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angel3854
Jul 21, 2010, 07:46 AM
My ex says she's not over me but is in a relationship already.. I accepted it but I want her back.. what do I do? I know it won't last.
jmjoseph
Jul 21, 2010, 07:48 AM
my ex says shes not over me but is in a relationship already.. i accepted it but i want her back.. what do i do? I know it wont last.
What "won't last"? With him? Or you?
kctiger
Jul 21, 2010, 07:51 AM
So while she is having sex with another guy you are completely satisfied with waiting until they break up so she can come back to you?
Why would you listen to someone tell you they aren't over you yet they continue to date another person? Doesn't that seem odd to you, like a major red flag!?
Move on and have your fun. Her actions clearly don't match her words.
angel3854
Jul 21, 2010, 08:10 AM
What "won't last"? With him? Or you?
The rebound relationship she's in won't last
angel3854
Jul 21, 2010, 08:12 AM
So while she is having sex with another guy you are completely satisfied with waiting until they break up so she can come back to you?
Why would you listen to someone tell you they aren't over you yet they continue to date another person? Doesn't that seem odd to you, like a major red flag!!??
Move on and have your fun. Her actions clearly don't match her words.
I def have a problem with her sleeping with another chic especially when she did it last night but tells me its not a relationship, smh. I'm so hurt and I just don't know how to get over this.
kctiger
Jul 21, 2010, 08:16 AM
It's natural to be hurt so no worries there. It isn't fair that you let her toy with your mind by giving you this false sense of security that she isn't over you. Cut all contact with her, grieve your loss and live your life. Easier said than done, but take it in baby steps.
You have to do what's best for you and that means making choices that don't always coincide with what's easy.
angel3854
Jul 21, 2010, 08:22 AM
It's natural to be hurt so no worries there. It isn't fair that you let her toy with your mind by giving you this false sense of security that she isn't over you. Cut all contact with her, grieve your loss and live your life. Easier said than done, but take it in baby steps.
You have to do what's best for you and that means making choices that don't always coincide with what's easy.
Thank you,I will try but I know she will try to come back, maybe this time will be different since she's moving out of state
talaniman
Jul 22, 2010, 10:22 AM
What a waste of time waiting for someone to come back to you while she is doing what she wants despite your feelings. Yes this one you let go, and do better next time. Get someone who wants to share with only you.
hidden123
Jul 22, 2010, 12:08 PM
Let her go and mess with someone else's head.
angel3854
Jul 22, 2010, 02:23 PM
You both are right, right now she's doing exactly that with the current chic and also I decided not to let her have the satisfaction of knowing how hurt I am behind it, she left me a message filled with I love yous , and regrets of hurting me... love doesn't hurt and if she was true to me then they'd be no regrets, so I just left it at telling her that I wish her the best. No use fighting a battle that I won't win nor chasing what doesn't want to be caught. I just hope that one day someone really loves me the way I should be loved and stops with the games. Thanks everyone.
hidden123
Jul 22, 2010, 02:30 PM
Good for you Angel3854.