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mits05
Jul 3, 2010, 11:39 PM
Hi All,
This is very first posting on any social networking site on my personal issue, but I have decided to go for this as I was very much upset with the kind of situation which is building around me.
I am in a serious relationship with a girl for last 5years and she is not from my cast (she is from extreme north & I am from extreme south India) and elder to me by one and half year, my and her parent are completely against the marriage as I am the only son & our parent are very conservative. I am ready to against my parent wish but I am skeptical about her as she do not want to go against her parent wish or mine. My parents have not met her yet.
My mom has taken stand that if I want to marry her I should get married at court and she will not stay with us & she will not accept her ever.
Both of us earning good & I have bought new flat to tackle any issue, but I don't know how to convince our parent or my girlfriend.

Thanks in advance.

Regards,
Mits

talaniman
Jul 4, 2010, 07:46 AM
After 5 years, and no blessings from either parents, its up to convincing your girlfriend to want to marry you any way. The only thing I can suggest is appealing to both families in PERSON, and stating your case. Will she agree for YOU to meet HER parents?

Fr_Chuck
Jul 4, 2010, 07:57 AM
You need to sit down in person with her and both of you make a choice, the parents may never, never ever accept. You and her have to decide now, to continue or move on.

You can not force anyone to accept things they are against

mits05
Jul 22, 2010, 08:57 AM
Thanks Chuck & Talaniman for your suggestion but you know it's very difficult to do that because the thought of losing her is very painful... I don't want loose her at any cost

mayurm777
Sep 21, 2011, 10:21 AM
Don't think a lot about it my dear friend. Just get married with that girl but please I suggest you that don't marry her in court,marry her with our all traditional way. I mean to say marry her with all mantra,fire,n all traditional ceremony.B'coz all these mantra help for your goodness, trust me it really works. Don't worry when you both will have your cute small baby both families forget everything but you have to plan that how u'll make them to forget. Don't worry you are not alone m with you bcoz I'm also in same condition.If you need any suggestion and help you can call me on 9096827785
Wishing both of you all d Best. We all are doing great job of changing mentality of our society and proving that humanity is greater than any religion and cast.