helpfulness
Jun 22, 2010, 06:43 PM
Hello. :]
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and 2 months but the problem is, most of the time it is a long distance relationship. The distance started last school year when he left for college.. 12 hours away. To make matters worse it is a military university, which for most of the year meant no phone calls, I'm, or anything besides e-mails and letters. Dating him while he was so far away is one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. I missed him sooo much that I didn't even want to eat because I was too caught up in missing him. (Pathetic sounding I know!) He was my everything and when he left I felt crushed.
However, now he is home for summer and is lives only 5 miles from my house. (yay!) I thought that it would mean things would go back to how they were before but apparently I was wrong. We rarely see each other, he mostly only talks to me if I text or call him first, and it seems we have just grown apart over the year. It used to be, when he came home for breaks, that when we would see each other there was this spark, like an instant realization that the wait to see each other was worth it, but now that seems to be gone. We still love each other but it is not the same thing.
I have been praying over this for awhile and came to the conclusion that I needed to break up with him, so I did. It lasted for two days and then he texted me saying he wanted to get together and talk so we could figure things out. We got together yesterday and talked about EVERYTHING. He told me that he would give up everything to make it work between us.. and I could tell he meant it. We decided to get back together and try and see if it works when we both are in college. (I am going into my freshman year and he his sophomore) Also, he decided that he will make more time for me so that we can make things work. (In fact we are getting together tomorrow)
However, today I am starting to wonder if this is the wrong decision. I love him, I really do, but I am not sure if it is the kind of love that is strong enough to last this long term distance. If it were just my 4 years of college that we would be apart then maybe, but it's more than that. He is already under contract so I would have to wait until his 4 years of active service are up too. That is 7 years of my life waiting! I don't know if I can do 7 years of waiting for someone, especially if we have already grown apart after one. On the other hand though, just the thought of never seeing him again, never holding his hand walking down the street, never going swimming in the lake with him, makes me want to cry. I spent the two days we were apart crying whenever a love song came on and was living my life in a daze. Yet at the same time I don't want to make myself go through what I went through last year year after year. I do not know if he is the one I want to marry and it makes me wonder if it is worth all of this pain to make it work. What do you think? (Don’t tell me what you think I want to hear, I want the truth.)
My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 year and 2 months but the problem is, most of the time it is a long distance relationship. The distance started last school year when he left for college.. 12 hours away. To make matters worse it is a military university, which for most of the year meant no phone calls, I'm, or anything besides e-mails and letters. Dating him while he was so far away is one of the hardest things I have ever done in my life. I missed him sooo much that I didn't even want to eat because I was too caught up in missing him. (Pathetic sounding I know!) He was my everything and when he left I felt crushed.
However, now he is home for summer and is lives only 5 miles from my house. (yay!) I thought that it would mean things would go back to how they were before but apparently I was wrong. We rarely see each other, he mostly only talks to me if I text or call him first, and it seems we have just grown apart over the year. It used to be, when he came home for breaks, that when we would see each other there was this spark, like an instant realization that the wait to see each other was worth it, but now that seems to be gone. We still love each other but it is not the same thing.
I have been praying over this for awhile and came to the conclusion that I needed to break up with him, so I did. It lasted for two days and then he texted me saying he wanted to get together and talk so we could figure things out. We got together yesterday and talked about EVERYTHING. He told me that he would give up everything to make it work between us.. and I could tell he meant it. We decided to get back together and try and see if it works when we both are in college. (I am going into my freshman year and he his sophomore) Also, he decided that he will make more time for me so that we can make things work. (In fact we are getting together tomorrow)
However, today I am starting to wonder if this is the wrong decision. I love him, I really do, but I am not sure if it is the kind of love that is strong enough to last this long term distance. If it were just my 4 years of college that we would be apart then maybe, but it's more than that. He is already under contract so I would have to wait until his 4 years of active service are up too. That is 7 years of my life waiting! I don't know if I can do 7 years of waiting for someone, especially if we have already grown apart after one. On the other hand though, just the thought of never seeing him again, never holding his hand walking down the street, never going swimming in the lake with him, makes me want to cry. I spent the two days we were apart crying whenever a love song came on and was living my life in a daze. Yet at the same time I don't want to make myself go through what I went through last year year after year. I do not know if he is the one I want to marry and it makes me wonder if it is worth all of this pain to make it work. What do you think? (Don’t tell me what you think I want to hear, I want the truth.)