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AneraMyode
Jul 24, 2010, 07:20 AM
I went out on a date Tuesday. I thought we had a good time. We ended up cuddling on his couch and watching TV (which I had no problem with especially since he was on call for his job at the hospital). He kept tickling me to get me to sit closer and like I said we cuddled. Also he kissed me! He put no other moves on me but he kept kissing me lol. I was like OK this guy is into me. So it was around 11 and he started yawning and I asked if I should go because he seemed tired. He said no half hour more you can stay.
When I left he said he would text me tomorrow... that was three days ago now...
But yesterday I text him and said "just wanted to say hi, you're probably sleeping. ttylr" (it was 12 am when I text him)
He replied "Sorry meant to text you yesterday but I've had 18 hr days here so far. How are U?"
I replied to him and said, "No worries, Go do what you need to do. Ttylr" and he hasn't responded back to me or talked to me.

I know he went on a business trip and then from there is on a mini vacation with his family.
What should I do? I don't want to keep texting him because I think that's annoying and clingy. Is he trying to like... ignore me? Lol so I'll go away? Lol please help!

redhed35
Jul 24, 2010, 07:43 AM
Stop texting and calling.

Imagine if you were working 18 hour days,what would be the first thing on your mind when you got home?

Sleep,food and more sleep.

Then he has a business trip on top of long days... can you see where I'm going.

Get busy with other things in your life,hit the gym see friends,keep busy.

If he is interested he will call,you don't have to waste time worrying about it or wondering about it.

Try and get into a frame of mind of 'if he calls he calls if he does not,well ill be fine'

I know its exciting when you meet someone and its looks promising,but let it unfold naturally,it will blossom or not,either way,YOU enjoy your life regardless.

Cat1864
Jul 24, 2010, 12:20 PM
How did you meet this man and how long did you know him before going out with him?

MissKnowitall
Jul 25, 2010, 01:33 PM
No he isn't ignoring you. He did reply. Different people have a different sense of time. If he has a demanding job, family life, then there is your answer.

Oh and he asked you a question, 'how are u?' and you didn't answer it. Sounds like he was trying to make an attempt at communicating but it may not be how you want it. Don't read into why or what people do or say. Just take it on face value. Esp with men.

Wait a week or so then see what he does. If he doesn't reach out to you then there is your answer but yeah, I wouldn't call. If he does call and asks you a question, answer him! :)

CageWalk
Jul 25, 2010, 06:07 PM
Uh...

Was the last thing you said to him - 'go do what you need to do and I'll talk to you later?'

If so, it's plainly evident that you 'dismissed' him. He asked you 'how are you' to open a line of communication and your answer amounted to 'go do something else, I'm busy right now'.

The ball is in your court to re-establish connection. If I asked a girl 'how are you' and she replied 'i'll talk to you later', then I will not be contacting her until she does.