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prettycolorado14
Jul 1, 2010, 06:16 PM
I was in a relationship with someone for 10 years and he broke up with me, The timing was suspicious it seemed to happen when my money ran out. We were best friends and did everything together. And out of no where I was out. It was like he never knew me or met me before. Then I find out he cheated on me constantly. Ever since the break up my life has turned into a complete struggle. His life has been nothing but a vacation literally. There is so much detail to this story that I am leaving out but, he's a 28 yr old that mooches off his parents and the new girls he dates he doesn't have a job. But he is in such a delusion that he thinks he is this healthy person and life has blessed him with so much great stuff since it has ended. This new girl is being completely lied to and he thinks he has landed this great well-to-do person, but she knows nothing about him. I want to know if it is wrong to let her know he is a lying creep. He has had no Karma for ruining my life. I have a receipt showing that he has bought condoms and lube with his mom's credit card. I also have a lot of other evidence that would prove he is a total sick creep. You see he thinks because this girl has so much going for her it makes him feel okay, and that he isn't this bad guy. He shows it off. Is this wrong to do?? What is the pros and cons. I'm just so mad. I don't want him back in any way. I just want him to know what it feels like to have someone mess with your life.

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Well the other evidence I have is an email from the last girl he used, telling him in great detail why he is so f-d up. That was something I was going to forward on to her. Is that wrong? It really would seal the deal.


He gets money from his mom who he as manipulated into helping him, his dad pays his rent and he has roomates that pay him that is another resource. His mom only gives him $680 a month, but he also bought a chili's card with her credit card behind her back. And she pays for a gas card. He tells the new g/f that he makes money doing professional disc golfing which he doesn't and he does landscaping which he doesn't do. She lives an hour a way so she doesn't see his day to day life of smoking pot and doing nothing. He acts all healthy and cool because she is this college grad who has a great job, he uses her accomplishments as his. It's gross.

But I have people telling me not to do this. I am just tired of him getting away with this delusion and sure he will find someone else but he feels he is on top of the world with his new one. I just want him to be embarrassed for a change.

Kitkat22
Jul 1, 2010, 06:29 PM
She probably wouldn't believe you.
He probably has her as brainwashed as he had you.
Let her find out herself and she will.

Men and women like him always show their true colors. I'm sorry you are so upset.

talaniman
Jul 1, 2010, 08:17 PM
Its not for you to decide when he will get his, but your zeal for revenge is understandable, but misguided and distracting you from seeing a bigger picture about yourself.

Your act to get revenge makes you a person like he is. Hateful, and selfish.

A better revenge would be to let go of the hate and find happiness without him.

Just because he is a loser doesn't mean you have to be. Trust me, he WILL get his, just don't be around for it to get you too.

Kitkat22
Jul 1, 2010, 08:21 PM
Its not for you to decide when he will get his, but your zeal for revenge is understandable, but misguided and distracting you from seeing a bigger picture about yourself.

Your act to get revenge makes you a person like he is. Hateful, and selfish.

A better revenge would be to let go of the hate and find happiness without him.

Just because he is a loser doesn't mean you have to be. Trust me, he WILL get his, just don't be around for it to get you too.




Very good advice from Tal... he is right. Revenge isn't what you need right now. Get over the hate and I will say this, I believe with all my heart when someone hurt someone on purpose.. it comes back ten times worse to them.

By that time, you won't feel anything but pity for him.
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