View Full Version : What if your best friend wants to have sex
Denisse.V
Jun 30, 2010, 02:12 PM
My best friend who's a guy wants to have sex. I've already done it a year before and he knows. He hasn't but he tells me he wants to with me really badly because he just wants to loose it already that he's tired of lying to people he had sex and how its not good that he's still a virgin at 16 and me not at 14. He says it won't change anything between us and He made me promise not to tell anyone and I made him promise.We both don't have a boyfriend or girlfriend and we don't really like anyone either.So I just want to know if he likes me or it really is he just wants to get it over with? And if we should? Because I don't mind and it's a one time thing so I don't things will change.
cdad
Jun 30, 2010, 03:13 PM
Forget about it. Things will change if you do. Also you could have a baby just from one time. You should have waited. Don't keep making the same mistake. Also you should care. Why do you want to cheapen yourself?
Denisse.V
Jun 30, 2010, 03:16 PM
Even with protection?
cdad
Jun 30, 2010, 04:54 PM
Denisse.V : even with protection?
There is no 100% protection other then not doing it at all. How old are you? From your post it could also be illegal.
talaniman
Jun 30, 2010, 05:31 PM
No way, having sex is not a game to be played, or a favor to grant. Are you crazy or something?? If it means so little to you why not do all the fellows a favor and make sure they don't have to deal with being a virgin.
Neither of you knows enough about what your doing to be doing anything. This isn't an MTV video or something!!
macdoncl
Jul 6, 2010, 04:02 PM
Denisse.v, your body isn't something that should be given away so cheaply. And I can guarantee that things will change between you and your friend. Sex is a very emotional act and is meant to create a bond between two people. Take pride in yourself and remember that you are a valuable young lady and deserve the best that any guy has to offer. Don't sell yourself short and offer it up to anyone. Your friend should also know that there's absolutely nothing wrong with being a virgin at any age. It's nothing to be ashamed of and he should instead be proud. I wish you the best.
Fr_Chuck
Jul 6, 2010, 04:10 PM
Sorry first being a virgin at 16 is something to be proud of, so he should not have to lie, but if he does, so is over 3/4 of the guys giving their stories.
And while you made some choices at 14 to have sex, it is not something that 14 year olds need to be doing either.
And if you are friends, it will change everythig
ScottGem
Jul 6, 2010, 04:13 PM
No one should engage in sexual intercourse unless they are physically, financially and emotionally ready to have a baby. End of story.
Kitkat22
Jul 6, 2010, 05:49 PM
If you do this, you will lose your best friend. Things don't just go back to normal after having sex.
Being a virgin is something he should be proud of and something you should have saved for the right one.
Where is the guy you had sex with?
I'm sorry to be harsh, but you will
Wish someday you had that moment back.
Think about this before you do something you will regret. Don't keep on making bad decisions.