jj2604
May 9, 2010, 08:19 AM
My first real girlfriend (I'm also her first bf) of 3 months broke up with me last night because she couldn't handle the fact that the remaining 3 months until she leaves for good will be too painful and that we would be living a lie or putting on a show. And that if we go through with the remaining months it will just hurt more throughout and at the end. I completely agree with the hurt part at the end, but I still think the remaining time that we have can be very special. We're both 22 and currently are on a "break" for about 3 days to give some time to process what and how we really want to do this.
We both just graduated and would be capable of finding jobs in Asia (where she is going) to move on. I 50% wanted to go because of her and 50% because it is a legitimate career move, which is just as important especially at my age. I thought if things didn't work out when we were there, we could break up there. It didn't need to be now, since everything was working so great. At this point, I would say she is a shy and emotional realist (with lots of feelings she doesn't know how to express) while I am an optimist for the slightest hope (I know if I try hard, it will work out as it has in my life for so many times)...
Now, I understand it might hurt more later, but I really think the remaining months before she leaves will still be fun. Or am I just in denial and trying to put off the "hurt" as far as possible?
Her reason for moving there is to start a new chapter in life... I know it is quite an odd reason to drop everything behind, but I 100% respect her decision and really like her for determination traits...
We both just graduated and would be capable of finding jobs in Asia (where she is going) to move on. I 50% wanted to go because of her and 50% because it is a legitimate career move, which is just as important especially at my age. I thought if things didn't work out when we were there, we could break up there. It didn't need to be now, since everything was working so great. At this point, I would say she is a shy and emotional realist (with lots of feelings she doesn't know how to express) while I am an optimist for the slightest hope (I know if I try hard, it will work out as it has in my life for so many times)...
Now, I understand it might hurt more later, but I really think the remaining months before she leaves will still be fun. Or am I just in denial and trying to put off the "hurt" as far as possible?
Her reason for moving there is to start a new chapter in life... I know it is quite an odd reason to drop everything behind, but I 100% respect her decision and really like her for determination traits...