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My best friend and I have been friends since I was about eight,but I did not really know she had a crush on this guy since she like she was four(I don't want to put his name out,so will call him Chris)Anyway all almost all our fam as labeled them as a cople since they were little.But anyway I really didn't even know him that will,as we grew up I was around him more and might I add he is really a great looking guy I have never shared that tadbite with anyone else because I didn't know how anyone of my friends would react since her and I have the same friends.And everyone talks about how cute they are,or would be togther!!
Any way to make a long story short I really like him now,and they never really have dated anyway but one day we went to this picnic,and chris was there he kept looking at me and being my partner on all the games we played,and when lets just say she did not like that to well at all!! She didn't really say anything too much,but every time he would pick me she would tell him that I was her partner in the game and pick someone else.She is the loud type so you could hear her a mile a way I didn't want a weird monment of why chris keeps picking the same girl on every game so I went to her team.Anyway we lost bigtime(lol)Every one kept calling her over there to him to try to get the two to talk to eachother(EVERYONE BUT CHRIS! )Our older friend notice this and told him to come and ride to the store with her.
And he did I think he was just trying to be nice and since he didn't want to hurt my bestfriends feelings.My older friend and chris came back and she said he said he still like her now I didn't hear that out of chris mouth so I really don't know of that is true.And did I mention he told me he likes me and he was about tell me something else but I had to go.No one else heard us talking but after about to days later my best friend and I were walking.And out of know where she tells me she still has feeling for him,and stuff like that as a best friend I just let her talked about how she felt about him.I didn't even tell her what he told me, I was like OK I'am sure you two will be such a cute couple and stuff like that,but in the endside I felt hurt and that why for once why can't I have what I want.But I did not let her no that.She was talking about a fam with him and stuff like that and since I'am going to college for fashion/and I do a little modeling to,anyway she would love for me to doing there wedding! But its not like that would happen anytime soon were not old enough yet.And I highly doubt they would ever get married!?
But with if I end up being the girl who ends up do her lovers and best friend wedding OMG! Last Friday we both gave our other friend a much needed makeover she is 17 but dress like she's 80 no joke!! Any way when I got to my friends house I did not even know his mom would be the one taken us lord be hold when she pulls up he is the vehicle(I think I spelled that right if not sorry lol)He is looking Hotter that ever lol I can tell he is looking at me,and I have this thing if I know a guy is checking me out I have a bad tendecy to blush a little hoped know one noticed.But anyway we had a fun time and my friends makeover is just what she needed.
She is chris's because.I could tell he had just left football practice he had on his work out clothes,like most guys he did not want to go shopping with a bunch of girls.But I made him holed a lot of the clothes.It was like we were flirting and he didn't he care who noticed.I on the other hand did!! (She is my best friend not he's)We hadn't seen each other since school so it was great to see him! (We go to the same school I'am on the volleyball/danceteam)He is all football,and my best friend goes to another school she is on the basketball team and the other friend goes to the same school has chris and I but she doesn't do anything outside of just class work.Chris and my best friend are one grade ahead of me.So what should I do should I remove my feelings from the hole thing and let my best friend have her way with him,or should I even tell my best friend how I feel about him,I know she would not like this news at all.
And should I let chris know I feel the same way back,and what about the fact I could maybe lose my best friend I really don't think I would but I'am not forsure,it seems every time I'am with him I'am so happy and I don't have a care except for one and that is my best friend.I don't want anyone getting hurt over this but don't I have the right to be happy to,and I don't even know what my fam to thing I don't want to end up being "THAT GURL"(Sorry for the long post I hope I get a lot of feed back on what you everyone thinks about this!!

You will learn as you mature more, that the decisions you make now, will reflect your own moral compass down the road.

If your personal standards are at a crossroads right now- feeling a betrayal toward your friend, yet, wanting to pursue the boy she clearly is interested in- then let your own scruples decide what to do.

And I think you know what that is.

The thing is, when you start compromising, and justifying your own behaviour, you sort of lower your own standards, and the next time around, it gets easier and easier in different situations.

I have never, or would ever, put a boyfriend, or possible boyfriend, above a friendship.

True friends are forever. Boys will come and go and if you betray her.. You will be the loser.

I was haven a great time yesterday it was the 4th and all and was parting it up with a few friends.My best friend was away for the weekend so I hanged with peple I hadn't heard from in a long time.(Side note if you have read my frist post wich is My best friend crush you would understand)Anyway it was getting late and Chris was their!Anyway I have this big crush on him,so I was happy he was their.
One of my good friends had brought me to the party and was ready to go home and I wasn't.So chris overheard us talking and he insisted that he could take me.(I wanted to see the firework show)Anyway she left few hours before the show started,Now here is where it went wrong!Chris and I walked down to the show it was getting a litte cooler so he put his jacket around me.
After awhile he put his arms around me and he turned me to him and he kissed me! And he a really nice guy he picked me up and took me to the car.Nothing else happened we just seemed to not stop kissing each other,anyway he drove me home and once again kissed me goodnight.You see (If the you didn't read the first post you would think I had the pefect night,and I did but it was with my bestfriends crush)
Its not like they ever dated it was just a lot of flirting on both parts.This crush thing has gone on for years the crush is more so in her head than his.So now what should I do?Should I tell her what happened,(but all we did was kiss)I just don't know what to do other people seen us kiss that night to but prob to drunk to remember,and no I was not drinking (not old enough yet)
Am I a crush stellar or what?But I think I should tell her because she should hear it first from me right?And if she is really mad I'll never,ever do it again.And I'll just have to let him go.I don't understand oh I of all people ended up in the middle if this.(Should I take the chance of ending up with nothing?)

Tell your friend,come clean and be honest.

There is a unwritten rule with girl friends,and that's you don't go after your best friends boyfriend or her crush.

It's a tough one,and she will be hurt,but she may say,fair enough,if you want him and he wants you,go for it... then again she may not.

My advice,come clean and be honest.