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harshal143
Apr 26, 2010, 12:22 AM
Hi...
I'm in love but my family is opposing because... they want very rich boy... my father have no any objection about cast but only he want that boy should be very very rich.& my love is from middle class but he his intelligent that he can make money... but my family is opposing...
Eileen G
Apr 26, 2010, 08:50 AM
What age are you? Why do your parents get to choose something as important as who you marry?
I believe that who you marry should be your own choice. But equally, you should be able to support yourself so that you are not depending on handouts from your parents or anyone else.
Being married is tough, no matter how great the other person is. Being married to the wrong person is hell. This is a decision you have to make for yourself, and you have to be absolutely sure about why you are making it.
Wondergirl
Apr 26, 2010, 09:04 AM
I'm guessing you are in India and your parents will arrange your marriage?
How old is the boy you love? Do your parents have someone in mind for you already?
harshal143
May 5, 2010, 12:11 AM
I'm 24 yrs old I'm independent now doing a job I completed my MBA.& he is 27 yrs.. doing job also & he started his own business but it is at primary stage.still my dad want a guy who is already rich.he want a family which is so rich. And we never want to marry without our families permission.
harshal143
May 5, 2010, 12:17 AM
Hi... m 24 yrs old completed MBA.& he is 27 yrs old.we both doing job.but m from city & he is from villege.but from 10 yrs he is staying in city.my father want a guy from city only & who should be very rich. & his family having problem of my cast.so they are also opposing
Eileen G
May 5, 2010, 06:53 AM
As an independent woman, naturally you will respect your parents, and give consideration to their wishes, but you are the one who will have to live in the marriage. You are not dependent on your parents financially.
However, it's important to try to look at this objectively. Sometimes opposition can push you into doing something you hadn't planned, just because so many people object. Family opposition and different castes can make life difficult. Is he worth it?
I wish
May 5, 2010, 07:49 AM
I'm curious. You say that he has his own business now. If he starts earning a lot of money from his business, then will your parents accept him?
On a more serious note, you can't expect your parents to ever like him. So I suggest that you accept their opinion and make up your own mind. You said that you're independent, so make your own decision.
Unfortunately, we can't always have our cake and eat it too. You just have to weigh the pros and cons on each side and make the best decision from there.