Why is it that girls like "bad boyz" can some even explain that term to me "bad boyz"
What is it about them that make girl crazy. To me all I see is, a girl making a bad decision-just from my friends it seems that their "bad boy" boyfriend usually ends up getting into introuble, going to jail, smoking(inhaling) too much(weed)(crack) etc, or causing her problems, so what's the point. Then I hear from girls that they want a nice guy, a guy that treats them well, who is smart, basically places them on a thrown, but when they get that, they ignore tat person and "run". Can someone just explain this to me, I was just wondering

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Those don't sound like bad boys so much as dumb boys.

Jeha, are you wanting advice on this subject or a discussion? Advice means you are looking for help. Discussion means that you just want to get people's thoughts on the subject. In other words, maybe get a debate going about the subject.

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Yes I'm looking for a discussion

Those don't sound like bad boys so much as dumb boys.



Lol I totally agree, but that is how my friends describe them, how would you describe them

I totally get being attracted to a "bad boy," but I think it's more of an image than anything. I don't think anyone really wants to be with someone that's a jerk.

Jeha

Here is a good thread that was started a couple of years ago you should go and read , it will give you some good insight.

31094https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relationships/how-common-nice-guy-230615.html

yes i'm looking for a discussion

Discuss away. :)

I think it isn't limited to females. Males tend to go for high drama personalities, too.

For some, it seems to be about 'fixing' the other person whether it be reforming the 'bad boy' or rehabilitating the 'fallen angel'. The 'fixer' is looking for a project.

Others seem drawn to the exact opposite of their own personality. As though they can find something in themselves by living through the other person. They want the other person to fix them.

[QUOTE=Cat1864;2365840]Discuss away. :)

I think it isn't limited to females. Males tend to go for high drama personalities, too.





Do you think that this applies to certain ages.

I totally get being attracted to a "bad boy," but I think it's more of an image than anything. I don't think anyone really wants to be with someone that's a jerk.



OK then what do you think about this , my friend has a boyfriend but I just found out that they possibly broke up because he's in jail/ been arrested

Its not about certain ages. Its about attitude. Some men like to be "knights" and they seek out the drama or "martyrs" that seek out problem women. Then you have women that assume that because you're a "good" man you must be boring. But if you're a "bad" man then your exciting. And the saga continues. Even early on the most aggressive in the pack is the one that got the spoils. So in some ways its preprogramed in our genes.

Even early on the most aggressive in the pack is the one that got the spoils.


What exactly do u mean by that?




You certainly are an expert, so tell me if a person is like that then even as they grow they may not change their view of attractions?

Even early on the most agressive in the pack is the one that got the spoils.


wht exactly do u mean by that?




you certainly are an expert, so tell me if a person is like that then even as they grow they may not change their view of attractions?

For one thing this isn't my field of expertise. Im just going by life long observations. In the animal kingdom. The leader of a pack is usually the one that is most aggressive and is willing to fight for it. So in that respect its in our genetic makeup. The leaders choose their breeding partners before the others and usually get the major portion of the spoils from the hunt.

Some girls are attracted to 'bad boys' because either they are hot and provide a little adventure or its just something different for her.
Then there are girls who go out with them because they are really nice and even want to help them.
Then there are the girls who like the 'nice guy' because they don't want trouble and they want someone they can trust, that's nice, and will treat them right.
There really are a bunch of different types of guys; the tough guys, the wresler guys, biker dudes, car guys, jacked/strong guys, sports guys, smart guys, funny guy etc.
But I think a bad buy is a combination of some of them, with maybe some downsides like being a smoker.
I have been with the tough guys, biker dudes, and wreslers. But I have yet to find myself a good guy. I tried to help some of the guys, just comfort them. But some relationships didn't end well.
I'm not quite sure what to say but I hoped that helped.

OK thank you now I understand

No problem :)

For one thing this isnt my field of expertise. Im just going by life long observations. In the animal kingdom. The leader of a pack is usually the one that is most agressive and is willing to fight for it. So in that respect its in our genetic makeup. The leaders choose thier breeding partners before the others and usually get the major portion of the spoils from the hunt.



You also helped me very much

Personally I like nice guys but there have been times when I was attracted to bad guys. But I would prefer a nice guy over a bad guy any day. :)

Some people like bad boys because they are attracted to trouble and like the edge. It like a drug to them.

For example; my friend have a good paying job, nice home, good credit, etc. However her love life is a mess. She pass up on the good guys who are on her level for a 50 cent looking guy any day. The more loser he is the more she what's him. She is into street guys who will either end up in jail or dead. I never got it and stopped trying to figure it out. Maybe one day she will wake up and maybe she never will.

I just know I will take a nice guy over a bad boy any day.

Hello:

I don't know if this relates to women, but I'll bet it does. We ain't so different... Of course, I like nice girls - but I want 'em to be a little sluty too.

excon,
Nice guy

Hello:

I dunno if this relates to women, but I'll bet it does. We ain't so different... Of course, I like nice girls - but I want 'em to be a little sluty too.

excon,
nice guy

Wow. :)

Hello:

I dunno if this relates to women, but I'll bet it does. We ain't so different... Of course, I like nice girls - but I want 'em to be a little sluty too.

excon,
nice guy

I sort of agree with you when I think about it but, the term sluty is too much

Hello again, j:

I thought I was being nice. The old expression goes something like this: Most guys want their girl to be a virgin in the living room, and a whore in the bedroom.

I'm no different.

excon

I used to hear the saying men want their woman to be 'a nun in public, a saint in private, and a whore in the bedroom.'

In some ways I find this insulting. I think it's the idea implied that a woman should present a virginal face to the world as though her sexuality is bad that I object to. At the same time I must admit the idea of a guy who is good and kind, great with the kids, can knock up something tasty in the kitchen, but is all bad-boy in the bedroom is very appealing. So a saint in the kitchen and a whore in the bedroom works both ways fine for me.

I think it's sort of an evolutionary glitch. Times have evolved so that the qualities we want from our partners are much more civilised then we would have historically, when someone with brute strength and the ability to protect, with all the aggressive qualities that required are not so important now. However when it comes to passing on the gene pool I think we may still instinctively go for the overtly 'strong' qualities. Not to mention it's just more fun.

I do think people are attracted to the bad boys or girls inappropriately when their past has been difficult as well though. I'm no psychologist but I'm guessing it's some sort of attempt to fix themselves by fixing another.

In some ways I find this insulting. I think it's the idea implied that a woman should present a virginal face to the world as though her sexuality is bad that I object to. Hello Q:

Hmmm. Well, I'm NOT insulted by the same reference you made towards men... And, therein lies the rub. We have a double standard...

But, not me personally.. I'm just a believer in keeping private things PRIVATE. You couldn't tell that I'm an exconvict, or a very good lover just by looking at me. I don't have tattoos. I don't put bumper stickers on my car, and I don't have a tee shirt with a peace sign on it. I'm fine with my wimmin doing the same thing. Sexuality isn't bad - it's PRIVATE.

excon

Hello:

I dunno if this relates to women, but I'll bet it does. We ain't so different... Of course, I like nice girls - but I want 'em to be a little sluty too.

excon,
nice guy

Bad boy:cool::rolleyes::D

Hello Q:

Hmmm. Well, I'm NOT insulted by the same reference you made towards men... And, therein lies the rub. We have a double standard...

excon

Mmm perhaps I worded that badly. From the saying I was familiar with, 'nun in public, saint in private, whore in the bedroom,' if you remove the nun in public bit then I'm happy for the rest to apply to both sexes. I tried to imply that but perhaps did it in a rather rambling fashion, not very clearly. Maybe the context is that I feel the saying came from a time when double standards did apply and men who were sexually active were 'just being lads - nudge wink' but women were considered trashy if they lived the same way.

I'm not saying I want to go around acting overtly sexy all the time, but I'm not pretending to be a nun for anyone either. Then again I was brought up a good catholic girl when nuns ruled the school and still shaved their heads underneath the full garb, so perhaps I have quite strong negative associations with all that.