TheCompromiser
Jun 23, 2010, 11:48 AM
I've always been really close with my grandmother. Or so I thought. You have to constantly have to walk on eggshells with her for many reasons. If ever you disagree with her, she will argue in a way that makes you feel guilty (like now you have to make it up to her for disagreeing) and give a stupid reason that you cannot argue with because she has made her opinion a fact, and made false connections. So, you literally have to just not argue or disgree with her, ever! She's taken a couple of psychology classes, and because of it, she thinks she's a psychiatrist! She hires therapist, and fires them if she doesn't like their answers. Plain and simple, completely unable to reason with!
I must say, I am close only with her, my father (her son), and maybe an aunt or two from my mothers side. I'm getting married in a matter of months, and everyone's happy for me, including her. She came to visit us (my fiance- Robert and I) a couple of weeks ago, for a week. I was having troubles with my inlaws, and decided to talk about it to her when Robert was at work. She was saying I didn't need to take it, and I needed to call them out on it, and even I was like, whoa! I was thinking about it in a bit more passive way. But after she made me believe it was that or the marriage would never work, I was talking to Robert about it. He always says that's just how his parents are, and my grandma takes his side immediately! I was repeating what she said to me earlier, and she completely denied ALL of it! Then the rest of the trip was me trying to avoid the topic, and trying to be polite.
Then she starts giving relationship advice, attacking how I treat Robert. Me and him have never had a serious argument in our three years together, and now I'm doing something wrong?And even Robert was confused saying I wasn't like that at all. Then she just keeps arguing how our relationship needs to change. Oh did I mention she's been married 9 times!
Then when she left and I talked to her on the phone later, she told me Robert was Manipulative with his logical thinking, has a hatred for women because of his mothers passive-aggressive behavior, and it completely selfish because he doesn't stand up for me against his parents! I stood up for him, but yet again she used her guilty tricks! By the way, her last husband was extremely guilty for these behaviors!
Then I hear from my dad (who has never met Robert) that she is telling him the same bull!
I'm so pissed at her! AND I can't tell her!
She always told me she gives people three strikes before she removes them from her life.. But I really don't want to..
Does anyone have any advice?
I must say, I am close only with her, my father (her son), and maybe an aunt or two from my mothers side. I'm getting married in a matter of months, and everyone's happy for me, including her. She came to visit us (my fiance- Robert and I) a couple of weeks ago, for a week. I was having troubles with my inlaws, and decided to talk about it to her when Robert was at work. She was saying I didn't need to take it, and I needed to call them out on it, and even I was like, whoa! I was thinking about it in a bit more passive way. But after she made me believe it was that or the marriage would never work, I was talking to Robert about it. He always says that's just how his parents are, and my grandma takes his side immediately! I was repeating what she said to me earlier, and she completely denied ALL of it! Then the rest of the trip was me trying to avoid the topic, and trying to be polite.
Then she starts giving relationship advice, attacking how I treat Robert. Me and him have never had a serious argument in our three years together, and now I'm doing something wrong?And even Robert was confused saying I wasn't like that at all. Then she just keeps arguing how our relationship needs to change. Oh did I mention she's been married 9 times!
Then when she left and I talked to her on the phone later, she told me Robert was Manipulative with his logical thinking, has a hatred for women because of his mothers passive-aggressive behavior, and it completely selfish because he doesn't stand up for me against his parents! I stood up for him, but yet again she used her guilty tricks! By the way, her last husband was extremely guilty for these behaviors!
Then I hear from my dad (who has never met Robert) that she is telling him the same bull!
I'm so pissed at her! AND I can't tell her!
She always told me she gives people three strikes before she removes them from her life.. But I really don't want to..
Does anyone have any advice?