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princess_devil
Jul 5, 2010, 09:38 AM
Here's the thing I'm a 16 yr old muslim girl. Round my area such as school and stuff girls like me are always out into things and so on, and honestly id loveto do that too but I cant. I have 2 olderbrother ones 22 and the other is 19, theyr always saying no I'm not allowed. Me frm wt I remember was always strong, my mum is a diabetic fr almost 23 years now and she suffers it at its last stage, I feel I've seen quiet sum fr my age, like e.g. I've seen my mum at her illest and no one has bin there apart frm me, I haven't even gt my own room because I sleep in my mumz room, her sugar goes low all of a suden at night and she strs to scream and I wake up 2 run dwn get her blood chek, along with suming sweet, and yh ill wait around till she's better and then get bk into bed. Honestly my mums put me to a lot of rsponsibilty such as I gta clean the house evryday, like the hoover has to be dun and evry other day has to be dun upstairs 2, the bathrm has to be wshed 2 and now that I have holidays from school there's always more 2 take care off. Now the thing is even though I hardly know any girls that du this stuff I find it hard 2 talk 2 people and socialise mre. My brothers don't understand how I feel just a little suffocated but to them I'm not allowed out, I can't put eyeliner on, sometimes with girls dressing up fr no reason or looking good cheers them up and I'm one of them buh they won't let me, I can't go out at all cz I'm a "yung pakistani girl" even if it was just down the road, I get that they wna protect me buh I can manage, I feel so scared because my older bro gets really mad and though I love both my brothers very much and care fr my mum a lot I can't get them 2 understand hw I trapped I feel. I ask fr a little time 2 myself and that's 2 much fr them I have no intention 2 du wrong thingz such as smoke or be looking for guys I really don't. I know there's a time fr relationships and I'm not looking for one I want space and I want them 2 know I can manage but they don't and it really gets to me, my mums always said to me that I want you to be the daughter that can manage all the house work and still be good at school and I am, I've always dun higher fr all my subjects and bin happy in all my classes but I wna be stres free. My hair has thinned out in these past 2 yearsbecause of crap at home, such as dad drinking mum and dad arguments, me being the one with the responsibility of the house, I even telll my mum I feel she has put 2 much on me 2 soon, and now all of a suuden I'm weak. I cry thinking about how I'm stuk at home it really gets to me its becum a sensitive spot along with well this Friday I have my prom, I gt my dress etc, my brothers are still dreading me 2 go and they come out with no eye liner, its nt like I really wna but a good answer why nt! I find it really unfair and my mst closest friend told me I need to be stronger hw do I be stronger, I hate being upset but they get to me, I'm so fed up,, I duno wt 2 du

lifegoeson
Aug 4, 2010, 09:57 AM
Hi princess devil
I know exactly what you are talking of, ma mother is diabetic for 20years... everyday she reminds me of how her'last wish' is to marry me off to a good guy and therefore I should study good,do household work,and maintain the honour of the family by not hanging around with friends... I live in india and parents and elder brothers here too are suffocatingly overprotective! Sometimes I wish to run away... but its actually not easy for a "girl" to live by herself...
So here is what I did-i pleased everyone,did exactly what they want... and side by side I am living a life which they are not aware of.
... I bunk ma college,save money,watch movies with friends,have joined dance classes on the pretex of extra lectures at college... (I too have no intentions of crossing the line,if you know what I mean)... so I call it ma innocent temptations!
What I am advicing you is that believe in yourself-life is not about getting the best,its about making the best..
In our case our mothers need us... do the household work with her.. talk to her.. watch TV with her.. most importantly-study while sitting with her!
Brothers are brothers,trust me,they love their younger sisters like no one else,yet sometimes I feel he is here to just prove that I am wrong and spoiled!let him be,don't expect him to understand your situation,just find a way around him... for example there has to be some friend that he approves of... just make him feel you like that friend mainly because he approves of it...
I too am tired of ma parent's fights... but at least in societies like ours a child can be a mere spectator... ignore them... find pleasure in small things... your favorite song on the radio can help!
Live your life your way,just don't declare it!
Be careful... make good friends and don't trust anyone blindly!