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kittymoo
Apr 22, 2010, 07:44 PM
Hey I went out with this guy for 16mths. We were great friends. And really open with each other but had completely diffferent ideas on things I'm a bit of a control freak and I have some insecurities. And he's a free bird basically likes to do what he wants when he wants. I'm the opposite. Things were OK but about 8 mnths into the relationship things changed he wouldn't text me much any mmore and when I checked his phone there where a million text messages to this girl telling her she's beautiful and stuff he wouldn't pay attention to me he'd rather hang out with mate than have night in with me and stuff and I figured it was because I too pushy so I ended it. Figured we could go on a long break and both of us agreed to see other people but stay friends, I met this other guy soon after which I started hangin out with and the ex was OK with that we stayed friends for over a year after that but talked less and then one day he just wanted nothing to do with me. Said that I ditched him for some other guy and that I'm worthless to him he's deleted me off face book changed his number and everything I'm still in contact with his rents who I get on with and he tell me to stay away than I'm not wecome anymore and that I shouldn't tlk to his family and he want nothing to do with me. It hurts I no I screwed up abit but he hated me out of the blue one minute everything was fine and the next I'm worse than vermon! He has a girlfriend and all. I don't no what to do when I ask him what happened he just says "things change" and that he doesn't care about our friendship anymore... :( it hurts a lot!

friend4u178
Apr 22, 2010, 08:07 PM
It's quite possible his GF doesn't like the idea of you still being friends with him. Whatever the case he's made his choice and I suggest you respect that and just do the same , no point stressing about something that's out of your control.

If you do that , he'll see you in a much better light and you can maybe be friends again when his life isn't in the way.

oneinamillion054
Apr 22, 2010, 08:10 PM
Aww I'm sorry. I agree maybe his girlfriend gave him a hard time about being friends with you, and that almost caused them to break up so he got mad and just cut you off. I don't think its your fault, and you deserve more, so don't waste your time. The sooner you move on the faster it will hurt less.

sabrewolfe
Apr 22, 2010, 09:17 PM
Oh please, get over it. You moved on and he has. You both have different relationships and lives now. What do you need him sticking around in your life for anyway, you broke it off with him, so just accept that now he has changed his mind about wanting anything to do with you and get over it. Maybe it just took him awhile to realize he just doesn't need you in his life anymore.

Jake2008
Apr 22, 2010, 10:18 PM
He is being fickle an immature.

Accept the relationship and then the friendship, are over.

Do yourself a favour and stop dwelling on what was, and what will never be again.

Kitkat22
Apr 22, 2010, 10:25 PM
I'm so sorry you're feeling so sad. It's time to let go. Maybe
You all can be friends again someday, but for now just leave him alone and don't have any contact.

Sometimes friends out grow each other.. it happens. I hope you start feeling better... Blessings:)

Devorameira
Apr 23, 2010, 10:21 AM
I'd venture to say that his new girlfriend is a little on the jealous side and doesn't want you two keeping in contact.

It's over, so just ignore him.

Kitkat22
Apr 23, 2010, 11:39 AM
I'd venture to say that his new girlfriend is a little on the jealous side and doesn't want you two keeping in contact.

It's over, so just ignore him.




There are friends who are there for a lifetime. Those are the ones
Who will stick when the road is rough.:) Then there are those who when the road gets rough... they leave you and that does hurt. I do
Hope you have other friends to help you right now. Treasure them!;)