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Krmh90
Jun 2, 2010, 12:11 AM
Hey, about a year ago my mom got custody of my new step sister. She is 17 ad I am 13. I am really in love with her! I don't want to be though. Sometimes I masterbate over her. I go to sleep every night wishing she would love me back. We are very close, we tell each other every thing I even told her that I like her. I am so confused on what to do I need answers! Is this wrong? Can any one reply and give me am answer please. I was reading some other answers on other questions and slot of people were criticizing them for the way they feel. If your going to do that to me, don't even bother replying! They don't know what we feel inside it's really hard to deal with!

creahands
Jun 2, 2010, 05:58 AM
U posted in wrong section.

If u are looking to build a relationship and it is going to be inside construction,we will have to figure out what type of material to use.

Try posting in relations

Chuck

cdad
Jun 2, 2010, 03:09 PM
Its completely wrong so get it out of your head and forget about it. I suggest you seek therapy right away.

Homegirl 50
Jun 2, 2010, 03:45 PM
You are a boy in puberty and you are living with a 17 year old girl who is not your blood sister.
I think you need to talk to you mom or dad about this and stop spending alone and talk time with your stepsister.

Does your dad live someplace else? Maybe you can stay with him for a while.

Have these feelings just started?

I wish
Jun 2, 2010, 03:52 PM
Do everything you can to stop thinking about her. If you find yourself thinking about her, then do something else to distract yourself.

Find something else to do. Hang out with friends. Play video games. Do your homework. Play sports. Distraction is the key for you.

Homegirl 50
Jun 2, 2010, 04:19 PM
Have to spread some rep I wish but I agree.
Try your hardest to stop thinking about her, stay busy with other things and once again, stop hanging out with her.

HeavenlySpiced
Jun 3, 2010, 04:39 AM
Please tell me this isn't true. This is your stepsister! And was it all that necessary to mention that you masterbate over her? Because if you do, you really might need some therapy. Simply for the fact that you do it, and then you had the guts to put it on the internet. Look, I'm 13 as well, but if there is one thing I know, is that "love" isn't just something you can say. As 13 year olds, we don't have all the experience to know what "being in love" is. Look, you really just need to put this out of your head. Does she know? And if she does, doesn't it freek her out a little? I mean, she's 17, and you're 13. She's your stepsister and you are her stepbrother. You've got to do something about this, 'cause this is too unusual.:confused:

JoeCanada76
Jun 3, 2010, 04:44 AM
Step sisters are off limits.

mudweiser
Jun 3, 2010, 05:43 AM
It would be different if you were 24 and she was 28. However, you both are not adults.

So your 13 and she's 17- and you in love with her. Well imagine if you had another step sister that was 9 and she was in love with you--- would you respond to her love? I don't think so, you'd be kind of weirded out right, because she's so young. Well that's how your step sister would feel-- really really weird, and if you told her she would tell her friends and they would eventually make fun of the situation. It may be a little harsh but it's true, teen girls talk and really love to make fun of people-- if you don't want that happening to you then let it go.

As others have said , it is because you are going through puberty. So my suggestion to you is to go out more. Don't you have friends? Go to their house! Go to the beach. Get a job; cutting the lawn... anything that you can do at 13. Just get out and become more busy.

Well good luck to you. I hope you take our advice.

talaniman
Jun 3, 2010, 06:52 AM
I think your confusing sisterly love, and the raging hormones that are emerging. Sure she is not of your bloodline, but a sister, and family member nonetheless.

Its not easy to recognize the difference, but in time it will be a lot clearer to you, but for now, don't behave in any inappropriate ways, and don't embarrass yourself, or your sister with any bad behavior, its not worth the trouble.

You're a young guy with a confusion of feelings right now, that you must cope with until you learn the difference between your hormone induced lust, family love, and what's the right thing to do about them both, and that takes time, and the guidance of older, and wiser people, preferably your dad.

Just remember to her you are her new baby brother, and she seems to love you a lot as a brother, and that's a special thing to have in your life, so never do anything to mess up that feeling just because you can't handle it. In other words, keep it to yourself, and know she is off limits for your lust and romance and just accept its strictly brother/sister and respect the bond as nothing more than that.

You can have lust in your heart, but don't act on it as that's the lesson of manhood, you have to learn. So don't weird out your family with bad inappropriate behavior.

JoeCanada76
Jun 3, 2010, 06:54 AM
I also am wondering if this bigger older step sister is encouraging it or even let this happen. It could be something that is happening?
Maybe no one else thought about that but I did.

It could be that the older sister is being inappropriate in certain ways but the op has not mentioned it.

Edit: For further instruction to the Original Poster. You can not dictate to us or anybody for that matter who can and can not respond. That is out of your hands and not your choice.