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icequeen88
Jul 23, 2010, 12:13 PM
Anybody answer this question HONESTLY.

What is your opinion of a claimed long distance relationship between a 24 year old and a 17/18 year old. Is that a real relationship or is he just playing with her because he can't find anyone else. First off, this is a rebound relationship on his behalf from a tough breakup). He and the 18 year old never lived near each other or had a regular close by relationship, They have been communicating for like 7 months now. He met her while going out of town for another reason. During those 7 months of their "So-called relationship" he saw her probably 2 or 3 times. This sounds awkward to me but I'd appreciate others opinions. Please be honest and straight forward. Oh, and she would say things like "True love has no boundaries, even if we're 200 plus miles apart" like she's so in love with him and they don't even see each other like that, only phone communication.


Please give me honest answers.. thank you.

redhed35
Jul 23, 2010, 12:24 PM
Can I ask are you or were you involved with him?

Is he an ex of yours?

At 18 she is an adult,she has to learn to make her own mistakes and find her own way.

Long distance relationships can be difficult,but if your on the outside and not privy to their conversations,you don't really know how they feel about each other or how they communicate.

Some long distance couples only see each other maybe twice or three times a year.

Two or three times on seven months would be pretty good.

They may break up or they may stay together,why your upset about it remains to be seen.

Jake2008
Jul 23, 2010, 02:48 PM
The 17 year old being with a 24 year old, regardless of what type of relationship, is a 7 year gap. If she were 24 and he were 31, that might not seem sooooo much, but, a teenager at this stage of development with an experienced man of 24 (bad breakup from prior relationship), seems questionable to me.

A few obvious questions and concerns are, is she a rebound, and if so, how immediate was their hookup.

Does she know his ex, and do you know him, or his ex.

How mature is she, and has she had any serious relationships or is he the first one.

200 miles is really nothing distance wise in this day and age. It's a 3-4 hour drive- just a guess- and an easy one to do after work on a Friday afternoon.

Is he employed? Is she still in high school? Are her parents aware of the relationship, and what do they think about it.

Would love to give you an honest answer, or a more honest answer, but, a little more detail would paint a clearer picture in order to do so.