
I'm 28 yr old muslim girl... I got married 3 yrs ago.. I have a 2 yr old son..
My problem is that there is v less understanding between me and my husband.. after marriage I come to know that he used to drink.. he had a v liberal lifestyle before marriage.. after he also continues it.. but he promises me many itmes that he is not indulge in gals... he comes late at night... every staurday and twice a week.he doesn't take that interest in me... like only once a month he comes near me and otherwise we have no physical relation... I m so upset... when I sits near him he pretends as if he is tired and want to sleepp.. after office he is always in ambad mood... in start he never got in bad mood but now after he sees that I'm so much after him and complaning of his drinking and late night sitings he becomes opposite to me... I always try to take care of him but he always interested to go out... never ready to quit his drinking and friends... I m so upset... dont want to leave him but I want him to take interest in me n have good husband wife relations but he only takes me part of his life where as I take him my life... v upset what shall I do to make him happy.. so that I could njoy good understanding with him.some times if ear if he is indulge in any gal or he will leave me... 3months ago we had a big fight... my seravant told me that he is after some gal.. I showed his pics bfr marriage that were wiid gals to his parents and then I asked my servant to go after him... he recognized him and then he proved that he is innocent and not after gals..
Since then.. he hates me more... doesnt talk to me more and says I have insulted him in front of all family his parents ans my family but I didn't do it consciously .he only gives money and he says I put him in depression and he is ,living with me because of his parents and son...
He fulfills all his responsibilities about me and his son I mean give us money and fulfills our meeds and I live in combined family
Help I'm younger frm him
I'm 28 yr old muslim girl... I got married 3 yrs ago.. I have a 2 yr old son..
My problem is that there is v less understanding between me and my husband.. after marriage I come to know that he used to drink.. he had a v liberal lifestyle before marriage.. after he also continues it.. but he promises me many itmes that he is not indulge in gals... he comes late at night... every staurday and twice a week.he doesn't take that interest in me... like only once a month he comes near me and otherwise we have no physical relation... I m so upset... when I sits near him he pretends as if he is tired and want to sleepp.. after office he is always in ambad mood... in start he never got in bad mood but now after he sees that I'm so much after him and complaning of his drinking and late night sitings he becomes opposite to me... I always try to take care of him but he always interested to go out... never ready to quit his drinking and friends... I m so upset... dont want to leave him but I want him to take interest in me n have good husband wife relations but he only takes me part of his life where as I take him my life... v upset what shall I do to make him happy.. so that I could njoy good understanding with him.some times if ear if he is indulge in any gal or he will leave me... 3months ago we had a big fight... my seravant told me that he is after some gal.. I showed his pics bfr marriage that were wiid gals to his parents and then I asked my servant to go after him... he recognized him and then he proved that he is innocent and not after gals..
Since then.. he hates me more... doesnt talk to me more and says I have insulted him in front of all family his parents ans my family but I didn't do it consciously .he only gives money and he says I put him in depression and he is ,living with me because of his parents and son...
He fulfills all his responsibilities about me and his son I mean give us money and fulfills our meeds and I live in combined family
Help I'm younger frm him