View Full Version : Should 15 years old girl sleep with her father
chey123
Apr 11, 2010, 11:43 PM
Hello
I would like to know is it normal 15 years old girl to sleep with her father? My fiancée soon my husband still sleep with her daughter when she is here she is coming every weekend!
hheath541
Apr 11, 2010, 11:54 PM
Is there another place for her to sleep? That doesn't seem at all normal or healthy to me.
Jake2008
Apr 12, 2010, 03:48 AM
Do you expect that you will also have to sleep in the same bed with the 15 year old as well?
My opinion is that is totally inappropriate and not at all a good idea, and most likely any reasonable person would say the same thing.
If you have to, and there isn't a bed for her in her own room, go and buy a rollaway bed, and have it prepared when she arrives.
I'd be telling your fiancé in no uncertain terms the sleeping arrangements are going to change, and change now.
ScottGem
Apr 12, 2010, 04:12 AM
Umm no. a 15 yr old should not sleep in the same bed with a parent except under some very specific circumstances. Maybe if you were on vacation and trying to save money, it might make sense. But otherwise it's a very large red flag and you need to think twice about a relationship with this man.
Gemini54
Apr 12, 2010, 02:56 PM
My husband has a 15 yr old daughter, and I would be very concerned if they still slept in the same bed.
In your case, it all may all be totally innocent, but it's still weird.
It suggests a level of dependency that's not healthy.
Does he expect that she will be sleeping with the both of you? If you want to continue with the relationship, I'd be making up a bed on the couch for her.
jmjoseph
Apr 12, 2010, 03:03 PM
Does she have her own room where she sleeps the rest of the time? Or does she sleep in the bed with her mother?
Either way, this is not normal. I would talk to him about it, and get it straightened out.
Do you think that there is any innappropriate relationship between them?
Kitkat22
Apr 12, 2010, 03:12 PM
Absolutley a no no. He should know better and so should she. Lay down the rules and stick to them!:eek:
Fr_Chuck
Apr 12, 2010, 08:18 PM
No,
ohsohappy
Apr 12, 2010, 08:23 PM
Does she not have her own bedroom? Heck no it's not normal. I wouldn't sleep in the same bed as my father, like, ever. I honestly don't think I ever did. That's not normal, and I think it's very very very strange.
Kitkat22
Apr 12, 2010, 08:38 PM
Does she not have her own bedroom? Heck no it's not normal. I wouldn't sleep in the same bed as my father, like, ever. I honestly don't think I ever did. That's not normal, and I think it's very very very strange.
I agree it is very strange. Put a stop to this!
hheath541
Apr 13, 2010, 07:46 AM
Does she have her own room where she sleeps the rest of the time? Or does she sleep in the bed with her mother?
Either way, this is not normal. I would talk to him about it, and get it straightened out.
Do you think that there is any innappropriate relationship between them?
My guess is that it's crossed her mind, especially since she came here wanting confirmation of her feelings.
Kitkat22
Apr 13, 2010, 09:29 AM
my guess is that it's crossed her mind, especially since she came here wanting confirmation of her feelings.
Don't allow the girl to sleep with her father... That's sick
SONOMAMA29
Apr 14, 2010, 03:02 PM
Very strange, even gross, where do you sleep when she takes your spot?
SSimp
Apr 14, 2010, 07:42 PM
No way! It is ungodly and unhealthy for the child, you know things come up at night, and somtime men do not know it, very unsafe. She's at the of menstural, she is not a baby. Sleep alone!
ohsohappy
Apr 14, 2010, 07:44 PM
No way! it is ungodly and unhealthy for the child, you know things come up at night, and somtime men do not know it, very unsafe. She's at the of menstural, she is not a baby. Sleep alone!
Tell me about it. I once saw something online about a woman who still breastfeeds her 8-year-old and her 12-year old daughters. THAT is messed up. That story was somewhere in Europe. England or something.
Kitkat22
Apr 14, 2010, 07:47 PM
Tell me about it. i once saw something online about a woman who still breastfeeds her 8-year-old and her 12-year old daughters. THAT is messed up. that story was somewhere in Europe. England or something.
It is sick!
Jake80
Apr 19, 2010, 01:11 PM
I never had the choice of sleeping with my parents when I was 15. My aunt and uncle sometimes slept next to me but I had problems and a arm or a cuddle made them disappear. It is only wrong because of what people think and it is only wrong if it is not innocent. I snuggle up to my aunt and I'm 30 no I don't sleep with her by snuggle I mean having her put a arm around me. I often woke up when I was 15 to find them there but I was a scared young man who had loving people with me,
Kitkat22
Apr 19, 2010, 01:18 PM
I never had the choice of sleeping with my parents when i was 15. My aunt and uncle sometimes slept next to me but i had problems and a arm or a cuddle made them disappear. It is only wrong because of what people think and it is only wrong if it is not innocent. I snuggle up to my aunt and i'm 30 no i dont sleep with her by snuggle i mean having her put a arm around me. I often woke up when i was 15 to find them there but i was a scared young man who had loving people with me,
A fifteen year old girl has no business sleeping with her father.. bad dreams.. feeling insecure... wanting to snuggle it doesn't matter'. It is sick...
Jake80
Apr 19, 2010, 01:21 PM
In your mnds eye
Kitkat22
Apr 19, 2010, 01:25 PM
in your mnds eye
Read all the other post before you start justifying anything. In "my minds eye" it is sick and perverted. If you think it's okay for a fifteen year old girl to sleep with her father.. you need help.
JoeCanada76
Apr 19, 2010, 01:29 PM
I was going to comment but I changed my mind. It is so self explanatory.
jcptoots
Apr 19, 2010, 01:47 PM
I think we need more info. As others have commented, is it a space issue? I have a sixteen year old daughter and she still gets frightened from time to time at night. I guess if I were away from home and she was afraid it would be fine for her to sleep in our KING size bed as I know that my husband is not perverted. He would probably suggest that she sleep on the floor in our room.
Does her mother know that this is the arrangement? Even if everything is innocent, it doesn't "look or sound nice." He could find himself in trouble and above all, this girl needs to be protected.
Kitkat22
Apr 19, 2010, 01:56 PM
I think we need more info. As others have commented, is it a space issue? I have a sixteen year old daughter and she still gets frightened from time to time at night. I guess if I were away from home and she was afraid it would be fine for her to sleep in our KING size bed as I know that my husband is not perverted. He would probably suggest that she sleep on the floor in our room.
Does her mother know that this is the arrangement? Even if everything is innocent, it doesn't "look or sound nice." He could find himself in trouble and above all, this girl needs to be protected.
I don't think anything justifys a fifteen year old sleeping with her father.
Call me old fashioned but it just isn't right.
ScottGem
Apr 19, 2010, 02:56 PM
I don't think anything justifys a fifteen year old sleeping with her father.
Call me old fashioned but it just isn't right.
Sorry, but while I feel the correct answer for this OP is it isn't right, I agree with some of the other posters who say we don't know enough information to say its perverted.
I will also point out that sleeping does not constitute sex. And I would hesitate to brand someone perverted on such scanty info.
Kitkat22
Apr 19, 2010, 03:03 PM
Sorry, but while I feel the correct answer for this OP is it isn't right, I agree with some of the other posters who say we don't know enough information to say its perverted.
I will also point out that sleeping does not constitute sex. And I would hesitate to brand someone perverted on such scanty info.
The girlfriend seems to think there is something wrong with it. More imformation is needed. I still think it's not a wise thing to do. Thanks ScottGem for calling me on the pervert thing.:)
jmjoseph
Apr 19, 2010, 03:04 PM
Tell me about it. i once saw something online about a woman who still breastfeeds her 8-year-old and her 12-year old daughters. THAT is messed up. that story was somewhere in Europe. England or something.
Yes, I think you should quit breastfeeding BEFORE they can unhook a bra.
hheath541
Apr 19, 2010, 03:15 PM
Yes, I think you should quit breastfeeding BEFORE they can unhook a bra.
My thought is that if they're old enough to ask for it, they're too old to breastfeed. Not to mention, wouldn't the teeth hurt? Is it even healthy for the mother to breastfeed that long? Reputable dairy farms don't even use their milk cows for that long.
JoeCanada76
Apr 19, 2010, 03:17 PM
Although they say breast milk is so much more healthier then cow milk.
BUT
Kind of straying from the op concerns just a wee bit. Lol As far as I know the father can not give out any milk, even if he does have big man titties.