View Full Version : Does she even want me as her friend?
Corkyxx
Jul 24, 2010, 08:03 AM
Recently my friend has been 'off' with me I suppose, she ignores me in english because a supposedly 'better' friend is the other side of her and every time I ask her to go out it's the same excuse "my mum won't let me" but she went out with other friends with no problem
I'm really upset about all this though :( we don't even have decent conversations anymore, also we went to a theme park for our end of year trip, I asked her to go on a ride and said said "no i'm going on the all the rides with her" (the friend that sits the other side of her in english) that hurt me as well
I ask her sometime's as well "do you hate me?" we go into a heartfelt conversation but nothing changes and sometimes worsens
Also we've been friends for 3 years~
What can I do to stop this? Do I have to change to be more exciting?
I don't want to lose her :'(!
positiveparent
Jul 24, 2010, 09:00 AM
Can I ask how old you are please?
I can accept you're feeling a little left out, could you not become more friendly with someone else, or even the person your friend is spending more time with.
That way you'll both be friendly with same person.
You don't have to change to be more exciting just be yourself, and don't complain to your friend about her spending more time with someone else.
Everyone's allowed to have more than one friend, perhaps you could also make friends with other people too.
I can understand you're feeling hurt that your friend is maybe spending more time with the other person, but you can't do much about that you can't tell someone who they can be friends with, so I think it would be better for you if you spend some time making new friends, or getting into your studies more or after school activities. Just keep yourself busy and learn how to make friends with others.
I hope this helps, also really do need to know what your age is so we can offer the right kind of advice to you.
I have a feeling this would be better if posted on the teens forum.
Homegirl 50
Aug 8, 2010, 07:04 PM
You don't have to change who you are to be friends with someone. People have several friends at one time but if you feel you must change for another person, perhaps you would do better and make a new friend.
How old are you?
Kitkat22
Aug 8, 2010, 07:32 PM
Make new friends and have fun being young. You'll have many friends as you get older. Sometimes friends outgrow each other. It doesn't mean she doesn't like you, she just wants different friends.
talaniman
Aug 9, 2010, 05:55 AM
Your trying to hard to keep a friend who is not that friend back to you. Make better friends.
Corkyxx
Sep 10, 2010, 09:26 AM
Your trying to hard to keep a friend who is not that friend back to you. Make better friends.
I like your quotes :D
I'm not sure if this is how your reply but oh well xD I'm 14, and I am quite friendly with that other person (: but I can't really talk in english because she puts her back to me :( and she laughs a lot I feel like I was boring her or something, I understand she has other friends and stuff, I was one of her old friends, I'm trying to keep her as a friend.. its just really hard :'( she never replys to any convarstion starters anymore..
Homegirl 50
Sep 10, 2010, 10:00 AM
This girl is not your friend. Don't waste anymore time or emotion on her.
Corkyxx
Oct 4, 2010, 10:25 AM
She told me I'm not good enough for her now.. :/
talaniman
Oct 4, 2010, 10:50 AM
Then stop trying to be her friend, and get some REAL friends, who accept you being good enough just the way you are.
That's what real friends are about. That's not what she is about.
Homegirl 50
Oct 4, 2010, 12:25 PM
Then take that as clue and proof this girl is not worth the air you breathe.
Be done with this.
martinizing2
Oct 4, 2010, 01:40 PM
she told me i'm not good enough for her now.. :/
You have to learn when it's time to quit.
It's time.