I am 15 years old and my boyfriend is 16 turning 17 and he is not a virgin but I am. We tried to have sex but it wouldn't go in because he is too big and I'm too tight he says. What do we do to help get his penis in easier? Also he said he doesn't want to wear a condom this next time we try but he will pull out when he cums and put on a condom. Is this a bad idea? HELP PLEASE!

I haven't had sex yet but were trying and I was wondering if I have to be on birth control after having sex?

... This is a pretty bad idea. Not just "pretty bad" but REALLY bad.

If you have to ask whether this is a bad idea... I wouldn't have sex.

... AFTER having sex?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/me-boyfriend-tried-have-sex-but-492551.html#post2455096

... listen, if you don't know the answers to these questions yourself, then I suggest you don't have sex. But in case you don't follow advice...

USE CONDOMS. ALWAYS.

... BEFORE THE ACTUAL ACT OF SEX.

OMG! Are kidding me. Read what you wrote common sense tells you that there is nothing right about this. As you probably been told before it only takes once to get pregnant, so ALWAYS use a condom no matter what your boyfriend tells you. He won't be carrying a baby for 9 months, and going through labor for who knows how many hours of pain. You will be the one with the baby for the next at least 18 years. So protect yourself, and if he don't like it tell him to use his hand, that way you are safe. 15 is really young so be careful you have the rest of you life too think about. And besides we didn't even hit on diseases. No boy is worth you throwing the rest of your life away. If he really really cared he would want to protect you too. Best wishes!

I am not sure due to your ages if I should be answering at all.

I will say any sex should be protected and 15 is too young.

You need to rethink having sex at all.

I'm banging my head on my desk repeatedly.

Do you know how babies are made? Do you have any idea how sex works? It's not just a moment of stupid passion and then think about the consequences later.

Condom! Always! If he doesn't want to wear one, don't have sex with him.

Even with a condom there's a chance of pregnancy. Want the whole truth? You could be on the pill, use a condom, and he could pull out and you could still get pregnant.

Yes, I'm being harsh, because seriously, if you don't know what you're doing, don't do it! You're too young! This is proof!

Why not wait until you actually know how your body works, and how sex works, and what can happen if you have sex. This decision could change your entire life, not just because you'll be losing your V-card, but because you could become a mom, or get a disease.

Condom, at the very least, use a condom.

Definitely too young to be giving sex advice. And it's NEVER a good idea to have un protected sex. Has he been tested for STD's? Because if he is willing to have un protected sex with you, and is not a virgin, than has he used protection with the other girl(s) he had sex with?

I know you are probably going to have sex anyway, even though you should really wait, get yourself on the pill, and have a serious discussion with him about using a condom.

Who wants to be a 15 year old mom?

I replied on the other thread, but this has bad idea written all over it. ALWAYS use protection. It only takes once to get pregnant or get an STD. The pull out method DOES NOT WORK!!

You need to use protection. The more the better. Get on the pill and use a condom!

If you insist on having sex ALWAYS USE A CONDOM.

But at 15 and 16 years old you are too young to jump into life changing and maybe life threating behavior!
Give this more thought before you succumb to a moments passion and take the chance of ruining your life.

I'm trying to figure out what she meant by 'trying.' you either are or are not having sex, there's no 'trying' about it.

I'm trying to figure out what she meant by 'trying.' you either are or are not having sex, there's no 'trying' about it.

She has another post ISsneezefunny posted the link. It will be all too clear.

Unprotected sex is both dangerous and irresponsible, but when you take your age into consideration, are you sure you're ready? I'm 16 and I'm still not ready emotionally! Sometimes you have to think about what's best for you and put that before the person you love. But in the end, if you choose to have sex, you should always use protection. If you don't you could end up with an unwanted pregnancy, and the guilt or depression from an abortion, or even being a teenage mother. I know several teen moms, and only one of them is still with the father. Its an extremely risky. Ready to gamble your future?

is this a bad idea?

Of course it's not a bad idea if you want to become a PARENT.

You are a child, stop playing adult games until you are prepared to deal with the consequences.

Id recommend this thread be closed because assisting illegal acts is against AMHD rules. And 15 is below the age of consent.

People. She's 15 according to her own words. Its illegal. No Sex.

People. Shes 15 according to her own words. Its illegal. No Sex.

Yes, and none of us are saying that she should have sex. In fact, we're all against it. The fact is, against it or not, illegal or not, kids do what they want, because they don't have the sense God gave a goat, and they won't listen to us, because they know everything.

Can we stop her from doing this? No. I wish we could, but I'm being realistic. So, if I can't stop her, I can at least give her advice to protect herself as much as she can.

It's a scary world. Children are having sex. Children are having children. More so now then ever, or so it seems.

I hope she waits. I hope she listens to us and keeps her legs crossed until she's older. The fact that she doesn't even have the first clue how her body works, or how birth control works, that's scary, because she's the norm.

We seem to be a society that believes that not informing kids about sex, about birth control, will make them abstain. That's not the truth. The truth is, they're doing it anyway, but they have no idea what the consequences are because they haven't been told.

So I say again, please don't have sex, you're too young, you have no idea how your body works, wait until you're older. But, if you're going to do it anyway, it's up to you to protect yourself, even though no form of birth control is 100% effective, using nothing is like playing Russian roulette with a loaded gun.

No sex is best, but if we can't talk sense into you, then safer sex, please.

I don't think anyone here is assisting her. We are all discouraging her from having sex.

NO ONE should be engaging in sexual intercourse unless they are ready financially, emotionally and physically to have a child. Especially not unprotected sex! Ask your boyfriend if he will stand by you when you get pregnant? Ask him if he's prepared to be labeled a sex offender for life for statutory rape?

Please let us know you have reconsidered this foolishness and told him you are not ready.

Hello Mary,

I really think this is a bad idea! I think you should enjoy being a 15 year old girl and have fun with school, friends, shopping, girl sleepovers, so on and so forth.

Save the making love for when you are older and understand it...

There will be plenty of time for that in the future.

If you were to get pregnant... OMG your life will change big time! You will most likely live with yor parents for a very long time, and odds are you will not finish school on time with your friends. Also, do you think this guy would help you out? You will watch all of your friends live the life that teens do while you are home with a baby.

Be smart about this! If this boy won't wait for you, and I mean at least until 18, then he is not worth your time... Make sense?

Your boyfriend is behaving in a selfish way to even suggest not using a condom. He is not thinking clearly. I hope you'll reconsider what he's asking for and decide to wait until you are older. If not, I strongly recommend a trip to Planned parenthood to learn about birth control and stds. Did you not get sex education in school?

Your boyfriend is behaving in a selfish way to even suggest not using a condom. He is not thinking clearly.

Yes this is an important point. I would dump this guy as he apparently cares more about having sex with you then he cares for you.

Why would you want to risk having a child, an std and losing your virginity to someone who apparently hasn't thought this through?
Don't be so eager to do this. The right guy will be somewhere in your future and you'll wish you had waited.

he will pull out when he cums and put on a condom. is this a bad idea? HELP PLEASE!
No one mentioned this, so I will --

Yes, this is a Very Bad Idea.

Pulling out does NOT work!! ***Repeat after me!*** Pulling out does NOT work!! Pulling out is NOT birth control!!

Wondergirl is right.
Pulling out is one of the least reliable forms of birth control.

Pregnancy rates per year
For different forms of birth control.

Abstinence 0.00%
Implant 0.05 to 0.3%
Birth control pill <1% to 3.5%
IUD 1.5%

Withdrawal 4 to 19% depending on how done
Condom 4 to 20% depending on how it's used
Rhythm 6 to 25% depending on how done

No method 85%

1. I think it's a bit hard to mess up sex, so if he can't get it in then I wouldn't press the issue.

2. Take some time to learn a little more about sex and your own personal sexuality before having sex with anyone.

3. Use a condom. Always. No matter what. Unless you plan on getting pregnant.

1. I think it's a bit hard to mess up sex, so if he can't get it in then I wouldn't press the issue.

2. Take some time to learn a little more about sex and your own personal sexuality before having sex with anyone.

3. Use a condom. Always. No matter what. Unless you plan on getting pregnant.

Do you really condone a 15 yr old having sexual intercourse?

Do you really condone a 15 yr old having sexual intercourse?

I don't think that anyone giving her advice condones a 15 year old having sexual intercouse...

But, unfortunately in the end people are going to do what they want to do. Even if it is a bad idea. I think it's a bad idea for her to do so, as I stated in a previous post. Again, she is going to do what she wants to do.

So, with that being said, if this young lady choses to have sexual intercourse at the age of 15, then she has to realize the consequences for not using a condom.

Hopefully, she takes all of our advice and decides to wait a LONG while, AND when she does, uses a condom!

Oh, and Wondergirl is correct, pulling out is not a method!

It's a scary world. Children are having sex. Children are having children. More so now then ever, or so it seems.


Altenweg, this is actually not true. According to the Guttmacher Institute (http://www.guttmacher.org/pubs/tgr/05/1/gr050107.html):


The declines in recent years in teen pregnancy rates and birthrates are impressive: Both now stand at record low levels. However, the United States still lags far behind other developed countries, whose rates have fallen too much lower levels.

According to the report, the US teen birthrate peaked in around 1957 at 95 births per 1000 teenagers. But it has dropped to about 50 births per 1000 teens. So the teen birthrate is half what it was in the "family oriented" 1950s.

Edit: Sweden's is only about 10 per 1000. An interesting report...

Enigma, I think Scott was referring to BananaPie's post, which kind of looks like she is condoning it.

Can we not have the Op's two threads merged?

Don't have sex ! You do not seem mature enough to have sex and you are too young.

1. I think it's a bit hard to mess up sex, so if he can't get it in then I wouldn't press the issue.

2. Take some time to learn a little more about sex and your own personal sexuality before having sex with anyone.

3. Use a condom. Always. No matter what. Unless you plan on getting pregnant.

Your parents should have used one . The pull out method obviously didn't work.

It is probably not the OP's fault that no one has taught her anything about how to prevent pregnancy or stds. Any decent sex ed class would have taught her at least the basics.

It is probably not the OP's fault that no one has taught her anything about how to prevent pregnancy or stds. Any decent sex ed class would have taught her at least the basics.

It's sad, but at least we can help her.:) You do give great advice asking!

Has anyone mentioned that there is no birth control method (short of sterilization) that is 100% effective?

Yea on her other thread. Not sure why it hasn't been merged yet.

Yea on her other thread. Not sure why it hasn't been merged yet.

Wasn't aware of the other thread, now merged.

I sincerely hope she returns to let us know that she has learned from this. But I don't see any value in further comments until she does.

Your parents should have used one . The pull out method obviously didn't work.


We can all agree to disagree, but lets try to be respectful. I get into arguments too, but this is hitting below the belt. :(

Personally, I think this thread has run it's course. The OP hasn't come back, and yet we're on page 3, going back and forth. I think it's time to shut this down.

The OP has gotten great advice. I don't think there's anything left to be said.

We can all agree to disagree, but lets try to be respectful. I get into arguments too, but this is hitting below the belt. :(

Personally, I think this thread has run it's course. The OP hasn't come back, and yet we're on page 3, going back and forth. I think it's time to shut this down.

The OP has gotten great advice. I don't think there's anything left to be said.



He was wrong in his advice... I was wrong for responding with childish behaviour.

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