Sooo domestic viloence between me and the father of my child. Taking him to court... his family is getting involved when they shouldn't... his brother and I where arguing and he said that my best friend and the father of my child slept together in a hotel room she paid for... I confront her about it she gets upset and says that it is not true. I confront him about it and he says his brother was just trying to start drama... then I talk with a few other friends and they tell me that while I was pregnant (my daughter just turned 1!) there was a rumor between our so called friends that they had messed around... never slept together but messed around... nobody knows for sure... I just don't know who to believe... my supposed "bestfriend" is upset with me because she thinks that I should think better of her and my hubby says that he would never (her father of her child and my hubby are VERY close friends). I am so upset that my "friends' would not tell me a rumor like this was going around... while I was PREGNANT!! God this is like my life at stake here in a way. What should I do? Who do I believe. FYI my "friends' would not tell me a rumor like this was going around....while I was PREGNANT!!! God this is like my life at stake here in a way. What should I do? Who do I beleive. FYI my " and I have been friends since we where 2... more like sisters... but in all honesty shie is a WHORE... slept with over 60 guys and she's only 24... I've had suspicions in the past... but never to this extent... they're both flirty people... but I would have never think this... What the hell am I to do?

Sorry but you don't exactly sound much of a best friend yourself, calling her a whore, her morals are her business, and as a friend its wrong to call her such names, you're basing all of this on rumours, your b/f told you its not true the best friend told you its not true, all you have are a few possibly catty females claiming this.

You've no real proof, you've been told same by the pair of them, you've known the friend all your life, so why are you even wasting your time on this. If and I say IF it should turn out this is true, then go all mean and start in with the bad mouthing, but whilst its no more than a rumour, you're making waves where there are none.

I would suggest you wait until you have facts not fiction, and then have your say, or you could very easily lose a friend as well as the b/f.

I also suggest you treat your friend nicer, and apologise to her.

Gossip and rumors are not facts to be tripping off. Don't lose a friend to such talk, or maybe the whole situation has you not knowing what to think.

I consider the source before I make rumors a fact, as many have a motivation to lie for their own sick reasons.

If the father of your baby abuses you, why do you give a rip to begin with.
That is just way too much drama and you are going through enough right now.
Me, I'd put them both on long hold.
The rumor may not be true, but it's based on something.
Remove the drama and let the air clear.

I'm more confused by the relationship between you and the father of your child.

In one sentence you say he abuses you and you're taking him to court;


Sooo domestic viloence between me and the father of my child. Taking him to court

And then you go on to call him your hubby and it sounds like you're still close, still talking;


my supposed "bestfriend" is upset with me because she thinks that I should think better of her and my hubby says that he would never

It shouldn't really matter what they did as it seems you're done with him, taking him to court, leaving him behind, which you should if he's abusive.

It's the past, and your future doesn't hold him in it anyway, so forget about it, it doesn't matter.

There's really nothing you can do or say at the moment, because all you have to go on is rumors with no proof.

Stay away from your child's father because it's obvious that he's a jerk and trust your best friend until you truly discover some facts that prove differently.

The sources are his brother and her sister in law

Leaving the father of my child after being together for 5 years. Never married. Really difficult period for me because the way it ended was in essence a result of domestic violence and infidelity. He wants to remain friends but I just don't think that we can be just friends. He has no place to stay so I told him he could stay with me until I move out of our home with our daughter who just turned 1! Not the greatest idea... we've already slept together again and he gets mad at the same stuff like when we where a couple... I know it's only thirty days and he has no where to go... but what do I do? Should we just get back together and attend counseling for the sake of our daughter or is it just time to move on and cut all ties? Although I'm not sure how that would work co-parenting.

You should never be with someone who is abusive. He has to move out, it's not your problem that he has nowhere to go. No, you can't be friends - you have to maintain some civility for the sake of you child, but that's it. Work out his visitation dates and file for child support, and move on with you life, to better men and greened pastures. This man sounds like a total waste to me.
Good luck.

I was a victim of physical and mental abuse, and it took me 2 years ago to move out and on. The only reason I left is because he beat me in fronta my son, and he was 10 months old. Ever since then I tried to be an adult and still stay cordial, but he makes it hard to.. now that I have moved on, he is now trying to get "involved" in his sons life when he's been absent for 2 years, and is only duing it because I got a good man who takes carea my son, and my son loves him. He only knows my boyfriend, and rarely ever sees his sperm donor. Its insane. I wish I could have been one the few people that can b OK with their ex, but we can't be. So in my opinion the answer is NO... sorry

This gives some more background information: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/possibility-best-friend-messed-around-maybe-even-slept-father-child-485900.html#post2423807

You are taking him to court. If that hasn't got him in counseling, I doubt co-habiting for a month will.

If you are moving out in 30 days, let him have the house then. Until such time, why can't he stay with friends or relatives?

Don't back down from doing what you know is right for you and your child.

Boot the bum out, its not your fault he has no where else to go.

Stay out of the bed with him for pete's sake! You can have a relationship with him without sexing with him.
Let him find someplace else to stay, he's grown, he's not a child.
Don't let this clown worm his way deeper into your heart. It is so not worth it.