View Full Version : Getting Married at 18 is it a good idea?
cookielover18
Jul 23, 2010, 07:10 PM
Hi,
Well I'm 18 years old and I am been dating my boyfriend and he ask me to get married with him he is 23 years old I love him and he loves me. I am a little sceared of going to be with him and live with him but I don't know if I should get married or not he said he will support me in my studies. The thing is I am like not 100% sure what should I do ?
ScottGem
Jul 23, 2010, 07:32 PM
How long have you been together?
oyster37
Jul 24, 2010, 01:16 PM
You it matters how long you have been together. Also if you're not ready don't do it. Being unsure can be a sign of unreadiness. If he says hell wait for you to be ready to get married then I think its worth it to stay with him. You could try expressing you're not ready for marriage at 18 if he won't wait then it's a good thing you didn't agree to do it.
These are just my ideas, don't use them if you don't feel they will be helpful. :) good luck!
Devorameira
Jul 24, 2010, 01:45 PM
NEVER do anything that you are unsure about.
Getting married is serious business, so you shouldn't get married just to make him happy - be sure you're making yourself happy first.
Why not tell him that you prefer to wait a couple years? He should understand... if he doesn't understand your feelings, then he's just not worth it.
positiveparent
Jul 24, 2010, 02:00 PM
Don't get married its obvious you're not in love with this person, and you also need to tell us how long you've been seeing him and why he's asked you to marry him.
I think you're far too young to get married, especially as you don't even know if its what you want.
lifeistough75
Jul 24, 2010, 05:21 PM
The fact that you had to ask the question should tell you whether it is the right thing to do or not. It is absolutely a horrific idea.
Alty
Jul 24, 2010, 05:35 PM
I have to disagree that it's obvious she's not in love with him. Saying no to a marriage proposal doesn't mean she's not in love, it just means she's not ready.
At 18 you have plenty of time to get married. Why the rush?
If you love him, than wait a few years, you'll still love him then.
Finish your studies, get a good job, become a bit more financially secure, and in a few years, if you still feel about him the way you do now, then you can plan to get married.
A lot can change when you're 18. Don't rush into it, there's no reason to.
Good luck.
Ithappenstoall
Jul 25, 2010, 01:37 AM
I agree with Altenweg, no need to rush if you are in love. You will have all the time in the world to spend together. Take your time and tell hi you love and you will be together. The longer you are with that person the more you will know if he is the right one.
You are also 18, and now begins a new chapter in your life, you start to discover change mature in different ways, o be patient a few more years