View Full Version : What should I do?
peterrrr
Jun 30, 2010, 08:41 AM
k, so there's this girl that I used to like. I asked her out over the internet (a year ago) - which was stupid, I know - and obviously got rejected. But since I know her from swimming (training), I eventually started talking to her (a long time after) and started getting to know her. It was good and all and she said that we should see each other after swimming ends (summer vacation). So we started textin each other and setting up a "date". Or at least what I thought was a date. But on my way to her place she called me and told me there was a change of plans and that we'd be hanging out with her friends. That was kind of a bummer for me.. anyway nothing happened between me and her as we are just friends so far.
But what do you think should I give it another try? Ask her out one more time or just let it go ?
Thanks for your help.
talaniman
Jun 30, 2010, 12:43 PM
No, why bother with someone who rather be doing other things. Once you have made your interests know, its rude to cancel at the last minute.
You can remain polite, and even friendly when you meet, but you are no longer available for anything else with her.
That twice she has rejected you. So chase er no more. She had her chance, so withdraw gracefully with no more said.
I wish
Jun 30, 2010, 01:40 PM
You can try again. But if she rejects you a third time, does that mean that you're going to contemplate a fourth time?
Katt1997
Jun 30, 2010, 01:53 PM
First of all, if you have expressed your feelings for her and she says no, then she says yes later, then goes back towards just being friends, I think she's a person to change her mind. That makes it safe for you to try again, just wait and hopefully the time will come. Hope this helps.
Cat1864
Jun 30, 2010, 03:14 PM
This sounds like two young people trying to figure out how relationships begin.
Are you sure you weren't crossing signals or that she was comfortable with a one-on-one date? What about her parents? (summer vacation implies that you are both still in school and somehow I don't think it is college.)
Have you told her how you feel or have you implied that you 'like' her?
This may be a good time to learn good communication skills in a relationship (a friendship is still a relationship.) Talk with her in person or on the phone and forget the texting. If you can't talk in person and get the physical cues, vocal ones are better than texts which can cause all kinds of miscommunication.
If you still feel like she is playing games, you don't have to play. Another lesson is how to accept that some relationships just aren't meant to start.