Im going to middle school in August, and there's this girl I really like. She's kind of popular (im not the only one) but I think I have a chance. Its not sexual in any way! And I just need some advice on how to go out with her in middle school. I have known her for years, she knows I like her, and I have flirted successfully in the past. Please help!

Hi, Help_please!

Do you already have her phone number?

Thanks!

I'm not that far. I just finished 5th grade. But how do I get there?

Not need to worry about getting her so soon. Just get to know her better. Be friends.

Not need to worry about getting her so soon. Just get to know her better. Be friends.

Yes I agree. Just get to know her first. If you are just going into middle school you are in grade what, 6 or 7? You have another 6 to 7 years to even try to date her.Become friends and then she will become more comfortable around you.

Like they said get to know her a little more. See what's she's like before just diving in. Trust me if you do this it will help you in the coming future! :)

Okay your telling me to wait but... This is partly for the popularity of going out with this girl and partly just spending time with the girl I like. Im not trying to get a relashinship that will last for years. Just give me some advice on how to impress her a little and maybe go out.

You want to go out with her for the popularity?

You can't just use a girl to become popular! Have you really though about it? When you break up it doesn't mean your all the sudden popular...

What if yous end bad and she puts you down to the whole school?

You can't just date someone cause they are popular and you want to be...

Have a look at yourself and think about what you really want... not what will makes things easy for you

Ummm... How about just wait awhile till you actually get to middle. And plus you should wait till you get older. Your just coming out of elementary school.

Okay your right... I'm an idiot. I won't get popular. I shouldn't have said that. But can someone just answer the question! What should I do? Or should I give up?
I don't have any experience in this so I am not sure what to do.

If you honestly do like this girl then Talk to her... does she have myspace or Facebook? Talk to her on there. If your too shy ask a friend to ask her what she thinks of you. But remember your both so young! She may not be ready for a boyfriend! I honestly don't think your ready for a girlfriend either but we can't stop you from doing what you want to do. All I will say is don't rush anything. Take things slow.

Your not an idiot. Don't give up. Just wait till you get older. Your way to young. But later in life just be yourself, get to know that person and start a conversation. There that's all I can say right now cause I'm hungry. Very!:)

Okay, I wrote I stupid question and realized I was wrong
(see here: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/middle-school-dating-tips-474779.html)
Im kind of freaked out about going to middle school and was trying to get advice on how to ask a girl out because I thought I might be seen better going out(and for the sake of asking a girl out.) I am scared to be seen as an idiot or a nerd and want to be popular. What should I do? I have friends but am worried about the 2 other elementry school 5th grades. And I'm just kind of freaked out about middle school altogether.

Okay I sound like an idiot trying to be seen as popular. Just give me some advice on middle school please.

Okay actually,
Don't WRITE ON THIS THEAD ANYMORE!
I have a improved one here,
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/middle-school/middle-school-474895.html

Be yourself. Why do you have to worry about being popular?

Being someone your not to impress others isn't going to make you happy. I was never popular in school. I didn't see the need to be popular. Just be nice to everyone from the popular to the nerdy. And you'll find that more people will respect you.

Try being yourself. If people don't like you for who you are then that's their problem.

Be your self. Why do you have to worry about being popular?

Being someone your not to impress others isnt going to make you happy. I was never popular in school. I didnt see the need to be popular. Just be nice to everyone from the popular to the nerdy. and youll find that more people will respect you.

Try being your self. If people dont like you for who you are then thats their problem.

That is a good point, you shouldn't worry about middle school -DO NOT FAKE YOURSELF IF YOU DO AND THEY FIND OUT YOU LIED YOU WILL HATE YOURSELF AND WANT TO DIE TRUST ME- just live your life and do your school work I don't have good grades and I'm not very happy with my life but I am myself I have my own set of friends I only trust people who I can trust just don't worry it will be fine. Okay middle school goes by fast I am in high school right now annd it is truly fun so don't worry about that either just try and make friends with the kids from the other 2 schools and make friends with the 7th and 8th graders

Hey dude I have read almost all your posts and middle school isn't bad I only had 1 girlfriend in middle school just calm yourself if you really want her you have to become good friends with her I mean you said she knows you like her make your move later just relax and don't stress yourself I hated middle school because I was so stressed

hey dude i have read almost all your posts and middle school isn't bad i only had 1 girlfriend in middle school just calm yourself if you really want her you have to become good friends with her i mean you said she knows you like her make your move later just relax and don't stress yourself i hated middle school because i was so stressed

If she really likes you she will say yes but you can be friends I have plenty of female friends some younger some older

Please don't start new threads on the same subject, your threads have been merged

Okay, i wrote i stupid question and realized i was wrong
(see here: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/middle-school-dating-tips-474779.html)
Im kind of freaked out about going to middle school and was trying to get advice on how to ask a girl out because i thought i might be seen better going out(and for the sake of asking a girl out.) I am scared to be seen as an idiot or a nerd and want to be popular. What should i do? I have friends but am worried about the 2 other elementry school 5th grades. And im just kind of freaked out about middle school altogether.

Hi again, Help_please!

Concerned about being popular? Being popular isn't all about who you hang around with. Besides that, why do the things that most of the crowd thinks will be popular? Why not be different in some way? Perhaps even outstanding?

What are some of the individual activities that you're presently good at and/or in which you have a high degree of interest in, please?

Thanks!

Okay actually,
DONT WRITE ON THIS THEAD ANYMORE!
i have a improved one here,
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/middle-school/middle-school-474895.html

You can always work to improve things on the original thread that you started about this. People will also be more likely to respect you then.

Why go where the grass is greener when you can make the grass greener where you're at?

Help,

You are going into an entirely new world, leaving your elementary world to enter middle school... It is scary and you have every right to be nervous... but...

Believe it or not, everyone else in your class and the other 2 schools that you will merge with are going through the same thing!

Everyone tries to hide it, some better than others, boys and girls...

As far as being popular goes... you have friends... hang on to those friendships, the biggest mistakes some kids make is throwing away good friends trying to become more popular and they end up without any friends...

Being popular is about being real... being genuine... being true to yourself... think about the kids you know, some like baseball some like video games some like skateboards... or some combination of all of them. In your friends don't you like them because they are real and honest about who they are?

Now, as for the girl...

Girls are just as nervous as boys are... everyone has told you, talk to her... thats great advice... be yourself, figure out what she likes and find something you both like that you can connect over... that is the best way to get to know someone girl boy or whatever...

Going out with a popular girl, you will find, is a double edged sword! It may make you "popular" but sometimes those kids who you think are your friends are jealous of you going out with the popular girl for a variety of reasons... so just be careful...

Best of luck in middle!

Thanks for the advice! I ran a 10K this morning and thought about what all of you said, it really made sense. But I have another question semirelated (I learned not to make new threads.) with all this "popular" junk I'm kind of having problems in elementry school. (or I did) Its just that some girl likes me and she's pissed off at the girl I like. So what to I do? Say "sorry, i dont like you, see you tomorrow." And I'm not even supposed to know she likes me, my friend accidentally broke the secret. So?

Okay actually, I read this whole thread and I'm a IDIOT! I'm in freaking 5th/6th grade! Dating? How do you delete this? Im making a new acount and starting over!

I read on a post I should ask a moderator (whatever that means)

SO GREAT MODERATOR THING! DELETE THIS THREAD PLEASE!

Well, you're not an idiot. You're a human with needs just like everyone else. You also, like everyone else, need to learn a lot of things. A good part of that learning needs to happen slowly...

I hope that you might answer the last question that I asked you in post #21.

Thanks!

Hi, new_dude!

Unfortunately, I'm not the Moderator for this particular forum topic area.

Okay, so you've got a new username. That's great! Your new one would appear to be one that shows you have a new beginning. But, as an admonition, I would suggest that you please tread carefully around here.

What do I enjoy? Please read my profile...

Thanks!

I can't delete it.

When I was your age, that was when I first started to get really heavily involved in music type of activities, both in an individual as well as a group basis. It's from those roots that I eventually developed what I am now in the Performing Arts in general.

I was also involved with sports to and extent. Boxing, football, baseball...

But, eventually, I had to choose either sports or music because of injuring myself in sports to an extent that made it difficult for me to do music things then.

If I had had you as a student in school when I was teaching, you would know what I meant in post #21.

You can learn a lot from this site. But, a good part of that learning will also involve a lot of sharing.

I'm sorry that I didn't respond to you right away here, I was busy being popular by being able to do work for someone for which I began training to do when I was about your age.

Do you know what a "troll" is?

Thanks!

By the way "dude", I may be a lot closer to your age than you think! Also, in more than one way... ;)

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Well I know from experience that its really hard to date someone in the very beginning of the school year because no one really is settled into their schedule and they need time to settle into the school year. Plus you don't know if you will end up liking someone else that is new to your school or end up finding out that she is not as nice as you thought she was. Just wait awhile and see if she is interested and see if her personality has changed. Become her friend first.

Just ask her out to watch a movie or to start real small, ask her if she wants to watch a sports game at the park. That way you can easily find out what she likes or doesn't like. Also start up a conversation about how she is doing and you will then know if you should or shouldn't continue dating her. You wouldn't have to even think of it as a date.

Just ask her out to watch a movie or to start real small, ask her if she wants to watch a sports game at the park. That way you can easily find out what she likes or dosent like. Also start up a conversation about how she is doing and you will then know if you should or shouldn't continue dating her. You wouldn't have to even think of it as a date.

You are too young to date. Stop letting your hormones or testosterone rule your thoughts. You are going into middle school which is a whole different world than elementary school.

First of all you need to know there is no touching policy with girls. They have cameras in the school. The teachers expect a lot more of you because your older. Forget the girls and think about studying.