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britt123
Jun 6, 2010, 01:08 PM
My wife left me took the kids 3 and I am left with nothing no friends no money I want to die please help

tickle
Jun 6, 2010, 01:25 PM
Just keep talking britt; we are hear to listen, just tell us anything and we will try to help you get through this terribly tough time you are having.

Tick

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 01:36 PM
Yeas.. we're here. Tell us more about your situation!

britt123
Jun 6, 2010, 01:44 PM
I don't see how I can go on living I am so lonely

JudyKayTee
Jun 6, 2010, 01:47 PM
Please respond here instead of opening new threads.

We need to know more about your situation.

Clough
Jun 6, 2010, 01:50 PM
Hi, britt123!

This would appear to be a continuation of your other thread. There's really no need to start multiple threads about the same thing. People will respond. It just might take some time for them to do that.

Like you, I'm basically alone. However, I've learned ways to cope with that. If you'd like to share, I'm game for it.

Thanks!

Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2010, 01:53 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your losses. Why did your wife bail out with the kids?

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 01:56 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your losses. Why did your wife bail out with the kids?




We can't help unless you tell us what's going on. We are good listeners!

britt123
Jun 6, 2010, 02:04 PM
[QUOTE=JudyKayTee;2381807]Please respond here instead of opening new threads.

We need to know more about your situation.[/QUO

She was having an affair for 2 years and kicked me out Christmas day

Clough
Jun 6, 2010, 02:06 PM
Now, your threads have been combined.

If she was having an affair for two years, did you ever suspect anything during that time?

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 02:11 PM
Do you get to see your children?

britt123
Jun 6, 2010, 02:13 PM
How do I reply to my answered questions

britt123
Jun 6, 2010, 02:15 PM
Who ever is asking me for the details I stayed for the kids while my wife was having an affair other than that its all gone now and I thank you for your help but I am done with this lonely life

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 02:19 PM
who ever is asking me for the details I stayed for the kids while my wife was having an affair other than that its all gone now and i thank you for your help but i am done with this lonely life

Look you need to think about this before you do anything. How old are you and Where is your family. Talk to me... OK

Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2010, 02:21 PM
who ever is asking me for the details I stayed for the kids while my wife was having an affair other than that its all gone now and i thank you for your help but i am done with this lonely life

Can we talk you out of a permanent solution to a temporary problem?

There are better ways to get through this than suicide.

We want you to at least consider the other ways. The fact that you posted here tells me you want to hear about those ways.

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 02:34 PM
Can we talk you out of a permanent solution to a temporary problem?

There are better ways to get through this than suicide.

We want you to at least consider the other ways. The fact that you posted here tells me you want to hear about those ways.


How do you think your children will feel if they grow up and find you did such a thing? We're here... At least they know you're there if they need you . Don't do anything to hurt your children by taking your life. They've been through enough and I'll bet if they had a choice they would be with you. Don't take that choice away from them... I'm waiting to hear from you!

Clough
Jun 6, 2010, 02:38 PM
how do i reply to my answered questions

What this is, is called a thread. Unlike a chat room, when someone posts a response, a person needs to go to the thread in order to see the response.

When you post on the thread, you are in essence, posting a reply.

Wondergirl
Jun 6, 2010, 02:39 PM
You're angry, aren't you, britt, but instead of taking constructive action, you are sitting there and letting your worst feelings rule over you.

We will tell you how to get past this and begin to take action (and make your kids proud of you). Please post again!

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 02:47 PM
You're angry, aren't you, britt, but instead of taking constructive action, you are sitting there and letting your worst feelings rule over you.

We will tell you how to get past this and begin to take action (and make your kids proud of you). Please post again!

We're here... don't you know there are people who have felt exactly how you're feeling right now? This is a cruel world and sometimes yes it seem there are things in our lives that have made us all want to throw in the towel... We didn't, because where there is life there is hope. Nobody ever said life is going to be a cake walk at least they didn't say it to me.

You are asking for help and you can get it here...

njdesi
Jun 6, 2010, 04:08 PM
Believe in god

Remember tough times don't last, but tough people do, So hang in there

njdesi
Jun 6, 2010, 04:09 PM
Believe in God

Remember tough times don't last, but tough people do, So hang in there

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 04:27 PM
Britt... please let us know you are all right.

JudyKayTee
Jun 6, 2010, 06:20 PM
Obviously OP is reaching out - also appears not to be able to talk about "it" (which I understand).

As far as not wanting to go on - and this is just me - I wouldn't give her the satisfaction of going on without me, raising the children without my input. I wouldn't play her game.

I realize you put up with things for two years - did you have any plans at all as to what would happen next? Did she just blindside you?

Again - I'd think it over. I would not let this woman who apparently does not have a good moral base raise my children without me.

OP has to find someone to listen - whether it's this board, another board, a health care professional, a clergyman, someone.

When my husband died I honestly didn't care if I lived to see the sun come up. At times I didn't think the sun would come up. People on this board listened to me, held me hand, held me up.

My life has vastly improved and I have a life today that I didn't think was possible.

You have to hang on - for yourself as well as your kids.

Share with us.

Kitkat22
Jun 6, 2010, 08:25 PM
Britt... Please post again... Kit

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 12:31 PM
Hello I am still here unfortunately

tickle
Jun 7, 2010, 01:06 PM
hello i am still here unfortunately

Hi britt, glad to hear you are still here. Do you want to tell us a little about your life, what you enjoy, what you do in your day to day activities, what you work at ? That would be a good start to getting to know us and good getting to know you. We often help people sort through a bad time and I hope that we make a difference to them. Make it so they can carry on. One foot in front of the other and keep on going. Some of us have had bad times and are still around to laugh and enjoy life and what we do to make it enjoyable. Maybe just little things.

Next time you come on, stay on for a bit and see what comes out of the input from other members here at AMHD. Reply to some of them, answer their questions, ease their minds, so to speak.

Tick

JudyKayTee
Jun 7, 2010, 01:14 PM
Britt, why don't you tell us why you are here, what you want, what you need?

Several of us have poured out our hearts to you and you either can't or don't want to respond.

If you are so positive that you do not want to live ("unfortunately") you MUST get professional advice and/or treatment.

I don't want to feel responsible for whatever happens to you and you are putting me in that position.

Either share or get professional help - I don't know what else can be said that hasn't already been said.

alesander
Jun 7, 2010, 01:23 PM
I know its hard when someone takes your life away (children). But do not worry when one door closes another opens. Everything happens for the best. Anytime you need advice just ask question and they shall be answered. Do not worry

Kitkat22
Jun 7, 2010, 04:00 PM
I know its hard when someone takes your life away (children). but do not worry when one door closes another opens. Everything happens for the best. Anytime you need advice just ask question and they shall be answered. do not worry

I'm worried about you! Please keep posting.

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:12 PM
I apologize to everyone especially JudyKayTee I don't want anyone to feel responsible for my actions. It was a mistake to vent my feelings on here and put others in an akward situation. Yes I have gotten professional help and obviously it didn't help. I don't know what I expected to find on this site it was a last ditch effort I guess, I am sorry. And I have heard all the sayings : what doesn't kill you makes you stronger, the longest journey begins with the first step etc.
My favorite God closes a door and opens a window my take on it, so you can jump out the window. Again I don't want anyone on here to feel responsible I am sorry I started on this site. Again I am sorry to everyone you are good caring people.

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 08:28 PM
Hi again, britt123!

And, sometimes it might seem as though God has opened a porthole!

I've been there with the infidelity thing, losing children, not having money and also contemplating suicide.

We are here to help!

How are you feeling and thinking now, please?

Thanks!

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:38 PM
I don't want people on here to worry but I still feel the same

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 08:41 PM
People who choose to care will also tend to worry.

What have you done today, please?

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:43 PM
Drove around tried to think and clear my head and decided to start jotting down my goodbye notes

Kitkat22
Jun 7, 2010, 08:43 PM
Britt, there are times in my life even now when I feel alone. Many years ago I was in a situation where I was alone and had it not been for my child I might have contemplated suicide. But I didn't because I knew there were people who cared for me.

Your children may not be with you, but I'll bet you are in their thoughts. They know they have you and someday they'll come to you.

Being hurt is a horrible feeling... it weighs you down. Don't ever let yourself think about taking something so precious as the life God has given you.

God put you on this earth for a reason and when it's time for you to leave this earth it will be because he's ready for you.

Your children need you. God is with you and he will guide you if you will let him. I know you're hurting... I hurt sometimes too.
Everybody does.

Just know this... we're here for you. We'll listen and try to help you. Stay strong and pray and put this in God's hands... he'll never leave you. People may let you down and hurt you but God will never forsake you... Kit

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:45 PM
I really don't want to offend anyone but I don't have a lot of faith in God right now I can't see why someone so merciful would let others suffer so badly

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 08:51 PM
drove around tried to think and clear my head and decided to start jotting down my goodbye notes

You drove around and tried to think and clear your head and started to jot down your goodbye notes?

Even today, I thought about how much I really don't enjoy my life. However, things got better once I got out of my head. That happened this evening at a meeting.

What's the most pleasant memory of a place that you've ever been to in your life, please?

Wondergirl
Jun 7, 2010, 08:52 PM
I really dont want to offend anyone but I dont have a lot of faith in God right now I can't see why someone so merciful would let others suffer so badly
When did God tell us we wouldn't have problems in life?

We ALL have problems, or have in the past, or will. I have. Last September I was rushed to the hospital by ambulance with two bleeding ulcers and anemia and then my doctor found breast cancer the next morning. Why me?

Each expert on here has or has had problems. (I've been here long enough to know that.) A favorite one is missing. We don't know what happened to him or if he will be back. We're worried about him.

Why NOT you? Why shouldn't you have problems?

P.S. It's not that you or we have problems. We all do. It's how you handle them that means something in the greater scheme of things.

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 08:53 PM
I really dont want to offend anyone but I dont have a lot of faith in God right now I can't see why someone so merciful would let others suffer so badly

Have you been praying lately or recently?

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:54 PM
Probably at the beach with my kids

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:55 PM
I don't pray anymore never really did

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 08:57 PM
Also, God tells us many things by the way that things are and happen.

If you look deep down inside of yourself and ask God for an answer as to how you might best serve Him, you will eventually receive an answer. It must always be God's Will that is done, not our own.

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 08:58 PM
probably at the beach with my kids

What was the feeling that you had when you were at the beach with your kids, please?

Also, would you like to know my most pleasant memory of a place?

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:59 PM
I am not real religious and don't plan to be

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 08:59 PM
Yes to your happiest memory of a place

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 09:03 PM
Britt, there are times in my life even now when I feel alone. Many years ago I was in a situation where I was alone and had it not been for my child I might have contemplated suicide. But I didn't because i knew there were people who cared for me.

Your children may not be with you, but I'll bet you are in their thoughts. They know they have you and someday they'll come to you.

Being hurt is a horrible feeling...it weighs you down. Don't ever let yourself think about taking something so precious as the life God has given you.

God put you on this earth for a reason and when it's time for you to leave this earth it will be because he's ready for you.

Your children need you. God is with you and he will guide you if you will let him. I know you're hurting....I hurt sometimes too.
Everybody does.

Just know this...we're here for you. We'll listen and try to help you. Stay strong and pray and put this in God's hands....he'll never leave you. People may let you down and hurt you but God will never forsake you...Kit

I agree with everything that you've stated above, Kitkat22!

I would just like to add, that God is never late, but does things at just the right time, whether we have faith or not.

God speaks to everyone!

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 09:04 PM
I am not real religious and dont plan to be be

Do you believe that there is a Higher Power of any kind? A person doesn't have to be religious to have that kind of belief as an understanding.

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 09:07 PM
I believe there is something out there but I don't put any faith in it sometimes seems random no offence but I am not looking to find Jesus or connect with God

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 09:08 PM
yes to your happiest memory of a place

It was 1984 and I was driving around in the city of Davenport, IA where I lived at the time. It was in the fall...

I remember how awestruck that I was at the beauty of the colors in the changing leaves of the trees in the early evening sunlight.

When I need to get away, that's where I go in my mind.

Kitkat22
Jun 7, 2010, 09:10 PM
I really dont want to offend anyone but I dont have a lot of faith in God right now I can't see why someone so merciful would let others suffer so badly

I can't answer that Britt... I only know every trial I have ever gone through.. has turned out to be a blessing. "The just suffer with the unjust", I don't know what book of the Bible that comes from but it's true. We all question God.. but he will answer our questions someday.

Suppose you do kill yourself and something happened to your wife and your children had no one? Would they go live with strangers? Grandparents? Suppose all of a sudden your wife decides she doesn't want the kids and you are gone? What then?

You won't hurt anyone but your children and yourself if you do this.
They'll have to live with the repercussions of your actions. Going to school and being known as the children whose father killed himself'
Children blame themselves when a parent does something like this and it scars them for life.

Guilt is a terrible thing when children carry it with them, even though it's not their fault. The children of suicide victims usually (not always) end up being in relationships that are harmful. Think about that and get some help with this. Look on a website and see how many children of suicide victims blame themselves. Tis is my opinion... Kit

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 09:11 PM
I believe there is something out there but I dont put any faith in it sometimes seems random no offence but I am not looking to find Jesus or connect with God

Have you ever tried channeling your thoughts to what you think is out there?

I'm not even writing about being in prayer or faith here.

britt123
Jun 7, 2010, 09:18 PM
Yes thank you for talking to me I have to go

Kitkat22
Jun 7, 2010, 09:20 PM
yes thank you for talking to me I have to go




Talk tomorrow?

Clough
Jun 7, 2010, 09:26 PM
Maybe even in a little while?

So many things to share...

My wife and kids left me in the early 1980's. It's a long story as to what happened before and after that and what I chose to become in more than one way...

I'm still alive, though! And, I'll choose to be that way!

An old saying: Life isn't a destination, but a journey...

Alty
Jun 7, 2010, 11:49 PM
Hello Britt.

I don't think anyone on the face of this earth has gotten away without having some pain in their life. We all handle it differently, but we've all been in pain at some point.

My worst moment was when my parents died. They both died of cancer 6 1/2 months apart. I felt much like you. I didn't want to live. I woke up each day and the only thought in my head was that they were gone, that they'd never be back. I didn't want to leave the house because every place had a memory of them. Even the house had too many memories, them coming for dinner, playing with my son, helping us build the fence, put in the grass.

I was lost. The only thing I could do to escape was sleep. In my dreams everything was all right. Reality wasn't.

For over a week I didn't shower, eat, or talk to my husband and child. All I did was sleep, or yell. I yelled at a God I no longer believed in, I yelled at the doctors (even though they weren't there), I yelled at myself, I yelled at my parents. I was so hurt, so angry, so lost.

One day, as I was laying in bed, my son came in. He was only 2 years old. He put his hand on my head, stroked my hair, and said "Mommy, I love you. Please don't die".

That's when I realized that my life was more then just mine. If I gave up, if I let go of this life, I would find some sort of peace, but I'd leave everyone I love in turmoil. I'd leave them feeling just like I felt, even worse, because my parents didn't choose to leave, they had no choice at all, but my life was in my hands, and what right did I have to take it when so many people would suffer if I did?

I'm not going to preach to you about God. I'd be the last one to do it. I'm not going to tell you that things will get magically better, that the sun will come out tomorrow, that the flowers will bloom, that doors will open, and that life will be peachy keen and happy. That's not where you're at right now and that's not what you need to hear, or want to hear. I can tell you that you're making a judgment based on how you feel now, based on feeling that this won't end. You're wrong to think it won't.

I'm actually going to tell you what I think your kids would tell you if you follow through with you you want to do. I actually have a pretty good point of reference for this, because my Uncle killed himself, left his 4 daughters behind. To this day, they still don't forgive him, and that was 29 years ago.

Your kids will say "Why did you do this to us?","What did we do?" "Did you not love us at all?" "We hate you for doing this","I will never forgive you", "You ruined my life", "You are so selfish. You only thought about yourself".

Sorry, can't sugar coat it, because that's the truth. It's unlikely that they'll ever forgive you. You'll find whatever peace you think will come from doing this, but your children, the people that love you, will never know peace again. Is that what you want for them? Do you want the pain you're feeling times 100 to be placed on your children? Is that what you want to leave them with?

Counseling works, but you have to go, you have to find the right counselor, you have to give it your all.

Are you hating me a bit right now? Good. Use that anger. Tell me off. Tell me that I'm mean for pointing out that you'll hurt your kids. Tell me anything, just post, and listen, and get the help you need.

Depression isn't permanent. Death is.

I'll be here. We all will. So use that. You said we're good people. You're right. The people on this site are the best people I've never met. Use that. That's why we're here.

JudyKayTee
Jun 8, 2010, 06:29 AM
Search back through my posts - my best friend killed herself some years ago. Left a baby and a 7 year old. The baby has no memory of her mother; the 7 year old to this day thinks it's because of something he did that upset her. The 7 year old blames the surviving father so he "lost" both his mother and his father.

We could all trade horror stories here. Some people have been run over by emotional trains and are still standing.

I'll go back to what I said originally - I wouldn't give your ex the satisfaction. The best revenge (if that is what you are after) is going on to happiness.

As far as remembering the happiest moments in your life - if they involved your wife and children, probably not good things to remember at this point. Can you go earlier than that? Does something in your life give you great satisfaction or happiness?

I consider myself spiritual, not religious. I was raised in a very strict church and I find that I turned from that religion and did not find another.

When my life as at its worst (and I don't recommend this to everyone) I found my dogs (and I know this sounds stupid!) to be immensely comforting. They depended on me, needed me, relied on me and kept me walking.

I'm not going to preach to you - you have to find what works for you.

I agree with making notes, making a list - put all the good things in one column and all the bad in another. Then come back and share.

You knew your wife was having an affair? How did you think it was going to end? Are you engaged in a battle for visitation?

Do you know why she had the affair? Is the marriage beyond repair? She won't be the first nor the last to leave and come back - and I'm not suggesting it's a good idea. I'm just asking (because I have a "legal mind" and hang out on the legal boards).

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:59 AM
I wouldn't give your ex the satisfaction. The best revenge (if that is what you are after) is going on to happiness.

You said a lot of good stuff, but that statement was the best of all. Why give her the satisfaction? Why kill himself and thereby let her keep the power?

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 11:25 AM
You said a lot of good stuff, but that statement was the best of all. Why give her the satisfaction? Why kill himself and thereby let her keep the power?




No one knows what you're going through but you. Frankly I think it's more honorable to live on this earth and go through the rough patches and the horrible times we all encounter and face them without giving up.

Your children are going to be the ones who hurt, not you. Your wife isn't going to care. If you have siblings or your folks are still alive they'll hurt.
It will only take you a moment or two to end it all... they'll suffer for the rest of their lives and that's a shame.

They already have a mother "with questionable "morals" and when you do this thing you're planning on doing...they'll be a total horrible mess.
Think of how your children feel and think about this, It's not all about you.There are little ones concerned".

JudyKayTee
Jun 8, 2010, 01:08 PM
I just noticed the "I have no money" language. What is the financial problem?

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 01:13 PM
I just noticed the "I have no money" language. What is the financial problem?




I would also be interested in why you have no money.

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 01:22 PM
And why "no friends"?

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 01:28 PM
And why "no friends"?



Another good question? Britt..?

tickle
Jun 8, 2010, 01:51 PM
I think guys, we are delving to deep into his personal problems and you are not going to get answers to 'why no friends' 'why no money' because basically Britt is in a bad place right now and probably wants to 'feel' those things are real, and could be exactly far from it. Britt doesn't know he has friends. That's why he is here.

I say, here we go again. For some of the posters who mean well, we are digging and although meaning well for Britt's problems, it is not a good way to respond to him.

IMO tick

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 01:58 PM
Britt come back and talk to us. OK... Let us know you are all right? Let us help.

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 02:08 PM
it is not a good way to respond to him.
I don't believe it. Britt is tougher than you give him credit for. He knows what we are up to. He'll be back. He's even beginning to like it here. He knows we will be honest with him.

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 02:12 PM
I don't believe it. Britt is tougher than you give him credit for. He knows what we are up to. He'll be back. He's even beginning to like it here. He knows we will be honest with him.

I hope he comes back...

JudyKayTee
Jun 8, 2010, 03:03 PM
I think guys, we are delving to deep into his personal problems and you are not going to get answers to 'why no friends' 'why no money' because basically Britt is in a bad place right now and probably wants to 'feel' those things are real, and could be exactly far from it. Britt doesnt know he has friends. That's why he is here.

I say, here we go again. For some of the posters who mean well, we are digging and although meaning well for Britt's problems, it is not a good way to respond to him.

IMO tick


Sorry to disagree - if nobody cared, nobody would ask.

And if you mean me, yes, I mean well and, yes, I would like to know why he feels so alone and isolated. If asking him means he has to think about "it" and share some of his experiences, thus opening up, I think it's good.

Of course, I only minored in Psychology so who knows -

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 03:40 PM
Of course, I only minored in Psychology so who knows -
I have a master's in psych and have counseled real people. He'll be back. He knows we want to help. And this site has a good rep for helping people.

Alty
Jun 8, 2010, 03:43 PM
No psychology degree here, I just care, that's all I have to offer.

Britt, I really hope you come back, realize that we're all here eager to talk to you, to listen to you, to help you through this rough spot.

We can't help if you don't let us. Obviously you want the help, otherwise you wouldn't have reached out. Well we're here now, and we won't let it go. We care too much about what happens to you to simply walk away.

What do you have to lose by talking to us? Nothing. Why not give it a try?

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 03:45 PM
What do you have to lose by talking to us? Nothing. Why not give it a try?
We won't even force religion on him. :D

(Alty -- you spelled "lose" correctly!! Most people mistakenly spell it "loose"!! Wow! I'm impressed!! )

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 05:57 PM
We won't even force religion on him. :D

(Alty -- you spelled "lose" correctly!!! Most people mistakenly spell it "loose"!!! Wow!! I'm impressed!!!)





Britt.. No one is going to be judgmental. We care about you. If you want help... really want help... then you'll have to show us you do.. by letting us know what we can do to help you... Kit

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 07:47 PM
Hello everyone sorry I left so abrubt last time didn't want to discuss religion I am coping so far, pills help I won't put anyone in a bad spot by discussing suicide I apologize for that

Clough
Jun 8, 2010, 07:48 PM
Oftentimes, getting "out of ourselves" and looking at ourselves in a different way is a way for healing to begin.

The problem lies though, in being able to get "out of ourselves".

Oftentimes also, the best mirror is the eye of a friend.

Just my thoughts for right now...

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 07:50 PM
Everyone is so curious I am 48 years old from Canada not much education good with technology not trained in it though. No friends all our friends when I was married jumped ship and won't associate with me due to rumours my ex has been spreading. She is bad mouthing me to everyone kids friends everyone.

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 07:52 PM
Most of my friends were through marriage and the men have stuck to their wife's because of my ex spreading rumours

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 07:53 PM
I am so alone and beaten down don't think I have enough fight in me to carry on its hard

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 07:53 PM
Its hard to find work I have slept in the park and in my truck many nights

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 07:56 PM
It amazes me that strangers can be kinder than people who you thought were close to you

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 07:58 PM
its hard to find work i have slept in the park and in my truck many nights
Certainly Canada has social services to help put a roof over your head plus food to eat, etc. I will PM some Canadian experts to wander over here to throw in their two cents.

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:00 PM
it amazes me that strangers can be kinder than people who you thought were close to you
We were even talking about you and worrying about you when you weren't here. Now, tell us kind of where you are in Canada.

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 08:00 PM
its hard to find work i have slept in the park and in my truck many nights





I'm glad you're back... First you need to talk with someone about helping you find a job. Go see your children and tell them you love them. I don't think she can't stop you from seeing them unless she has a court order.

The next thing talk to a friend or someone your close with there in your town. If your mom and dad are still living, maybe they will help you. All is not lost when you keep on trying.

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:00 PM
Thank you I am not complaining I probably deserve what comes to me

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:02 PM
thank you i am not complaining i probably deserve what comes to me
Whether you deserve it, that kind of talk isn't helpful right now. We're in survival mode, so let's work on that.

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:05 PM
I wish I could be as positive and strong as all of you I just find it hard to see anything positive coming my way no offence but isn't it easy to be positive and strong when you are in a good place like most of you would you be in the same frame of mind if you were betrayed homeless or broken

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 08:06 PM
Whether or not you deserve it, that kind of talk isn't helpful right now. We're in survival mode, so let's work on that.






Don't apologize... what we need to know is this, do you get to see your kids? Is there someone who will help you get back on your feet again?

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:08 PM
I have snuk some visits with them at school

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:09 PM
Getting a job I have to do myself I have no family mother and father are dead

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:09 PM
would you be in the same frame of mind if you were betrayed homeless or broken
How about severely anemic, bleeding ulcers, confined to a wheelchair, and facing breast cancer? And your soulcat of 15 years had just died of congestive heart failure?

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:11 PM
Are you talking about yourself I am so sorry honestly what keeps you going

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:12 PM
And why

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 08:12 PM
i have snuk some visits with them at school




I'll bet they were happy to see you? Their Daddy... yes, a lot of people have been in your position and they, like you have wondered what is there to live for? In your case.. Those children and I think you must be pretty darn smart. What sort of work did you do?

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:13 PM
I installed security systems dvr systems card access systems and setup network security

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:14 PM
are you talking about yourself i am so sorry honestly what keeps you going
I fought my way through it and am improving day by day. I'm picking up the pieces of my life bit by bit. This site kept me going. Oh, and forgot to tell you -- had lost my job along the way too, a job I loved with all my heart and had had for 25 years.

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:18 PM
Is it worth it honestly what joy do you get out of life

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 08:20 PM
I fought my way through it and am improving day by day. I'm picking up the pieces of my life bit by bit. This site kept me going. Oh, and forgot to tell you -- had lost my job along the way too, a job I loved with all my heart and had had for 25 years.





Wondergirl is a blessing to everyone here. I like her because she tells it like it is and Britt, she won't steer you wrong. She helped me through a bad time a while back and I'll bet she didn't even know it. We've all been through things that made us feel hopeless.. but there is always someone who says the right thing and makes you know you are worth something. Thanks and keep on posting... Thank you WG...

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:23 PM
is it worth it honestly what joy do you get out of life
My ulcers have healed, my hemoglobin level is now above normal, I had a lumpectomy and radiation (so am supposedly cancer-free now), I have my soulcat's ashes near me and have instructed my kids to cremate me someday with them, and I am going to begin volunteering at the library where I used to work. I have already returned to co-lead the writers' group I started there.

Along the way, I met many interesting people -- medical staff and other patients.

Inch by inch, step by step.

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:26 PM
Thank you makes me feel like a winer when I realize what you have gone through you are a very strong person I commend you

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 08:28 PM
My ulcers have healed, my hemoglobin level is now above normal, I had a lumpectomy and radiation (so am supposedly cancer-free now), I have my soulcat's ashes near me and have instructed my kids to cremate me someday with them, and I am going to begin volunteering at the library where I used to work. I have already returned to co-lead the writers' group I started there.

Along the wy, I met many interesting people -- medical staff and other patients.

Inch by inch, step by step.



You inspire everyone WG. Britt.. You have a lot to live for... Your children...

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:32 PM
My children are the only thoughts that keep me hear I realize that

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:32 PM
thank you makes me feel like a winer when i realize what you have gone through you are a very strong person i commend you
I'm not telling you because I want to brag, but want you to realize that even thought the tunnel is dark, someone else in the tunnel has a flashlight. Do you walk deeper into the tunnel, or do you stick close to the flashlight guy?

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:34 PM
I don't know

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:34 PM
my children are the only thoughts that keep me hear i realize that
Have you checked into social services? And you need a social worker or counselor to help you get back on your feet, including get a job.

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:36 PM
i dont know
How are you communicating with us?

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:38 PM
University free access they think I am a student

britt123
Jun 8, 2010, 08:42 PM
I have to go

Kitkat22
Jun 8, 2010, 08:42 PM
university free access they think i am a student





Are we helping you?

Wondergirl
Jun 8, 2010, 08:43 PM
university free access they think i am a student
Do you know anything about Canadian social services?

tickle
Jun 9, 2010, 02:36 AM
Certainly Canada has social services to help put a roof over your head plus food to eat, etc. I will PM some Canadian experts to wander over here to throw in their two cents.

Depending on what city he is in, yes, we do have shelters for the homeless where a nights rest and good meals are included, Wondergirl, and he has access to his socialized medicine. There are homeless in every city, most people don't notice them. I missed the post where he said he lived in Canada, I guess. Maybe someone can provide the # of the post so I can catch up somewhat.

Edit: Scott's Mission supports homeless people in any Canadian city. They also provide food delivered to the homeless who want to live on the streets and not come in to sleep. There is also the YMCA on Jarvis St. in Toronto. Both are available.

Tick

Kitkat22
Jun 9, 2010, 11:00 AM
[/QUOTE]everyone is so curious I am 48 years old from Canada not much education good with technology not trained in it though. No friends all our friends when I was married jumped ship and won't associate with me due to rumours my ex has been spreading. She is bad mouthing me to everyone kids friends everyone.[QUOTE=



Here you go tickle... Kit