Well I have this really close guy friend we talk everyday and we can trust each other and we both like each other except we are both dating someone. Also, its weird cause we seem like a brother and sister to each other cause of how close we are. But our feelings for each other seem to grow. What should I do I am confused and don't want anything bad to happen. :confused:

I was in a similar situation once, and I had a guy friend who I was really close too and could tell anything to. We were finally single at the same time and thought we would try a relationship. It wasn't at all the same as it was when we were just friends and after only two days we called it quits. Not saying that this happens every time just a thought.

Have you talked to your friend to see that you're on the same page? Maybe he just thinks of you as a really close friend. If you guys are starting to develop feelings for each other it's not fair to keep your significant others in the picture. I would talk it out with your friend to see if he really feels the same way you do. If so, I would strongly recommend that you both break up with your bf/gf.

I agree with Zoe, you need to check things out more.

Maybe even have a conversation just about relationships. The two of you are close, and talk a lot, so why not just talk.

Tell her that you wonder if sometime the two of you could be boyfriend/girlfriend. If she gives you a smack and laughs her head off, you have your answer.

If on the other hand, she says that she always liked you more than just a friend, then you have a starting point.

She could also say that while she could see the two of you together, she wouldn't want to risk losing you as a friend.

I had that very conversation with what turned out to be a life long friend. He was feeling that because we were so close, maybe we should be closer. We talked about it, and I knew, and I proved myself right later, that although we loved each other as friends, it wouldn't be right to risk it, by turning it into something else.

I had him all my life, no matter what part of the world we lived in, we remained as close as we ever were, until he died a few years ago.

Even today, I can't imagine never having had him in my life for so long.

So, maybe it is a lesson learned for me, that I can pass on to you. Try to be as honest as you can with her, but keep in mind that a friendship will last forever.

If you are both dating some one else EXCLUSIVELY, then you should stay within the boundaries of good behavior, why cheat?

You know its not unusual for friends to develop crushes on each other, but crushes fade soon, so you really don't have to rush into actions you may regret later, especially given your dating some one. If you are confused about your feelings, then make no changes until you are NOT confused.

Well we have both talked about it and we say that we should just ignore it and go with being friends, but we always come back to our feelings and if we should dump our bf/gf but we don't want to because we still like them to

If you're both happy with your girlfreind/boyfriend and your feelings for each other keep getting in the way, maybe you should back off on your friendship with each other.

Well he told me that he doesn't want to stop our friendship with each other cause its hard and impossible and he just doesn't like the idea

Your feelings are for you as individuals to cope with. So stay within the boundaries of good behavior as it seems the decision has been made. Friends only.

In the end you have to do what is best for you and your relationship(if you want to be your boyfriend). If you can't control your feelings for this guy then maybe you should not be friends with this guy right now. The choice is yours to make.

Being friends with the opposite sex while in a relationship could also make problems down the road. A regular friendship would not, but you say that you have feelings for the friend.

A true friendship is hard to find. Don't lose him as a friend. If it doesn't work out for you two as boyfriend and girlfriend it would be really awkward to resume a platonic relationship.

He already has a girlfriend.