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theunknowncitizen
Apr 23, 2010, 07:00 PM
I know that there are thousands of other people that have the same problem as me, but, I like a girl who has a boyfriend. I just met her this year, at school. About halfway through the year, we start to IM occasionally, we both share things with each other, I like someone, and she likes someone else, so I listen to her, and I hope that things work out for her. Things do work out for her, but, as will probably guess, they don't work out for me, and I end up talking to this girl more, and not just IMing, but at school. Even though it's only been a short time since I got over the other girl and started talking to this one, we've become better friends than I ever was with the other girl. We have a lot in common, and it seems like she's the only girl that I can be myself around. And, I know its childish, but sometimes I wish that she and her boyfriend will break up. I expected that the guy she was dating would be a jerk, born out of some old movie cliché where the guy likes a girl who's dating a jerk, but from what I have learned, he's a pretty cool guy, and she's happy with him. And, truthfully, that's all I really want, for her to be happy. But, I'm just so comfortable around her, and we have become good friends really fast. I'm not asking whether I should try and get her from her boyfriend, I would never do that. I'm just wondering if I should wait, or if I should move on, and if I should tell her or not.

justcurious55
Apr 23, 2010, 07:10 PM
I know that there are thousands of other people that have the same problem as me, but, I like a girl who has a boyfriend.

You do nothing. Telling her will only make her uncomfortable around you and ruin the relationship you currently have. Wait for her? I don't know what you would be waiting for. Maybe she'll break up with him some day. That doesn't mean she'll move right on to you. She's off limits. Time for you to move on

Showme_urmove
Apr 23, 2010, 07:29 PM
You are now on her friend zone, she is happy with him and only sees you as a friend. Sadly but it's the truth. What you need to do now is appreciate her friendship and move on to someone else, like what justcurious55 said you will ruin it if you tell her about your feelings. Take what you have and enjoy it.

I wish
Apr 28, 2010, 10:47 AM
Try reading this guide: https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/dating/guidlines-what-do-do-if-person-like-already-relationship-463250.html

It's never an easy choice. But whatever you decide, but prepared to face the consequences.

talaniman
Apr 29, 2010, 12:04 AM
Leave her alone, and get your own girl. She is taken, and you're just a friend.

amicon
Apr 29, 2010, 12:30 AM
Boyfriend=off limits.

If you can't handle a friendship,you step back and move on.

Devorameira
Apr 29, 2010, 06:12 AM
I agree with amicon. She's off limits because she's in a relationship.

Sounds to me like she really likes you AS A FRIEND. If you can't handle your feelings for her, then I'd suggest you find another friend, as she's taken.