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stljayhawk
Apr 22, 2010, 11:16 AM
I met this girl through a mutual friend a couple weeks ago. We went on two dates that I thought were really good. We talked really easily, laughed a lot, and she even showed me pictures of her friends and family on her phone. At the end of the second date, I dropped her off at her place and kissed her goodnight. We talked or saw each other everyday for the first 6 days.

The next day after the second date, I saw her at school, and she seemed a little weird. I called her later that night and she didn't call back. I called her again this past Friday and she returned my call and we talked for awhile, but she had to cut me off and said she'd call back but did not. We have not spoken since.

I know that she is very busy because we are both in grad school and finals are next week. I asked our mutual friend to see what was going on, and the mutual friend talked to her. She said she isn't sure, and she can't think about hanging out until after finals are over. She also said she wants to hang out with me but isn't sure if she feels a spark or not.

I feel as though I probably rushed things and came off a bit needy and maybe got put into the friend zone. She was quite interested when we first started seeing each other, so if there is any way to salvage that interest, please let me know what steps to take or what she may be thinking? Thanks!

I wish
Apr 22, 2010, 01:22 PM
Wait till after the exams before trying to contact her again. School is definitely more important. If she's still not willing to put some effort into hanging out with you, then that's a fairly clear sign that she's not interested.

However it does not seem that she's as interested as before.

slapshot_oi
Apr 22, 2010, 02:02 PM
Well, if you're worried that you came off too needy, you probably did. The last thing you want to do is contact her.

She has your number, if she wants to get in touch with you, she will. Until then, hang tight and preoccupy yourself with someone or something else.

bordo3k
Apr 28, 2010, 07:43 PM
Sounds like you moved a little too fast. Sadly in the beginning we have to play games. Like it or not. You need to have the will power not to respond to text messages the moment you receive them and if she initiates plans, don't commit right away. Leave her in the dark for a day or two and then agree to those plans. It's all about keeping the ball in your court. Give her the ball and she could run away with it. Be patient, too. Sometimes these things can take months, but if you put in your time and play your cards right, in the end it will all have been worth it. Then you can let your guard down.

talaniman
Apr 29, 2010, 04:14 PM
Its only been a few weeks, and she does have finals so give her space and keep doing your thing.

To soon to even be worried, or try to figure out what's up. Way to soon to even take her actions personally as we never know what's going on in the life of an attractive stranger.

Devorameira
Apr 29, 2010, 04:20 PM
Give her the benefit of the doubt and wait until finals are over.

After finals you can call her up and ask her out ONCE, but be sure to not harass her or you'll run her off for sure (if you haven't already).

Good luck!