Entire story merged.

Basically I was out fridai night and we were having a party type thing and we were all pissed and I ended up going with my brothers mate all night but my brother doesn't know as he was asleep downstairs and no one else knows other than one person. And we both said to the guy not to tell anyone as it isn't nout and nothing serious was going to happen but I can't stop thinking about it and when I do think about it I got these feelings in my stomach and I can't help it and I don't know what to do and he said that fridaii that he would go out with me but he too close to my brother :S please give me some advise

So is your question about if we think that it would be OK if you went out with your brothers close friend?

With all do respect, I had to re-read your question a few times.

To answer your question, I think that you should discuss it with your Brother, out of respect.

Chat speak is against the rules of this site. There are many reasons for this, the major one being that most of us cannot comprehend what you're saying if you use chat speak. This is also an international site, so please, use complete words and the best English you're capable of.

In other words, it's;

Friday, not fridai
No one, not no one
Said, not said
Nout? Don't even have a clue what word this is.
When, not when
That, not that
Would, not would
:S? Again, no idea what this means.

Get the idea?

No chat speak. Okay?

Thanks. :)

I will rewrite and repost it now then . Sorry about that its just that I am so used to text chat x

Basically I was out on fridai night and we were having a party type thing and we were all pissed and I ended up going with my brothers mate all night but my brother doesn't know as he was asleep downstairs and no one else knows other than one person. And we both said to the guy not to tell anyone as it isn't anything and nothing serious was going to happen but I can't stop thinking about it and when I do think about it I got these feelings in my stomach and I can't help it and I don't know what to do and he said that fridaii that he would go out with me but he too close to my brother But also I don't know if it was drink talk or truth and he had my number but he has not textd me yet and I saw him todaii but he did not metion it as my brother was there :S please give me some advise On What I should do about it ? And a solution on how to fix it.. thank you

Me and this boy kissed when we were both drunk but it went on all night
And he told me he liked me from the first time he saw me
But he said he would go out with me and that but he is to close to my brother but I haven't stopped thinkiing about him and I don't know if he really does like me
What do I do ?

The :S mean
Confused face .

No problem.

You can re-write it and post it here, keep it on the same thread. You'll get more answers if everyone can understand what you're saying. :)

Obvious it sounds like you are not old enough to be "drunk" and drinking"

Plus you were kissing ( assume making out) and you are not sure he likes you?

Sounds like you need to talk to him

Yes wel he told me he liked me but he had had a drink but he said he liked me from the first time he saw me but with me being his mates sister he feels like he can't do anything about it.. But he said all this when he had a drink and I don't know what to do about it... And he has not been in touch since ? And when he was at my brothers yesterdaii he did not speak much to me But it was probably because my brother and his mate was there ? What should I do about it ?

How old are you and listen to me.. drinking and kissing do not mix. How long have you even known this guy?

I am 15.. I have known the guy for a while now but I have onli been speaking to him properly for about 2 weeks which was when he was at my brothers and I was there . But I really like him and I'm confused what to do

I am 15.. i have known the guy for a while now but i have onli been speakin 2 him properly for about 2 weeks which was when he was at my brothers and i was there . But i really like him and im confused what to do

How old is he?

He is 17
And also what does that mean ?

He is 17
and also what does that mean ?

What it means is this.. first of all being with someone who is drunk and kissing with him all night is something you should not have done. He is your brothers friend and you better be thankful nothing else happened.

You are making yourself look cheap and asking for a guy to take advantage of you. Drinking and making out usually lead to other things with dire consequences.

Leave this guy alone. It was the booze talking when he told you he liked you. Stop putting yourself in situations which could be dangerous.

He got drunk and made out with you. That is all it means.
He knows this is something that was completely out of line since you were drunk too.
Stop fantasizing (cause that is what you're doing) and leave alcohol and well enough alone.

Alcohol makes you do stupid things, that's why there's a law about underage drinking. Adults are better equipped to handle alcohol, obviously teens aren't.

Stay sober and stop making out with boys at parties. You may be the one they boast about in the locker room, but you're not the one they'll take out on a date. Guys don't want to date the easy girls.

Yeah but he likes me and he doing nothing about about it.. I can tell by the way he looks at me and yes he might be my brother friend but I know that I brother wudnt mind and my brother went out with my best mate for ages. And my brother has told me that the guy likes me so I can't just forget about it .

Alcohol makes you do stupid things, that's why there's a law about underage drinking. Adults are better equipped to handle alcohol, obviously teens aren't.

Stay sober and stop making out with boys at parties. You may be the one they boast about in the locker room, but you're not the one they'll take out on a date. Guys don't want to date the easy girls.

I agree.. Alty.. Wish I could go back to fifteen. What an innocent age it was.

yeah but he likes me and he doing nothing about about it .. i can tell by the way he looks at me and yes he might be my brother friend but i know that i brother wouldn't mind and my brother went out with my best mate for ages. And my brother has told me that the guy likes me so i can't just forget about it .
If he wanted to do something about it he would. He obviously doesn't. He may have a personal thing about dating siblings of friends. You are 15 how close his he to 18? He may not want to have a relationship with you. May not mind the drunk kissing, but no relationship.
You need to stop fantasizing about this boy. He has left you alone, you need to respect his choice and leave him alone.

yeah but he likes me and he doing nothing about about it .. i can tell by the way he looks at me and yes he might be my brother friend but i know that i brother wudnt mind and my brother went out with my best mate for ages. And my brother has told me that the guy likes me so i can't just forget about it .

Of course he likes you, you put out. He's 17, that's what he wants, a girl that gets drunk and does things that other 15 year olds don't do.

If you really want him, and really want to know why he isn't talking to you. Ask him. If he says it was just a drunken mistake, then move on, learn from this. If he says he likes you, realize that it may just be because of that night, and he's probably thinking that next time he can get you to go all the way, instead of just kissing.

No matter what he says, if you keep drinking and letting guys take advantage of you, that's the reputation that you'll build. Do you want to be known as the drunken floozy, or do you want better?

Leave the guy alone. Leave the booze alone.

Isn't being Funny or anything But No need to be like that love at the end of the day I don't nothing wrong and I had the decensy to come on here and ask for advise not aload of rubbish .

What you have gotten is advice.
This boy has shown you by his actions that he wants nothing to do with you.
He may not like dating siblings of his friends, so you need to respect that and leave him alone.

What you have gotten is advice.
This boy has shown you by his actions that he wants nothing to do with you.
He may not like dating siblings of his friends, so you need to respect that and leave him alone.

We have the decency to give you our opinions. If you are waiting for anyone to tell you it was all right to get drunk and make out all night with your brothers friend, you won't get that advice here LUV.

You acted like a girl with no morals and you and this guy drinking and it is underage drinking I might add, makes you and him seem like two people who could care less about what you did.

If it's too hot in the kitchen, stay out. This is an opinion. You can like or not.

No I am not waiting for anyone to tell me that it was right but I don't think that it was just me that was in the wrong and I get the feeling that this is what you are saying. I do care about what I did and part of me does think that it was wrong but we also kissed in the morning before I went and don't u think that I should at least get him on his own and speak to him about it instead of just forgeting about it ?

If he wanted to speak to you believe me he would. This guy knows what he's doing.
He may not even want to talk to you.
You need to let go of this and leave him alone.

Yeah but he hasn't had chance to speak to me as we have only seen each other once since then and we couldn't speak really as my brother and his mate was there so we just acted normal

no i am not waiting for anyone to tell me that it was right but i dont think that it was just me that was in the wrong and i get the feeling that this is what you are saying. i do care about what i did and part of me does think that it was wrong but we also kissed int he morning before i went and dont u think that i should at least get him on his own and speak 2 him about it instead of just forgeting about it ?

Leave him alone. NC... He is your brother's friend and that won't last if your brother finds out. Leave him alone.:(

It will because my brother won't mind and I know this and my brother was seeing my best mate for months and we all hung out together and the only reason they split up was because my best mate moved away .

it will because my brother wont mind and i know this and my brother was seeing my best mate for months and we all hung out together and the only reason they split up was because my best mate moved away .






What part of "leave the guy alone " do you not understand? You were a one night stand drinking binge buddy. That's all. He doesn't like you. NC. NO CALLING,TEXTING, Email, CARRIER PIGEON. Nada...

Just because your brother has no problem dating your friends that does not mean the same for this other guy.
If this guy wanted to talk to you, he would find a way to do it. Do you have a computer a cellphone. People can be reached if a person wants to reach them.

I think this guy got caught up in a drunk moment and does not want it repeated.
Don't go chasing him. If he likes you, he will contact you and if he does, what he says or does will answer your question.

Yeah I understand where tour coming from now to be honest.. so out of respext I shall just give it time and wait and see what happens and I realised that he could have got in touch with me but hasn't so he either must be shy, doesn't want nothing else to happen or he thinks that I onli went with him because I was pissed so he darent say anything.. Well I shall just see where things go from here and if I have the chance to speak to him on his own abou it then I will :D

Just don't go chasing him. It's bad form.
Watch the text speech a use spell check. Your post can be difficult to read.

Okay and sorry getting late so I keep misspelling words and I attomatically type in text language so I doing the best I can to speak in full english. And no I am not going to chase aftter him then I shall just leave it and see what happens but what if he does try it on again ? Do I do it and be in this position agen because I like him ? Or do I turn him down and send the wrong signals ?

Do what again. Get you drunk?
Don't let this boy take advantage of you.
He has ignored you after this incident. That should tell you that you are not that important to him.
If he comes at you again, tell him you are not interested.
You don't let someone take advantage of you just because you like him.

Well my boyfriend stayed at my house last nyt but when I woke up this morning he was gone so he had gone down stairs unlocked my front door and gone and I don't no why, when or where he's gone and he isn't answering his fone and I have textd him loads 2 let him no it me ringing him and he not answering. It's a chance he could be asleep but what do I do now ?

Did you have sex with him?

It could be a case that he got what he wanted and he's done with you.

Who knows? Why are you so worried anyway?

Maybe he's doing something that doesn't involve you i.e. hanging with mates and doesn't want you annoying him with texts and ringing.

Edit: Sorry should have asked how old you both are?

Could I ask how long your dating?

His phone may need to be charged,he may have left it somewhere and does not realise your ringing.

BUT, the clincher here is,why are you trying to call him? What's wrong?

When he does look at his phone he's going to see missed calls from you and wonder what the hell is going on!

There's not much else I can offer you in the way of advice until you give a little more information.

I will add,don't be so needy!

I'm 15 he's 17 and been going out for him 4 abwt 3 weeks and I've had sex with him on more than this accasion and he just went out my house though when I'm asleep and we had an argument last nyt and he couldn't look at me so think he might of cheeated on me on fridaii but we made up and I fell asleep with his arms around me and woke up with him gone ?


3 weeks and no his fone is ringing he just not answering and I've textd him 2 explain why I am ringing him... and I'm ringing him because he was not there when I woke up and I don't no why or where he is

im 15 hes 17 and been going out for him 4 abwt 3 weeks and ive had sex wid him on more than this accasion and he just went out my house tho when im asleep and we had an argument last nyt n he cudnt look at me so think he might of cheeated on me on fridaii but we made up and i fell asleep with his arms around me and woke up with him gone ?

If you think he cheated on you then you have more to worry about then him not answering his phone. Its probably a blessing in disguise.

Your 15. You should be out mucking around with your friends and enjoying life. Not worrying about whether your boyfriend cheated on you.

Do you live at home?

So your parents allow your boyfriend to come and go as he pleases from your bedroom?

Yeahh I Live At Home And Well I Don't Want To Confront Him About Cheating On me Or Not Just In case He Hasn't And No My Mm Said He Could Stay Over But No1 New That He Had Gone Till I Woke Up This Morning And He Wasn't There But I Fink He The Type Of Person That Will Just Ignore Me And It Won't Bother Him :S

Perhaps things are not so rosey any more,he may want to finish and is avoiding you.

3 weeks is not a long time to get to know someone and what there really like.

If he has cheated on you,getting yourself checked out for std's has to be high on your list right now,if you did not use protection see a doctor asap, as pregnancy is a fact of having sex even with contraception.

Him not answering the phone is not important,your health is.

Your underage for sex,and depending where you live your 'boyfriend' has committed statutory rape and could face prison and be put on a sex offenders list.

It's a big deal.

I'm not trying to lecture you,just giving you the facts.

Most likely he got what he wanted and is now gone off to do his own thing and does not give a flying monkeys about how your feeling or the emotional damage he has caused.

My advice is to get your health sorted,and make better choices for yourself in future.

Yeahh I Live At Home And Well I Dont Want To Confront Him About Cheating On me Or Not Just Incase He Hasnt And No My Mm Said He Could Stay Over But No1 New That He Had Gone Till I Woke Up This Morning And He Wasnt There But I Fink He The Type Of Person That Will Just Ignore Me And It Wont Bother Him :S


You should have confronted him about the cheating just in case he has. You have heard of STD's etc?

And if he could wipe you that easily then he's not good enough for you.

Forget him and go chill with your friends. Enjoy life while you still can.

Yeah I Know About The STI'S And I will Go Family PLanning 2moz And Get Chacked And A Pregnancy Test And Sorry But If I Am Pregnant No Matter What Ill Keep It And He Can't Go To Prison Unless I Tell The Police And That Won't Happen And I Might Be 15 But I Act 18 And That's The Way I Am And I Have Slit My Wrists Fridaii Beacause Of Him And Cryed My Eyes Out 4 Hours On Fridaii + I had to cry Myself asleep ! ITS So Stressful I Don't Know What To Do

You don't have to report him for the police to press charges,no doubt he has had sex with other under age girls. ( perhaps I'm assuming too much,but from your post it would seem likely)

Could I ask what support you have at home?

Your relationship with your parents?

Who takes care of you?

Met My Dad When I was 12 And Then He Tried Do Sumit to me When Was 13 ish So Didn't Speak to him For A While But The Police Had No Evidence So Didn't Do nothing And I Live With My Mum But We Are Forever Arguin And Was Kicked Out Last Year So Had 2 Live Wiv A Mate For 3 Months But Back At Home And Hate It

Things have been rough for you and at 15 you have been through quite a lot.

Wanting someone to love you and wanting someone that will look after you is perfectly normal,but a 17 year old can't give you what you need or want.

Having sex with guy is not love and it won't make him stay or love you.

Having a baby now when your own life is upside down will only make things harder for you,and not fair on a little baby,don't you think so?

As hard as it is now to see that you can change your future,that you can be who ever and whatever you want in life is down to you.

You can travel the world,you can buy your own house and have a happy wonderful life if you want it... but you need to make smart choices now for that to happen.

There is a place you can go where they will teach you how to have a great future... its called school!

I know,at 15 school can be a pain,but I guarantee you,if you listen in class,make an effort at homework,your teachers will see your trying and will want to help you succeed. And you can,if YOU want it.

Having a conversation with your mother about the things you want in life,if you talk to her,tell her about your dad and what happened,ask her to help you succeed,get some councilling.

This guy you slept with last night,does not care about you,he used you for sex,he does not love you,he does not care about you,and that's what you want... yeah?

Set your standard high,your body is yours,not for some guy to use.

Your upset today cause he has not called you,perhaps this is the day where you turn things around,and won't let ANYONE abuse you again.

I Go To College,
He Does Care About Me He Aked Me If he Gets His Own Place Wud I Move In With Him Because He Knows How Much Me And My Mum Argue And If I Was Pregnant It Will Kill Me More To Not Have IT Than It Wud 2 Have It.. I Don't Believe In Abortions Are ANything That Gets Rid Of It and Having A Conversation With My Mother Would Be Like trying To Find A Needle In A Hay Stack and I Don't Want Counciling Im Fine I Just Don't Want To Be Messed Around And It Is So Hard To Go Sleep With Sum1 And Then Wake Up To Find Him Gone We Are Meant To Be Bf + Gf And I Have Not Been Abused Well Not Hit Or Anything Like That I Just Want It All To Stop And Want A Normal Life

What do you think you need to do to make it stop and have a normal life?

What's normal to you?

I Don't Know

I Dont Know

You must have some idea of what a normal life is and what it is you want to stop?

What do you think a normal life is?

You are 15, and in college?

Somehow that is a hard one to swallow.

Red has given you some very good advice, and probably more than you've had from your own mother. Are you listening at all?

You are heading down a road to disaster. First you have repeated sex, underage, and then say you are going to find out about STD's and birth control- after the fact. You say if you are pregnant, and if you are, you will support a baby how?

You are miserable with your mother, can't go to your father, just who is going to support you, provide for you and a baby, and put a roof over your head. You are legally still a child, and you could be having a child of your own. Why, despite everything, would you choose to have sex without protection. You do know that without protection you can get pregnant right? Do you want to get pregnant? Is this your way of keeping a boyfriend?

And you're worried that you woke up this morning and your boyfriend isn't there? In fact,that was your question. He shouldn't have been there in the first place. If your mother said it was okay for you to go and jump off a cliff, would you?

You didn't ask about your lifestyle, or what you could do to get yourself back on track, or how to improve the relationship you have with your mother, or where would you go to get counselling, or what is involved in raising a child, or even try to figure out why a 17 year old boy would take off after he gets sex. He is an idiot for not using protection, a complete fool to risk bringing a life into this world that he has no means to support.

And yet, something motivates you to go to extreme means to keep this boy. And really all you have is the sex. Are either of you working, and do your incomes meet the minimum requirement to financially be independent, and then to add a baby on top of that?

You can expect to pay out $10,000 on average, for just the first year.

Baby Costs: How Much Does it Cost to Have a Baby, Formula (http://www.surebaby.com/costs.php)

The cost of birh control for a year is between $15-$50.00 a month, and a shot every three months is about $35.00. Do you earn enough money to pay for even your own birth control? Or is that something that you will have to rely on somebody else for. My point is, if you cannot even afford birth control, how on earth can you afford a baby.

Regardless of the cold hard facts of having unprotected sex, you should not be having sex at all, unless you are emotionally and financially pepared. And, add to that, a mature parter who is employed, hopefully with benefits, and both of you have a stable life- together, that doesn't revolve around having to be 100% reliant upon someone else to provide the basics of life for you.

You are very much 15 years old. You are not 25 or 30, with at least a high school diploma, and money in the bank. You are not independent, nor can you be, you are too young, and you have no skills to support yourself. I presume that your boyfriend still also lives at home, and I doubt that he has any more understanding of the path he is on, than you do. I suspect that both of you put together couldn't buy a box of diapers.

And you're worried about your boyfriend being gone after a night of unprotecte sex, and he isn't answering his 'fone'?

Stop having sex until you are ready to be a parent. And you "go to college"? Why do you capitalize ALL of your words?

Go study. And forget about this guy.

Is the person you were asking about in this thread the same one you are asking about in this one?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/me-boy-kissed-when-we-were-drunk-really-like-him-what-do-do-492177.html

Is the person you were asking about in this thread the same one you are asking about in this one?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/me-boy-kissed-when-we-were-drunk-really-like-him-what-do-do-492177.html
Whatever college she goes to has very low standards as far as writing skills are concerned.

Josie... look a 17 year old is older than you to not to loose his way to home or to his girl friend. So let's not worry about him. He would be fine by himself.

Now, let's worry about you. You are only 15 & you are under stress, you have hurt yourself & have difficulty in making your mother hear you. Here everyone has shown concern about you & have given great advices. Why not listen to them?

I know you have built great feelings for this guy & you are ready to sacrifice everything for him but WAIT... like this you will make each other big time losers... because you two are way to young to talk about moving in together, spending a lifetime together, having babies.. on & on.

If you want the best for both of you in coming years then let yourself grow into a fine lady. There is no need to hurt yourself because you are already in a very hurting situation. You should be the one to protect yourself. You are talking of keeping the baby if you are pregnant but how would you make this baby survive? Because you are yourself a very weak person who can't accept reality & fight it effectively... how will you protect your baby? You have been hurting yourself & crying, how are you going to make any baby survive?

See... first before even thinking of having a baby or moving in with a guy, you need to take care of yourself. Don't you want to go to Princeton? To get your own car? Your very own apartment? Your own pet? Don't you want a life different than your mum had? Don't you want to go to Europe when you grow up? Don't you want to see Aurora in Alaska? I bet you do!

What kind of mum do you want to be? A great one, right? Would you tell your daughter to go after a guy who is himself in a fragile age, to cut her wrists, to ignore if she gets pregnant or not... would you? Of course not!

I know life must be hell at this moment but it won't be the same. You are only 15, life has not even started yet & you have thought of several reasons to cry about. Go slow, enjoy your time to the maximum. Be selfish & learn as much as possible, go find counselling where you are receiving education & ask them to help you get a scholarship & a way to improve your studies.

My suggestion would be to take a big piece of paper & write down "I am a great 15 year old, I deserve the best." & paste it on your dressing table or on your wall & keep looking at it. If thoughts of finding comfort in the arms of a 17 year old creeps into your head, then smack yourself out of it or pinch yourself very hard. You definetely deserve the best like any other 15 year old in this planet.

You need support from a trusting adult. You also need counseling to address your decisions and your cutting. You do not seem like 18, you do seem 15. You are not emotionally ready for a relationship and deserve to only have people in your life who make you happy. Your family is not 100% supportive, so you need to find those out there who make you feel good. This guy may care about you on some level, but that does not mean this relationship is the right thing for you. They can get complicated, and you are not in a place to handle it right now, and you do not need to have these worries or concerns right now.
Go out and be with your friends, have some fun, get to know you, and build yourself esteem. You need these things to make better decisions and deal with your past pain in a healthy way.
I would suggest counseling, you can talk to someone at your school or ask your mom to take you to one.

My boyfriend told me that he won't be out on thursdaii because he has work from 7 in the morning till 1 the next morning so I said okai then even though he normally only work frm 7 until 4pm. So on yesterdaii I texted him saying wuu2 and he said at work till 1. but then 10 minutes after I saw his mate that I know and he said he was on his way to meet my boyfriend. So I rang my boyfriend and said you chat s**t thought you were at work and he said er er er yh just been dropped of cause of the rain and I said yeah yeah and he put the fone down so I textd him saying wel thanks for letting me know so is it over then and why you put the fone down and he replied "up 2 u dont give a f**k" so I said well you obviously don't care and he said well that's just say that. So I said well is it over and he said I didn't and I said well you just said you don't care weather it over and he said you seem like you want it be over. So I said no I would tell you and I the one trying sort it out so is it over or not ? And he said well going bed talk to you tomoz and I said well I want to know where I stand and he said going bed text u 2moz... and I don't know what to do and it's the weekend and I got a feeling he going cheat on me if we are still together ?

He said--you said and so on and so on. Young lady its really in your hands what you want to do. Do you want to be with a man that lies,cheats, and will even blame you for getting caught doing those things. You can't stop him from cheating, if someone is going to cheat that is part of their character it has nothing to do with how much the person they are with loves them or pleases them, they will cheat period. Come on do you want to put up with type of person, or would you like to have someone who really cares and that you can trust to be there because he wants to be by YOUR side and no other woman could fill that spot. Good luck

I Don't Know If He Has Cheated on Me But Can't Bring Myself To Finish Him Either Tho Because I Really Likee Him Like Really And I Don't Know What To Do

This entire teen drama is closed for chat/text spelling and a lot of things that are against the rules.

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/no-chat-speak-no-text-talk-303157.html