I live in roanoke rapids North Carolina and I am 17 dating some one that is 32 is that illegal

Go to web and search the laws of North Carolina on dating.

No.

No.

Care to elaborate?

Care to elaborate?

What is there to elaborate on? Age of consent is 16.

What is there to elaborate on? Age of consent is 16.

Wow... That is young! Thanks

What can a 17 year old have in common with a 32 year old? Wouldn't it make more sense to go for someone around your age?

Wow...That is young! Thanks

.. . You think so?

There are states in which it is younger, though not many and in certain circumstances. And countries in which it is much younger.

YW.


What can a 17 year old have in common with a 32 year old?

Sex.

. . . you think so?

There are states in which it is younger, though not many and in certain circumstances. And countries in which it is much younger.

YW.



Sex.




Different strokes... I guess. Thanks Banana:)

The age difference is a good question. It seems that having common interests and values would be a problem.

How long have you known each other? What drew you together?

It raises many questions about integrity and intentions.

To me , it would almost seem like taking part in raising your spouse.

Hate to be the guy that forces my opinion on others, but I have to be that guy right now...

There is absolutely NO, ZERO reason a 32 year old should be dating a 17 year old. Maturity levels are completely different. You aren't even legally allowed to vote. You can barely see an "R" rated movie. The ONLY motive a 32 year old could possibly have to date someone your age is for sex.

**Please don't blast me for my opinion. In my mind, however, this isn't an opinion, it is fact. It may not be illegal, but I guarantee you it is highly frowned upon, like counting cards...

Altenweg agrees : balancer. Seems like Banana loves to dish out reddies.

What difference does it make to you if I do? If I don't agree, then I don't agree. That's what it's there for, right?

I totally agree Kctiger it's gross. You are so right. To BananaPie, No Kctiger nor any of us know them, do you?

What difference does it make to you if I do? If I don't agree, then I don't agree. That's what it's there for, right?

Read the rules,

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What difference does it make to you if I do? If I don't agree, then I don't agree. That's what it's there for, right?

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If the parents of the 17 year old do not want their child dating a predator there are many other laws that can be used to keep him away and put him in jail if he does not.

So he can date the 17 year old but only if the parents approve.
** and of course her parents are not that much older, so they may have a lot in common

Hello bshaw,

I just looked it up, and it said that the legal age of consent is 16 for NC. May I ask you though, what do you have in common with a 32 year old, please?

If you really are 17, you can legally consent.

If you aren't 17, and you are still a minor less than 16 years of age, there are laws in place in NC that could easily see your 'boyfriend' spend some time in the slammer.

I question your honesty about your age because googling 'age of consent' in NC, brought up over 80,000 hits, in less than a few seconds. Surely you have the same information.

Instinct tells me that if you said you were under 16, you would know already what the correct answer is, and by saying you are of consentual age at 17, you will find some sort of confirmation that it is okay to be sexually involved with a 32 year old man.

I find that it is very, very strange that you are involved with a man of 32, while you are still a teenager. Odder still, is that he likely knew you were barely legal (if you are), and you questioning this particular part of your relationship, should be a huge red flag to you. Think- target. With you being the target. He wants sex. He doesn't want to bring you home to meet his parents, unless they too have a few screws loose. I presume you don't want to bring him to your senior prom either, or even out bike riding or want him to hang out with your friends.

If you met him on the internet, you could be a target, and he has been looking for somebody just like you.

I cannot imagine how else you could have met him, unless he is a friend of your parents, or if he is the parent of a kid you babysit, etc.

What he is, is a very strange, and potentially dangerous man. NO DECENT MAN would date a 17 year old, when there is an age difference that spans two distict stages of human development.

Please reconsider what you are doing, or what you are about to do. If this has to remain a secret, then you should not be in a relationship with him at all.

I really don't give a damn if I am 'factually correct' or not. A 32 year old man, has no business being in any sexual relationship, or boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, or any kind of relationship with a young female of 17.

Jake brought up a very good point. Is he an online boyfriend and have you even met him.

What do your parents think of this
Vast age difference or do they know?

If you were my daughter this guy would be too scared to come anywhere near you.

You don't agree, but that's not exactly a fact. So while you're telling ME to read the rules, you just broke them yourself. Whether there are cliques here or not is completely opinion, and yes I believe there are.

But I don't suppose I'll see you getting a "warning for violation of rules", will I?

But to be honest, you really don't have to explain yourself to me. After you telling me that my parents should have never had me, that they should have used a condom, and that I'm the result of "pulling out" not working, at this point your words are completely meaningless to me. So thanks anyway.


Seventeen is really not so young, and 32 is not so old. And they could in fact have a lot of things in common - gaming, taste in music or movies or television, political views, love of animals. There are all sorts of things that these two could find common ground on.

While there is a possibility of a power imbalance being played upon, that isn't necessarily the case. To assume such is only a knee-jerk emotional response, when no one here knows anything about these two or their situation.

It's a good thing to ask all the right questions and remain cautious, but to demonize immediately and so adamantly is a bit much.

With all do respect, I read this entire thread, and Banana, I sensed sarcasm in your post from the very beginning when Kitkat was only asking you to elaborate. So lets play nice. After all this is about the OP. Let's lead by example, or perhaps this thread should be closed. Thanks.

The asker has asked about dating, not about sex.

That being said: bshaw, don't be dumb. A 32 year old who wants to "date" a 17 year old has some serious issues in his or her life. Avoid it.

As for legality, I'm not sure that any state has either defined "dating" or has made laws about it.

But if you are talking about sex, then that may be a different story Google your state laws.

What is there to elaborate on? Age of consent is 16.

Can you cite me a statute ANYWHERE in the US let alone in NC that regulates an age for dating?

What difference does it make to you if I do? If I don't agree, then I don't agree. That's what it's there for, right?

Nope that's NOT what it's there for. The Disagree should ONLY be used in cases of a factually incorrect answer, NOT a difference of opinion. Review the TOS.

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BananaPie agrees : Semantics. Dating, involvement, sex. Please stop singling me out. Thanks.

Dating does not always involve or even lead to sexual activity. There is a clear difference between dating and sexual activity. Nor am I singling you out. Yours was incorrect legal advice. I was singling out the advice, not you.

Now we will stop with hijacking this thread and hope the OP comes back and answers some of the questions asked. But clearly a 32 yr old looking for a romantic relationship with a 17 yr old is highly questionable and inappropriate.