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Denice88
Jul 12, 2010, 10:39 PM
I have been with my boyfriend for almost a year this Sunday would make one year. Yesterday something happened that I didn't like, My boyfriend and I were driving on the highway and we hear a car beeping there horn we didn't know who it was . We look to the right of us and we see a quetience of my boyfriend and I. She blew a kiss out the window of the vechile she was in like saying hi in a way but she was facing my boyfriend doing that. This other girl we know is a friendof us and the girl that blew the kiss is her sister that's how know her and I don't find it apporiate that that happened and we were having a nice day and this pops up with this girl .I can't stop thinking about it ever since and it 's not fair to either my boyfriend or me because we didn't expect it but I don't why this girl has to blow a kiss like that to my boyfriend I don't know know whatn to do or think ? Please help thank you
Wondergirl
Jul 12, 2010, 10:52 PM
Who was your boyfriend with -- you or her?
If something silly like this rocks your boat, how sturdy is the boat? Just laugh it off and remember he's with you.
(If you make an issue of things like this, your boyfriend is going to start wondering about you and yourself esteem. Be confident and self-assured, because the two of you have weathered a year now. Congratulations!)
TruthSayer0122
Jul 12, 2010, 11:25 PM
I agree
TruthSayer0122
Jul 12, 2010, 11:30 PM
It sounds like he has cheated on you. I have been cheated on once. After that little things can send you over. I don't think you are tripping (assuming that you are secure woman). It could be your gut warning you that something is not right. You didn't give much details but it has to be more to it like: you didn't like your bf's reaction or this girl has done other things. Listen to the warnings. I ignored redflags and I'm still paying for it. But I'm glad I learned it young.
talaniman
Jul 13, 2010, 09:38 AM
I think your making a mountain out of something that means nothing. Why should that ruin a good day? Ever think they were blowing you both a kiss?
This in my opinion is NOT worth a second thought, unless you're paranoid.
redhed35
Jul 13, 2010, 09:46 AM
You have no control over what other people do,your boyfriend has no control over what other people do,but,you have control over what you do!
Take it on the chin and be proud your with a guy who other girls notice,he's with you remember.
positiveparent
Jul 13, 2010, 09:59 AM
It was no more than a little harmless fun so don't make it into something its not, my friend and I used to do similar.
It meant nothing, unless you turn it into something, Relax chill out, it was only a harmless bit of fun.
Devorameira
Jul 13, 2010, 10:43 AM
Forget about it. They may have been just playing around.
He's with you, so why worry about something so small and insignificant?
Jake2008
Jul 14, 2010, 06:55 AM
Being jealous, and making a huge deal over something meaningless, is a sure fire way to put the fire out on any relationship.
What's next- he looks sideways at the cashier in the grocery store, and you don't like the way she looked at him, or talked to him. Or he dances with a girl at a party that you don't know, or God forbid- he actually has friends that are girls!! Horrors!!
Planting seeds of distrust, and implying inappropriate behaviour upon your boyfriend, where there is none, will leave you eventually alone with your insecurities, wondering what happened.
It might be a good idea to get a secure grip on this now, before you repeat this type of thinking in new relationships.
Really think about how you have reacted to this, or rather over reacted, and learn to recognize real trouble, not imagined trouble.
If I only had a dollar for every time I was wrong in judging the meaning of people's actions and words, I'd be off in my private speed boat in the French Riviera with Mick Jagger, having lunch.
ISneezeFunny
Jul 14, 2010, 07:02 AM
I agree with almost everyone here... cept TruthSayer. Can't say that because someone blew someone a kiss, that they've been intimate. I have female friends that kiss me on the cheek and my girlfriend doesn't care. It's just a greeting to some people.