View Full Version : Why can't he love me
naahid
Jun 26, 2010, 01:52 AM
I am so desperately sad, my partner of almost 9 years was prescribed a course of testosterone injections in March. Since having this his character has changed dramatically and he now says he no longer feels love for me and has ended our relationship. I just cannot function without him, he is my life. Please help me, he will not accept that this drug can change behaviour and says I am using the meds as an excuse, I truly am not but there was no other reason for this breakup, on Saturday we were happy laughing, loving, then on Sunday he ended it, please help me
talaniman
Jun 26, 2010, 07:16 AM
Why has he been taking these injections in the first place? How old are you?
naahid
Jun 26, 2010, 07:20 AM
My partner is 41 and he has been having the injections for testosterone deficiency, he is very tall and heavy.
It was prescribed to help his energy levels,he also suffers from depression .
positiveparent
Jun 26, 2010, 10:22 AM
But testosterone is the male hormone so I can't see how that would effect him in this way.
Has he been back to his Doctor and told him/her about this.?
naahid
Jun 26, 2010, 10:26 AM
But testosterone is the male hormone so I can't see how that would effect him in this way.
Has he been back to his Doctor and told him/her about this.??
Apparently dosage of testosterone can cause a hormonal imbalance and create changes in behaviour, I have asked him to discuss it with his doctor but he doesn't seem to think it's a problem... obviously because he doesn't see the changes... just other people do. I really don't know what to do... I just love him to death, I am not functioning at all
talaniman
Jun 26, 2010, 12:29 PM
As devastating as this has been, I think its more important that you get to a place that ALLOWS you to function without him.
Until he addresses his issues, the correct way, there will be no improvements in his actions, attitudes, or condition. You still must carry on anyway.
More than likely he is going through the male version of "menopause", what we refer to as the "mid-life crisis", and yes we males go through this, but its not supposed to be long lasting but does bring about weird behavior as we adjust to the aging process.
naahid
Jun 26, 2010, 12:40 PM
As devastating as this has been, I think its more important that you get to a place that ALLOWS you to function without him.
Until he addresses his issues, the correct way, there will be no improvements in his actions, attitudes, or condition. You still must carry on anyway.
More than likely he is going thru the male version of "menopause", what we refer to as the "mis-life crisis", and yes we males go thru this, but its not supposed to be long lasting but does bring about weird behavior as we adjust to the aging process.
Thank you for your answer, maybe it's a combination of the two things, in your opinion do people get back to normal feelings after this male menopause? Or is it a long lasting thing that never quite comes to a conclusion>
positiveparent
Jun 26, 2010, 04:23 PM
From what I have seen and heard of the "male menopause" the males effected by it buy motorbikes and chase scantily clad young girls around, spend all their hard earned cash trying to look 20 again. LOL
Does this sound like your b/f, it so let him go...
naahid
Jun 26, 2010, 04:33 PM
from what I have seen and heard of the "male menopause" the males effected by it buy motorbikes and chase scantily clad young girls around, spend all their hard earned cash trying to look 20 again. LOL
Does this sound like your b/f, it so let him go...
Lol... no nothing like him at all, I think that might be easier to cope with!
talaniman
Jun 27, 2010, 05:56 AM
I don't think it lasts any longer than the female version, and we all go through it in different ways. Some are more dramatic than others though. Not saying this is the case, as he may just be adjusting to his meds, and that's why its important to communicate with his doctor. If he doesn't the doctor can't make adjustments. I would give him some time though, for the sake of your own adjustments, that YOU have to make.
naahid
Jun 27, 2010, 06:07 AM
I don't think it lasts any longer than the female version, and we all go thru it in different ways. Some are more dramatic than others though. Not saying this is the case, as he may just be adjusting to his meds, and thats why its important to communicate with his doctor. If he doesn't the doctor can't make adjustments. I would give him some time though, for the sake of your own adjustments, that YOU have to make.
Thank you for all your help and advice I will try as hard as I can