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hallie78
May 17, 2010, 03:00 PM
This guy has like me all year... he even liked me when I had a boyfriend but he asked me out a couple times and I finally said yes. But now I kind of like his friend. But I've only been going out with this guy for 2 days so is it no problem breaking up with him for his friend? Or has he been waiting to long should I go out with him?

Fr_Chuck
May 17, 2010, 03:19 PM
If you don't like him as a boyfriend, you make sure that is clear up front from day one

Cat1864
May 17, 2010, 06:43 PM
If you don't like him as a boyfriend, don't lead on him by letting him think the relationship has a future. 'Going out' with him is leading him on. If you have to 'break up' with him it has gone too far if you don't share his feelings.

I wouldn't make a play for his friend, either. Even after only a couple of days, it would be tacky and kind of cruel to dump him for his friend. The friend would hopefully have better sense than to date a girl his friend likes. It would a relationship killer all the way around.

I mean would you want a boy you are interested in dating you out of 'pity' or dumping you for your friend?

LexieLovesHim
May 17, 2010, 07:06 PM
Well you need to talk to this guy. Tell him you don't like him, and that you can be friends (even if you don't want to be, it'll still make him feel better).
If you plan to go out with his friend make sure to not to tell him "im breaking up with you because im not ready for a relationship"

So just be straight up and clear. It may be adding insult to injury if you dump him then go out with his friend. You should try being friends with his friend first to see if you really like him, and after time you could go out with him, but people judge you if you jump in and out of relationships. Good luck! (:

Benbostian
May 18, 2010, 10:40 AM
OK, quick question, have you gone on dates? How young are you? Because this really makes a huge difference.

talaniman
May 21, 2010, 07:50 PM
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/teens/like-him-he-likes-another-girl-but-pretty-sure-he-likes-me-too-460575.html

This is a different guy isn't it? Or is it his friend?

bestfriend_lover
May 21, 2010, 08:06 PM
Make sure you break up with your current boyfirend first cause if not.then that could start alotta drama..-Savannah

Homegirl 50
May 21, 2010, 10:27 PM
You don't keep going out with someone because they have been waiting too long, and how do you go from liking someone one day then liking his friend the next?

I'd say leave them both alone, next week there may be someone else.

hallie78
Jun 3, 2010, 09:38 PM
Thanks for everyone's help! I broke up with him! But didn't go out with his friend... Im young I move from guy to guy quickly(dedicated to you homegirl50) But anyway thanks

Clough
Jun 3, 2010, 09:48 PM
Hi, hallie78!

Relationships at a young age are typically on again, off again. It's a time for exploring who and what you want to be.

If people aren't able to explore possibilities in relationships as well as how to become who and what they want to be as individuals, it can lead to the person being very unhappy as well as dissatisfied.

Thanks!