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bluelove
Jul 19, 2010, 06:36 PM
So we met at college orientation. We spent almost the whole two days together and we immediately clicked. We started saying the same things at the same time and actually thinking the same things. He kept talking to me and never broke eye contact but he was always looking at me. I went back to his room that night and we cuddled all night and fell asleep. The next morning he was teasing me about hogging the pillow and we spent the rest of orientation together just hanging out and getting to know each other. And he never broke eye contact with me when talking.
We texted each other the next several days and I was stunned when he texted me. We talked on Facebook and he said he thinks I'm cute and he knows that I kind of like him already but he says he's not ready for a relationship right now. He understands that I got emotional about it but he said don't worry about it and he said I'll talk to you tomorrow. And we've been texting a lot.

Does he like me or should I wait for time to play things out?

Kitkat22
Jul 19, 2010, 06:49 PM
He's being honest. Just be friends and see what happens.

martinizing2
Jul 19, 2010, 06:53 PM
It sounds like he likes you. But you are rushing things a bit.
Keep in touch and let things play out. Don't rush it or put pressure on him . These things take time. Be patient.

Good Luck

I wish
Jul 19, 2010, 08:20 PM
No need to rush. Let things flow naturally.

bluelove
Jul 31, 2010, 11:02 AM
I'm really unsure how he feels about me. We've been texting each other for days now and I can't tell if he like me or not. He just told me last night that he'll probably start dating again once school starts or start flirting and he also said he's a very sexual person. He's been texting me about his job and how he hates it (and he just quit it today.) He would constantly about it and apologized to me last night that that's not who he really is. This is the same guy that cuddled with me and orientation and thought that I was cute. I can't tell what his motives are and if he is trying to just be friends or is waiting till school to start flirting with me again.
I feel so confused. I'm not sure if I should wait to see if he likes me or just forget the whole thing and just move on. How do I ask him if he still likes me or even has feelings? And I have no need to rush I just... need to reassure myself that things are going to work out.

talaniman
Aug 1, 2010, 08:58 AM
Then reassure yourself, and don't let your own insecurities get you so carried away that you ruin a friendship.

He likes you but doesn't know you well enough to make it a big deal. Instead of worrying whether he likes you or not, why don't you pay closer attention, and get to know HIM better so you don't foolishly give your heart to a fool who doesn't deserve it. Yeah I know, you clicked for two days, and you are all fuzzy inside, and anxious about what comes next. He has been honest, and you need to cope with your feelings, slow down, and relax, and see friendship, and NOT romance, or your NOT ready for him.

I will be honest, your rush to know more has you overlooking the obvious, he must like you, or why bother at all with you? But he is in no hurry, and neither should you be. Too much, too fast, crash and burn! Now relax, and pay attention. Let things develop, because, what's the hurry??

Kitkat22
Aug 1, 2010, 11:36 AM
Don't move to fast. If it's meant to be , it's going to happen.

shuz1001
Aug 2, 2010, 02:40 PM
Just let things flow. If its meant to be then its meant to be