Im 16 and he is 17 we have been together for 11 months we go to school together.

Before I give you why I think I'm being used ill explain why I'm so freaking attached. Ok so my boyfriend broke up with me for no reason about 4 months into the relationship, which was 1 month after I lost my virginity to him. I was devastated I had never been heartbroken, we got back together a week or so later only to break up 3 months after, we have unprotected sex and I got pregnant and lost the baby, we weren't together then I felt a lot of pressure to get and abortion from him he said things like we caant do this I'm not ready, but I wasn't either but then it died. I didn't feel support from him I wanted to hear it'll be OK and he'd be there. Now it killed me to have to tell my dad since he's the only parent I have, my mom isn't in my life, but it really hurt I had to c my dad cry, and I dealt with the shame alone because he didn't have to tell his parents.

The third time HE broke up with me he said he felt like we were doing too many grown up things I was relly mad not sad but I was mad because everything that's adult like we do is his idea. Then the next day he wanted me back now were in this situation.

I feel like I'm being used like the only time he cares is when were having sex. He leaves me to walk by myself at school while he's with his friends laughing and having a good time, and only calls or texts me when he wants to come over, all we do is have sex when he comes over. When I try to talk to him about it and ask why we never spend time together he says I'm 17 I want to be free, now don't get me wrong I understand that I feel the same way but if you are in a relationship your girlfriend or boyfriend becomes your friend too and just because he's 17 doesn't give him the right to treat me bad, I do way too much for him for that type of treatment. And I hate to say it but I even say no were not going to have sex lets just chill, and he kind of forces me I try to get up and he takes my clothes off anyway and starts to do it, leaving me mad and feeling ashamed and hurt I cannot stop crying because I don't know what to do.

He's not only using you for Sex but he's also Raping you , get rid of this loser before you spend anymore of your valuable youth on someone who clearly doesn't care. If he did he would have been there for you when you most needed him.

What a sc*mbag :rolleyes:

Sorry to be so blunt but your far better off going through a little hurt now than having to put up with being used.

I might not be the best when it comes to relationship advice (having posted on here recently myself) but you should leave him

You're 16 sweetie, I'm 21 and sometimes I feel like I'm too young to be tied down to one person. You can do a lot better. It sounds like you carea great deal for this person... take that care and give it to someone who deserves it.

Best wishes

He is a total JERK!! Leave him, and NEVER look back. He is raping you and treating you like scum. Not cool! What would happen if you guys got pregnant again? Are you on the pill or is he using protection before he forces you to have sex with him?

You seem like a really nice girl, you don't deserve this.

Sc*mbag is too nice a word for this guy. Rapist, user, abuser, that's more accurate.

You need to leave. With a boyfriend like him you don't need enemies.

I know you care about him, but trust me, you're better off leaving. There are guys out there that will treat you like you deserve to be treated.

We'll be here if you need support doing this.

Since the beginning of time, there have been men who use women, and there have been women who let them.

In mature, established relationships, there is a friendship first, a base of communication and mutual respect for eachothers feelings. After that, is when intimacy is thought about.

I don't see where you, or him, have even begun to build a friendship of trust and mutual respect, yet you have unprotected sex. I have to ask you what did you expect might happen, and I hope that scared you enough into getting on the pill.

He sounds like he'd treat his dog better than you. He has a one track mind, which is sex, and clearly you have allowed him the impression that you are available any time he wants it. Why are you doing that to yourself.

He doesn't even stop when you say no- he has no consideration for you- you may as well be a blow up doll.

Please give your head a shake and realize that only you are in charge of your life, and only you are in charge of the decisions you make. As long as you have such a low opinion of yourself that you allow this to continue, and you have to ask 'is my boyfriend using me for sex?', then you are far too young to have a sexual relationship in the first place.

He says he needs to be free, then let him be free. Dump him. Kick him to curb and let someone else deal with him, or not.

I agree with the others, he's raping you. The way he acted when you got pregnant should've been enough of a sign. He doesn't care about you. He has no desire to be there when you need someone to talk to or a shoulder to cry on. The only time he wants anything to do with you is when he wants sex, if you protest, he ignores it and puts you in a position where you can either fight back or give in and lie there.

BOTH are forms of rape. Just because he's not hitting you or leaving bruises or making you bleed, doesn't mean it's not rape. ANY time you are forced, coerced, or otherwise unwillingly convinced to participate in sex, you are being raped.

Dump him. Take some time to heal. Then find someone who WON'T treat you like sh!t.

In addition to what everyone else has said, if you're in a "relationship" that's on again-off again, that's a good indication that it's not going anywhere. You guys are young and there's no sense in dealing with all this so early in life. Focus on school, a good career and the right person will come along when you least expect it.

Wow, this guy is raping you, if you don't realize that, then its you that has the problem. You need to tell dad that he is forcing you to have sex, hopefully your dad will put the fear of god into the guy.

Move on, get away from him, and if need be protect yourself because he sounds like he could cause some serious trouble to me.

I hope she does talk to her father again. And I hope that she realizes that she is being used and abused by this 'boyfriend'.

Why she doesn't lock the door instead of inviting him over time after time is beyond me. She could stop him, but she chooses not to.

Maybe some counselling is in order, at least long enough to get her on some form of birth control.

Thanks everybody, even the people that tried to play me, anyway he's been acting like he doesn't care, it really hurts because I still haven't broken up with him I'm waiting for him to call first, and he hasn't yet. But some of you really helped me realize what was going on.

No means no.

Find yourself a guy that knows how to respect his girl. This is not love.

God bless you.

Sc*mbag is too nice a word for this guy. Rapist, user, abuser, that's more accurate.

You need to leave. With a boyfriend like him you don't need enemies.

I know you care about him, but trust me, you're better off leaving. There are guys out there that will treat you like you deserve to be treated.

We'll be here if you need support doing this. I really like him I feel like out of everything I've been through I wasted my time

Its not a waste of time really... it's a lesson learned... Now its time to respect yourself and find someone who treats you right and doesn't use you.

No matter WHAT the experience is, it's only EVER been a waste of time if you take nothing away from it. If you've learned no lesson or gained no wisdom or grown in no way, only THEN is it a waste of time.

Yes I think it's M signature, but it says, the only thing painful about mistakes, is not learning from them.

Yes I think it's M signature, but it says, the only thing painful about mistakes, is not learning from them.

Not quite but close ;)

He called me and I tried to politely tell him how I feel, then he broke up with me I said I feel like I wasted my virginity and everything on you he said yeah and you can't change it yo'ull never get it back. He was being relly mean laughing wile I was trying to talk and he hung up on me. He said its over this is too much.. Yes I'm crying

He called me and i tried to politely tell him how i feel, then he broke up with me i said i feel like i wasted my virginity and everything on u he said yeah and u can't change it yo'ull never get it back. He was being relly mean laughing wile i was tryin to talk and he hung up on me. He said its over this is too much.. Yes im crying

Believe me your far better off without him , he just showed you his true colours right??

We'll all be here for you if you need to talk.

He called me and i tried to politely tell him how i feel, then he broke up with me i said i feel like i wasted my virginity and everything on u he said yeah and u can't change it yo'ull never get it back. He was being relly mean laughing wile i was tryin to talk and he hung up on me. He said its over this is too much.. Yes im crying

I'm so sorry to hear this... wow... not a good guy at all... laughing and poking fun at your pain... you really deserve better... just mke sure you learn from this lesson... don't let a guy use you ever again and stay away from jerks as much as you can...

We are all here for you...

What a jerk! You don't need his carp! Don't look back.

Enjoy being young for a while. Don't jump into another relationship until you're SURE you're ready. Find yourself someone who treats you like a prize.

In a few years, when you see his name in the paper for being arrested, be glad it ended and you got out while you did.

From what you wrote I still say this sc*mbag RAPED you , I would tell your Dad everything and hopefully he gets what he deserves.

From what you wrote I still say this sc*mbag RAPED you , I would tell your Dad everything and hopefully he gets what he deserves.

I second that... he is a dirtbag and yeah, it was rape... repeated from the sounds of it...

Involving parents is hard, but this guy doesn't deserve to get away with it...

But for now... just take some time out and take care of yourself...

I really can't believe or understand why he was so mean I've never done anything to hurt him, he's always hurt me and I hate to have it seem like he is the one who is the problem starter but that's really how it is

I really can't believe or understand why he was so mean I've never done anything to hurt him, he's always hurt me and i hate to have it seem like he is the one who is the problem starter but thats really how it is

Some people just are unwilling, or unable, to respect others enough to TREAT them with respect. It has nothing to do with you. It is ENTIRELY his fault and his problem. You were just the unwitting victim.

Most people like that don't see themselves as being the ones at fault. You will never understand him, because you are not like him.

No one deserves to be treated like that. And his will come back to him. Hopefully while he is in jail.

I really can't believe or understand why he was so mean I've never done anything to hurt him, he's always hurt me and i hate to have it seem like he is the one who is the problem starter but thats really how it is

There is no understanding him or the reason why he is the way he is. I know its hard, but you got to try to forget about him and go no contact.

Don't blame yourself for anything that happened...

I have to see him everryday, I don't know what I should do. It just really hurts to know that he didn't care about hurting me like that, I just want to forget everything. I at least deserve a apology

WOW! He is a scumbag! You should have taken him straight to the police. You are SOOOOOO better off without him!

I know it hurts but just think when your over the pain and he has gone from your mind. There will be another guy waiting for you who will love you and treat you how you should be treated!

He really is a scumbag and you will realise that soon and be so much happier!

Just do your best to ignore him. I know it's hard. Between classes, try to walk with at least one friend, so it'll be easier to pretend he's not there. During lunch, sit with your back to him. Hang out with a group of friends before and after school.

Someone like that will likely spread rumors or say rude things to you in front of others. If he does, don't respond. Do everything in your power to remain composed and quiet. Keep a group of friends around you whenever possible. Good friends are always the best balm for a damaged heart.

I have to see him everryday, I don't know what i should do. It just really hurts to know that he didn't care about hurting me like that, I just want to forget everything. I at least deserve a apology


I have to ask at this point. What state do you live in?

Ohio

The reason for asking is because he actually broke the law by having sex with you before you reached the age of 16. That IS the law in your state. It's a misdemeanor at this point because your close in age but he still broke the law. So if he thinks your powerless teach the boy a lesson and let them send him up for a few days with bubba for re-education.

(quote)
(B) Whoever violates this section is guilty of corruption of a minor, a felony of the fourth degree. If the offender is less than four years older than the other person, corruption of a minor is a misdemeanor of the first degree.


Ref:
http://www.ageofconsent.com/ohio.htm

I just want him to want me back. Just so I can say no

I just want him to want me back. Just so i can say no



Don't attempt to play games , then you just stoop to his level.

Even though he does deserve a swift kick up the...

Just forget him. You want revenge? Show him you can live perfectly without him. Show him he meant nothing to you. He is just a fling in the past. Don't let him see you as frail. Show him your fine without him.

I won't make him come back to you so you can reject him. But it will stump him and make him think 'she isn't affected by me at all'.

I just want him to want me back. Just so i can say no


By your own admission, and by all the comments here, you know what has gone on, what kind of relationship you had with this guy, and your own question of 'Is my Boyfriend using me for sex?' has been answered very obviously, from every conceivable point of view.

No one would say, keep a line open with him, so that you can reel him in, and then cut him off. Or, have sex with him again, hoping to keep him as your boyfriend.

What is it about you, that you allow yourself to be treated this way. Why do you question whether the relationship is a healthy one. You know he will be no different than he was last week. Why do you do this 'revenge' thing at all.

I'm not so sure you're ready to let him go, and frankly, I'm not so sure you won't use sex to keep him, because that is what the relationship was all about.

I hope that you get yourself to a school counsellor, or at the very least do a little research online to see why you cannot let go of an abusive, self destructive relationship.

He has used you, and you let him. Now you are going to use him for revenge. Both of you need to grow up in my opinion.

You are playing a very dangerous game.

Wow. That was a thought and feeling, I'm not saying I'd do it. I'm done with him, yes I still like him but he crossed the line and answered all of the questions I had no answers to, I'm aware now I was being used I needed second opinions to make sure I wasn't overreacting, which means I was obviously to attached to realize he was using me. He doesn't deserve sex and didn't deserve it before Which is why I felt he was taking advantage of me, I find it awkward to kick and scream while he's on top of me. I've been through so much drama before him to last me 25 lifetimes seriously with my mom and all I have a problem being left and abandoned, I liked him so much and I have so many feelings I still haven't released.

Wow. That was a thought and feeling, I'm not saying I'd do it. I'm done with him, yes I still like him but he crossed the line and answered all of the questions I had no answers to, I'm aware now I was being used I needed second opinions to make sure I wasn't overreacting, which means I was obviously to attached to realize he was using me. He doesn't deserve sex and didn't deserve it before Which is why I felt he was taking advantage of me, I find it awkward to kick and scream while he's on top of me. I've been through so much drama before him to last me 25 lifetimes seriously with my mom and all I have a problem being left and abandoned, I liked him so much and I have so many feelings I still haven't released.

Just keep in mind that we volunteer here and your more then welcome to come back at any time you feel the need. Sometimes we may not respond right away but we do our best. Life has no reverse. Its always forward motion and your waking up to a brand new life. Keep your head high.

It's only natural to want to feel wanted. Rejection hurts, even if it's from someone you don't want, in the first place. That's OK.

You've acknowledged the feeling and realized that it's not something you want to pursue. Now, you just have to put the feeling, and the relationship, behind you and work to move on.

Take your time. I would suggest waiting several months, if not longer, before getting into another relationship. You need that time to deal with everything, process emotions, let go of the past, and figure out who you are OUTSIDE of a relationship. Only after you've done all that, will you be ready to truly move on.

I have started to read your other thread and what your x has done to you is awfull and wrong on so many levels hon!

I think a lot of people come to AMHD to get advice and help on problems dealing with break ups, heart ache and relationships in general!

How do you feel? Isn't that a good place to start?

I've always found it helpful to start with verbalizing my emotions...

So how DO YOU feel?

I'll read/listen and advice anyway that I can!

Thank you so much and right now it feels like it's the end of the world. I really hate how he made it seem like he was the victim and he was the one that was going through so much, I tried to see it that way but he hasn't dealt with anything, its always been me dealing with it it was totally unfair and I feel so stupid for dealing with it. I hate having to see him everyday and I know for sure I'll see him with other girls because everyone likes him, but I just hate that he was so mean and he didn't care.

I think that you def need time to heal and let yourself heal.

I know that its prob going to be really though for you now.. to see him in school and so on, but HS doesn't last for ever (I know, not that comforting at the moment right?)

Also I def think that you need to step back from this situation and deal with the emotions that you're dealing with right now. Cause they need to be addressed! They really do!

Both the emotions surrounding him and his role in it all, what ever emotions you have regarding your role in it and the emotional pain surrounding your mom... and maybe even the baby you lost...

The way I see it, you're a 16 year old girl who has a lot of emotion and pain on your plate right now and I think it would be wise of you to try and deal with it...

I do have two suggestions as to how you can deal with the pain and clearly define your thoughts on all the things that has happened to you.

1. either see a school conslor... or maybe talk to your dad and tell him that you think it's a good idea for you to maybe see a therapist/phycologist/conslor, because you've been through a lot and sometimes its good to have an outsider help you to deal with the pain and the events that have taken place!

2. Start a diary or journal where you try to verbalize what you are going trhough!

I know that both might seem reduntant, or silly, or like there is no point to it! But I always think that both options are worth a try. (I know that both points have worked for me, and I know people who has sorted to both and found it helpful!)

And know that AMHD and we.. the people who voluntair our time here are here when you need us!


PS: I would like to add that going back to him should not be an option... it won't get better no matter how much you want it to! It will most likely just get worse. He is an immature, insenitive 17 year old boy... and you should work on getting over him and STAYING away from him!

I think that you def need time to heal and let yourself heal.

I know that its prob gonna be really though for you now.. to see him in school and so on, but HS doesn't last for ever (I know, not that comforting at the moment right?)

Also I def think that you need to step back from this situation and deal with the emotions that you're dealing with right now. Cause they need to be addressed! They really do!

Both the emotions surrounding him and his role in it all, what ever emotions you have regarding your role in it and the emotional pain surrounding your mom... and maybe even the baby you lost...

The way I see it, you're a 16 year old girl who has a lot of emotion and pain on your plate right now and I think it would be wise of you to try and deal with it....

I do have two suggestions as to how you can deal with the pain and clearly define your thoughts on all the things that has happend to you.

1. either see a school conslor... or maybe talk to your dad and tell him that you think its a good idea for you to maybe see a therapist/phycologist/conslor, because you've been through a lot and sometimes its good to have an outsider help you to deal with the pain and the events that have taken place!

2. Start a diary or journal where you try to verbalize what you are going trhough!

I know that both might seem reduntant, or silly, or like there is no point to it! But I always think that both options are worth a try. (I know that both points have worked for me, and I know people who has sorted to both and found it helpfull!)

And know that AMHD and we.. the people who voluntair our time here are here when you need us!!


PS: I would like to add that going back to him should not be an option... it won't get better no matter how much you want it to! It will most likely just get worse. He is an immature, insenitive 17 year old boy... and you should work on getting over him and STAYING away from him! Thank you you really really made me feel a lot better, I'm going to tell my dad I want to go to counseling or something. The funny thing is my dad is a counselor, the reason I have not talked to him about it is because I know if my dad sees me cry( I always cry when I try to explain this) then he'll take things to the next level, I have no idea what he'd do. But I really want to talk to him about it he always says you can talk to me about anything my door is always open. But I just don't know how to go about it

Sometimes talking about the difficult things with a stranger helps you be able to talk about them with the people closest to you. Being a counselor, I'm sure he'll understand that.

I'm glad that you're verbalizing it! Its always a good way to start. To verbalize and sort things out!

First of all, it is understandable that you hate having to see him everyday... but hopefully with time this will get better! (I know, not that comforting right now, but it will!) Time heals all wounds might sound like a cheezy cliché but its pretty true... with time and sorting out the way we feel about stuff we can get through a lot of stuff!

All of the things you're feeling right now are not wrong in anyway, at least I don't think so. Even the part about feeling stupid for dealing with the situations that the two of you got into together! I can totally understand where you're coming from! I was in a relationship with a guy who treated me like crap and I am fully aware of now that I let him threat me like crap.. and once I got out of the relationship is when I could see that clearly!

And I felt like a complete idiot. There I was a 25 year old college gratuate who was labeled as promising and I had enabled this jerk to make me feel like an idiot. I had let him wear me down to this person who had no beief in herself... no self conficence at all.

I'm not saying that this is how you feel and why you feel the way you do... I'm saying it because I know what its like to come out of a relationship with the short end of the stick. I even left him, mostly because he was not letting go! He refused to let go!



It's also not that strange to hate him!

What I think is a good idea though is to separate certain things about him out and dealing with him, the relationship and all of the different problems and deal with them seperatly.

And not wanting to see him in school and dreading when he finds someone new, well I think that will lighten as you walk a path where you can reconzile with the way you feel and hopefully get to a place where you can LET GO of those feelings!

Do you think that will be posible with time? I know from the other thread that this is still very fresh and that you have a lot of othe rthings going on right now!

Cupid, I know what you mean about the mixed emotions and confusing thoughts. We have all been there at one time or another. Relationships are complicated and difficult, especially when they have to come to an end.

Even in the worst of relationships you will find and remember some good times, but it is important that you accept the confirmation from everyone that has posted, that your feelings, and doubts and fears about this boyfriend, are saying everything you probably already know. You need to hear it, and allow the truth to just be what it is.

There are people out there your own age, that can open a whole new world for you. Motivate yourself to make a plan to go in a different direction. Join a club at school, or join theatre (not sure why I said that, but you are sensitive, and that is a good way to allow for expression). Start keeping a diary when you feel yourself questioning if you are doing the right thing, and write in it every single time you have a good day, that just involves you and your needs, wants and dreams.

As you build up your confidence and experience new things with likeminded people, you'll develop new friendships, some that may last a lifetime.

Don't slip now. Take those steps to being independent and you will gain so much in return. But, you have to work for it.

I hope that someday you will look back on this boyfriend, and realize it was a wakeup call, and also know that you are a decent person, and deserve to be treated as a human being, with all that that should entail.

You and your future are what counts. You can leave him in the dust and have the satisfaction of knowing that you found a way out, and you're going after your dreams without anybody holding you back.

Thank u you really really made me feel a lot better, I'm going to tell my dad I want to go to counseling or something. the funny thing is my dad is a counselor, the reason I have not talked to him about it is because I know if my dad sees me cry( i always cry when i try to explain this) then he'll take things to the next level, I have no idea what he'd do. but i really want to talk to him about it he always says u can talk to me about anything my door is always open. But i just don't know how to go about it

I'm happy that you see this as a possibility Hon! I really am! And seeing as your dad is a counselor... like Hheat said I'm sure that he will understand if you explain that it will be easier to talk to a stranger about all of this!

Cause I feel, after reading about your story that you def could use some non partial help with all of this!

I'm also glad that your dad seems like a man who is open and understanding!

Why not tell him that:

You feel that you could really use some help sorting stuff out. He knows about your mom, you told him about the baby.. so he'll prob understand and agree that seeing someone who is not standing in the middle of all this is a good idea!

Had to spread the rep Roxie, but good advice and insight all the way around.

I know I'll get over this but its just so much, and I try my best not to think about it, when I saw him today he looked happy like nothing ever happened, and acted like I wasn't even there, there are these freshman or 9th graders and they're the girls that like him. I've dealt with rumors and all types of stuff from them and he always hangs around them I don't understand why, and I have very few friends in the lower grades and they tell me what they've heard and what people say and they just don't know anything that I have been through,yet they talk like they were in the relationship with us, only my ffriends know everything he does and the things I've been through and how he treats me, It makes me not even want to walk through the halls at school, I feel like they have a reason to be happy and laugh at me since we're not together. None of them like me because they were jealous I went out with him. But honestly I'm the type of person that doesn't care about what other people think until that starts to effect how I think about myself

Well of course he likes them if they are the ones that give him attention, but in all honesty you shouldn't worry about that now!

What you should do though is try to let go off all the things you Can't control he is one of those things, the girls who like him is another, and sadly rumors are also one of those things. You can't control what people are saying about you and when you walk down the hall and people are happy and laughing... one of my excericis when I want to control things I can't control

Take a deep breath and think: I will not try to control what I can't control. I will walk away from the thought and try to think about the fact that EVERY moment lasts for only a moment! I think about this when I'm in physical and emotional pain to: this will pass, everything passes!

I think you need to let go of those thoughts that come to you when your at school!

Think about this instead... Its going to be summer soon... summer vacation all that it has to offer! Think about that! Let that keep your spirits up and over the summer you can work on your emotions, you can hopefully get to a better place and reach a place where it truly won't bother you.

Summer is also a good time to take care of you and spend your time with people who gives you something positive: friends, your dad, other relatives... It seems that you have friends who know about your situation, lean on them. Find a safety in their friendship and the fact that they care about you!

Earlier in the school yet I let him put his things in my locker so we strted to share, and when he broke up with me the otherr day I told him to get his stuff out. He did. And today I stayed after for my extra class I go to scpa you know taking the stage, so when school was out my friend called me and said where are you come to the 4th floor, so I did. She handed me my things turns out he put my stuff in the trash in front of EVERYBODY, and now it seems like nobody likes him. What did I do to him to make him treat me like this, My friend said he put your stuff in trash and did something with my lock. WOw immature right, I'm thinking of telling my brother but my brother is crazy, he'll be done for. If my brother knew the details about what he's done to me he would be wiped off the face of this earth.

Yeah, I have a brother like that... i.e. will rpotect me at any cause. So maybe not tell him the details so your bro won't get in trouble. All though I'm happy to hear that you have a brother who cares abput you!

What you could do is report him to the school or get a new locker and explain that someone "broke" into yours threw all your stuff in the trash and did something to your locker

I see his way of acting Earlycupid as a way to try and control you. He is used to you being there. I'm betting that he enjoyed having you under his thumb.. so its very critical that you don't fall for his sh*t and that you keep strong although he is putting you through hell!

Do you think that is doable?

Yeah, I have a brother like that... i.e. will rpotect me at any cause. So maybe not tell him the details so your bro won't get in trouble. all though I'm happy to hear that you have a brother who cares abput you!

What you could do is report him to the school or get a new locker and explain that someone "broke" into yours threw all your stuff in the trash and did something to your locker

I see his way of acting Earlycupid as a way to try and control you. He is used to you being there. I'm betting that he enjoyed having you under his thumb.. so its very critical that you don't fall for his sh*t and that you keep strong although he is putting you through hell!

do you think that is doable? Yes, I won't report it and at my school you can choose any locker, but luckily I had 2 lockers so I'll just move to my locker on the 2nd floor, I still don't know what I did, and when my friend told me to come to the 4th floor 3 of my other friends were in the hall way, they were soooo mad, and they aren't my closest friends but they know some of the things he does toward me and they said he made a scene and was like her her, Like seriously what did I do, I haven't done anything to him ever to have him treat me this way

ANd my brother would get into trouble he's 22 but I won't tell him

One way to get a discussion started sometimes is to have a person participate in something. Maybe if you feel inclined you can show him this site and you both look around together and comment on some of the posts in here. Doesn't have to be this thread. There are many here just like you in many ways. Either way it would get a dialogue started.

Yes, I wont report it and at my school you can choose any locker, but luckily i had 2 lockers so I'll just move to my locker on the 2nd floor, I still don't know what i did, and when my friend told me to come to the 4th floor 3 of my other friends were in the hall way, they were soooo mad, and they aren't my closest friends but they know some of the things he does toward me and they said he made a scene and was like her her, Like seriously what did i do, i haven't done anything to him ever to have him treat me this way

I think you need to just move to your other locker and leave it at that. Avoid him and avoid addressing his actions! Don't talk to him about it, don't talk to HIS friends about it. You know who your friends are. They did call you after all.

I agree, just act like nothing at all happened. Go on with life. Don't let him see how it upsets you. Don't waste anymore time and emotion on trying to figure out why, or if you did something wrong.

This isn't your fault. He is a jerk.

Yes, I wont report it and at my school you can choose any locker, but luckily i had 2 lockers so I'll just move to my locker on the 2nd floor, I still don't know what i did, and when my friend told me to come to the 4th floor 3 of my other friends were in the hall way, they were soooo mad, and they aren't my closest friends but they know some of the things he does toward me and they said he made a scene and was like her her, Like seriously what did i do, i haven't done anything to him ever to have him treat me this way

(where it sayd her her its supposed to be F her)

You know how bullies thrive on fear and reactions. Well he is a bully don't fear him, don't react to him. If he does something like that again and you happen to be there just let him do what he wants as you walk away. Don't fight him that's what he wants you to do.

If he touches your locker again report it to your school. If he does something out side of school report it to the police.

If he gets too violent towards you there has to be some type of protective order you can get againts him where he can't touch you. Here in australia we have the Apprehended Violence Order (AVO) which comes in different forms such as can't touch you or can't go within so many meters of you...

That might sound like too harsh but remember he did rape you.

Like seriously what did i do, i haven't done anything to him ever to have him treat me this way

You stood up for yourself and he lost his control over you , that's what he doesn't like.


Good for you , doesn't that feel better ;)