Alrightyyy... Sorry that it's so long.. XD

BACKSTORY:
So right now, I am 15 and so is she. We've been nest friends for about 4 years now. We tell each other everything.. And I mean everything. I've never really been sure of my sexuality. I always figured I was straight and just had a girl-crush on her. But I've been noticing myself checking out other girls. So we've both came out to each other as being bi.. and I kind of realized that I did have feeling for her.
One night she came over and spent the night and we ended up makingout both a few times that night and a few times in the morning.
A month or so later, I went to a Relay for Life and met her there. Most of the night we walked around holding hands and we were always together and she kept taking me to private places (as private as a middle school track at night is lol :) ) and I kind of thought she wanted to kiss, but I wasn't sure so I didn't go for it.. But later on we ended up kissing real quick in the tent.
And for the big deal here...
She came over and spent the night last weekend so she could come to school with me in the morning to attend my school's regents review class that afternoon(she goes to a different school). Well.. The night before, we were just joking around and she says she was going to turn the TV off so it's dark. And we had a little. "Do you want it dark?" "Do you want it dark?" "Maybe.. Do you?" "Maybe... "
Well we turned off everything and the only light was my alarm clock. Aaand we ended up makingout.. Intensely. After a little bit, we decided to go to bed, and she started kissing me again. It might've just been an in-the-moment thing, but she ended up on top of me topless, and I wasn't wearing my top either. It was full-out making out. Tongue, neck, nipples.. All that.
She almost got her hand down my pants, but I had to stop her.. Due to that time. D: We kept up what we were already doing and I looked at the clock and we had been going at it for a good 20-25 minutes.
After we were done and just laying there, she was asking like "I wonder how far we would've gone.." etc.

THE QUESTION:
Okay, so she already knew I loved her, because I let it slip while I was reeallllyyyy tired and not watching what I was saying. And I ended up asking her "What are we?"What are we?"Huh? What do you mean?"Huh? What do you mean?"I mean, like, are we.. friends? More than friends? Friends with benefits?"I mean, like, are we.. friends? More than friends? Friends with benefits?"Do you want to be friends with benefits?"Do you want to be friends with benefits?"... For now.. Until we can drive at least." She seemed a little upset, but I don't know.
When I said that, I mean that I don't want to be dating her and rarely see each other. I want to be able to take her out on.. well.. dates! XD

So anyway.. I'm just.. Do you think she likes me the same way? Or was it just a friendly benefit of both being bi and keeping our mouth shuts? And if we end up discussing it soon (she left a lot of things at my house.. so she should be here soon, lol) what do I tell her? D: Bahhhhhh... So many things!

Well. Thank you for taking the time to read and answer. :)

At 15 you could just be experimenting, and in a little while you'll get into boys, or do you already think you are a lesbian?

Many young girls have crushes on other girls and many experiment sexually with each other.

However this could be more than that or it might not.

Time will tell.

Quite honestly she was probably just living in the moment and you may have frightened her when you started asking all those questions. I assume coming out of the closet is hard for more then just one reason. You seem to be OK with it. She seems OK with it too, but as long as there is no string attatched.

Apparently the both of you have feelings towards one another. However, you are both very young and don't know what a real relationship is or even know what those types of "feelings" are. Maybe she is just experimenting. Both of you are starting to get to that age where sex is starting to show up.

My advise.. just take it as it comes. 15 year olds.. or any type of teenager doesn't need to be in any type of committed, sexual relationship.

Be careful...

At 15 you could just be experimenting, and in a little while youll get into boys, or do you already think you are a lesbian?

Many young girls have crushes on other girls and many experiment sexually with each other.

However this could be more than that or it might not.

Time will tell.

Both me and her are pretty sure of ourselves now. I really don't think it matters what gender whoever I fall in love with. She's constantly telling me how s are ugly and just.. blahh.. And I agreed with her. It's like I like girls sexually. I can look at a girl and say, "omg she's so hot!" but that doesn't happen as often with guys for me. Like we're both bi and starting to lean more towards girls, but with the occasional "oh he's hot" guy. Hehe

If you have more questions on this, just ask. :)

Quite honestly she was probably just living in the moment and you may have frightened her when you started asking all those questions. I assume coming out of the closet is hard for more then just one reason. You seem to be ok with it. She seems ok with it too, but as long as there is no string attatched.

Apparently the both of you have feelings towards one another. However, you are both very young and dont know what a real relationship is or even know what those types of "feelings" are. Maybe she is just experimenting. Both of you are starting to get to that age where sex is starting to show up.

My advise.. just take it as it comes. 15 year olds.. or any type of teenager doesnt need to be in any type of commited, sexual relationship.

Be careful...


I'm sure it was an in the... 30 minute moment.. heheh. But I felt the question needed to be asked.. You don't really almost go for it with someone when you're unsure of the relationship status.. When I said "I think we're just friends with benefits" she did seem a little upset at first, but she perked up when I added the little "for now." Really it's.. Is the chance she has the same feelings high? :confused:

You'd be surprised who would "go for it" and not be 100% into that person.

Maybe asking if the both of you are friends with benefits did upset her because she doesn't want to be in that type of relationship. Maybe she is looking for something a bit more serious. Maybe she doesn't want to think of you as the friend she hooks up with when she needs something. There could have been a lot going through her mind, its hard to say.

She could very well have the same feelings for you. The only way you're going to find out is if you ask her.

Just take it slow. You have a lot of life to live. Don't rush it.

You'd be surprised who would "go for it" and not be 100% into that person.

Maybe asking if the both of you are friends with benefits did upset her because she doesnt want to be in that type of relationship. Maybe she is looking for something a bit more serious. Maybe she doesnt want to think of you as the friend she hooks up with when she needs something. There could have been a lot going through her mind, its hard to say.

She could very well have the same feelings for you. The only way you're going to find out is if you ask her.

Just take it slow. You have a lot of life to live. Dont rush it.


Haha, true on that first part. I understand what you mean. After I said it I told her "For now, y'know until we can drive or just get to see eachother more often." I just didn't want to call it a relationship/dating and rarely see each other.
We're always picking on each other playfully, we're always there for the other. I might just be hoping too much. But it seems she does.. Idk. Like you said, I'll take it slow..

If you don't want to committ to a relationship, then don't. Be friends with benefits without the title. Enjoy each other when you're together and be there for one another. Who knows what will happen once one of you gets your drivers license... your relationship could grow.. or.. it could fizzle.

I think if I were you, I'd focus more on the friendship part. Relationships with friends tend to end badly. But then again.. the heart wants what the heart wants ;)

At 15 I would not want my daughter in a sexual relationship with either a man OR a woman. Are you mature enough to handle everything that comes with a sexual relationship at this time?

At 15 I would not want my daughter in a sexual relationship with either a man OR a woman. Are you mature enough to handle everything that comes with a sexual relationship at this time?

I feel that I am mature enough. I am smart enough to not get in to something I can't handle. Even if it wasn't that time for me, I still wouldn't have let her go that far. I can handle the consquences that come with certain responsibilities.

At 15, you may get along great, and be extremely attracted to each other. Lust wears off, love grows, and to find out what's what takes time, and most young people are hardly patient when it comes to waiting to see what's best for them.

I would be very cautious if its all about secret sex though, as parents are not that open to their child having sex, whether male or female.

I have never been about friends with benefits though, as that may get to be one sided, and a detriment to the partner that's in to deep to quit.

You say your responsible, and ready, but relationships are more than experimenting, or satisfying lust.