I need everyone's opinion on this please. I've been dating this girl for like 5 months and we broke up because we kept fighting with me and she cheated on me and everything just kept getting worse. After we broke up, she dated a new guy the very next day. She eventually told me she had feelings for me and was scared that I would hurt her again and broke up with her boyfriend within 4 weeks. After that guy, the very next day again she found a new boyfriend that is online. She has been dating him for over a month now and she told me to move on and that she loved him, but still had feelings for me. I eventually gave up and just let her go, but then we went to prom together. I actually kissed her a couple times [just pecks] before this all happened during the day of prom. During prom I met lots of her friends and near the end of dancing her friend grabbed me and we slow danced a couple songs and we held each other close and cuddled somewhat while dancing and then we had regular dance. Then me and her sat down and she leaned her head against me and I leaned mine against hers. Then eventually we held hands and I put my arms around her and we talked a lot and she asked me to go out with her and I said yes. We talked and held hands and hugged later that night. This girl that I'm now dating said that her and my ex girlfriend are not very close, but my ex said they are. Eventually my ex found out and flirted with another guy while dating that guy online and she wouldn't talk to either of us. When I left the next day my ex was crying to me and saying all kinds of mean things because I'm dating her friend. The rumor got all around their school and some of them are becoming lies and just mean things said to me and her. My ex girlfriend and her family are so mad at me. My girlfriend said that she would get over it probably and that since they didn't hang out much that it wouldn't matter much. Today she called and cried that she did love me and that she cared even though she never said anything about it and told me to move on and that she wouldn't leave her boyfriend. I gave up weeks on trying to get her back before this happened. So she is crying at me still and I'm not sure what to do, but my girlfriend said she likes me a lot and she wouldn't leave me just because of this and not to worry, but I still worry about her because she is getting all this crap said to her and I can't help [we live in different cities]. I feel bad for my ex because she is crying. My friends said that my ex is being a drama queen and I mostly agree, because she didn't care till I dated someone else and that she showed no signs. I tried to think of it from her view and I would be a little upset if this happened to me, but this is a bit far for not very good friends. She told me she is going to kill herself and that I'm horrible and some cuss words and some other mean things. I'm not sure what I should do, but I don't really want my ex anymore and now she wants me I think and I like her friend a lot and it was a very special moment and it was the first time I met her and it was amazing. Comment on anything please and I'm sorry it was so long. I tried to explain everything and if you have any questions I'll answer them and thank you for reading and commenting. It means a lot :]

I think your ex is being WAY over dramatic. I think she hate the fact that she doesn't hold your attention anymore and that she likes to be the center of everyone's affection. She probably cheated more than once as a matter of fact. Oh and tell your current girlfriend to just stay away from your ex and just don't respond to anything. The childish games will pass when she realizes that they are not affecting the two of you. And the heat will get away from your girlfriend soon enough. DO NOT answer the phone for you ex, its insulting to your current

Thanks. She is having a hard time with my ex girlfriends friends too. My ex told me that she is not scared to beat her up and today my girlfriend called and told me that my ex told her that I was going to leave her for Trinity and she was so scared, but I told her that won't happen and to call me if anything else happens. Then my ex calls me and tells me that my girlfriend was trying to talk to her and that she said nothing to her except to leave her alone, which I think is a lie. Then my ex called her mom and cried to her and then her mom called me and said the same thing. People at her school are saying all kinds of mean things and I don't know what to do. Should my girlfriend or I feel bad at all for hurting her or something? I do feel a little sorry that I'm dating her friend, but that still shouldn't be such a big deal. Thank you for your help!!

Your ex is a manipulative drama queen.

You and your new GF should ignore her. Block her calls and ask other people not to tell you about her. The more you respond or try to defend yourselves the more drama she will create.

Kill herself? Forget her, she's toxic.

What if she feels bad for hurting her still and wants to be friend with her. Isn't it kind of rude or mean to tell her not to. Yesterday my ex told me that when they talk again that she will tell her to leave me if she is her true friend. If something happens and I end up alone again I'm making a pledge to not date someone's friend, unless its OK.

Its messy dating friends, that's for sure and personally, no matter how old you are I think its not worth the drama and headache, but young teen agers have to learn the proper way of doing things and they should have talked to each other. So I guess it comes down to how close a friend these two females are. You will find out soon.

Pays to stay out of these kinds of messes, as there are two many other options, for this kind of drama.


If something happens and I end up alone again I'm making a pledge to not date someone's friend, unless its OK.
Wise decision and glad you learned something out of this mess.