View Full Version : What if there is a bully in middle school
twinkie15
Apr 11, 2010, 08:29 PM
What if you are new and there is a bully at the new school. Than what do you do?
justcurious55
Apr 11, 2010, 09:31 PM
Is this a hypothetical question? Or are you actually being bullied? In general, the best thing to do is ignore them. Bullies pick on people to get a reaction. They feel bad about themselves or something in their own lives but don't know how to deal with it so they take it out on other people. If they can't get a rise out of you, they'll usually leave you alone. If either a) that doesn't work or b) you or someone else is in physical danger because of it, tell a teacher or other trusted adult. Nowadays with cell phones and, if you can believe the media, school's reluctance to address bullying problems, anytime you can record bullying to show adults, that's best.
Also, if someone else is being picked on, don't encourage the bullying and stand up for the person being picked on. Sometimes all if takes to make someone back down is saying "not cool."
Kitkat22
Apr 13, 2010, 08:20 PM
[There is a bullying law and a zero tolerance policy in schools.
There is a law against cyber-bullying.. thats texting threats or saying something derogatory against another person. That includes cyber-bullying on a computer.
Advice... If someone is bullying you tell the principal and your parents.
Bullying is a crime and the school administrators know that. You don't need to fear being called a tattle- tale... the principal has to be discreet about it.
Read the handbook you get on the schools policies.. Just remember it is a crime and stopping it before it starts is the best thing... Good Luck:)
justcurious55
Apr 13, 2010, 11:30 PM
[There is a bullying law and a zero tolerance policy in schools.
There is a law against cyber-bullying..thats texting threats or saying something derogatory against another person. That includes cyber-bullying on a computer.
Advice...If someone is bullying you tell the principal and your parents.
Bullying is a crime and the school administrators know that. You don't need to fear being called a tattle- tale...the principal has to be discreet about it.
Read the handbook you get on the schools policies..Just remember it is a crime and stopping it before it starts is the best thing...Good Luck:)
Had to spread the rep. I know you're right kat, there are rules and laws against it. Unfortunately, too many teachers and administrators do little to nothing to enforce any of them. Having the courage and wisdom to make sure all of the adults around know what's going on makes it more likely it will be enforced, at least most of the time.
Kitkat22
Apr 14, 2010, 04:35 AM
had to spread the rep. i know you're right kat, there are rules and laws against it. unfortunately, too many teachers and administrators do little to nothing to enforce any of them. having the courage and wisdom to make sure all of the adults around know what's going on makes it more likely it will be enforced, at least most of the time.
I think the parents should watch for sings of bullying... You're right in a lot of schools they don't unless the parents get involved. It kind of makes them sit up and listen when you remain calm, have your information, notes and dates. It really does. :)
Rachael1904
May 31, 2010, 02:05 PM
Just stay away from bullies and if they talk to u walk away
Fr_Chuck
May 31, 2010, 02:20 PM
There will always be bullies in schools it is a nature of life, just like there are "bullies" that adults deal with on various levels.
First you ignore them, and if you have to report them. And as I have told my boys before most bullies have low self respect and are really scared people, who pick on people they believe to be weaker or smaller.
Kitkat22
May 31, 2010, 05:40 PM
There will always be bullies in schools it is a nature of life, just like there are "bullies" that adults deal with on various levels.
first you ignore them, and if you have to report them. and as I have told my boys before most bullies have low self respect and are really scared people, who pick on people they believe to be weaker or smaller.
I agree with Fr_Chuck... Don't be afraid to report them. There is a zero tolerance and a code of conduct. It's okay to tell.
positiveparent
Jun 15, 2010, 07:05 PM
Something is always done in UK if bullies are reported plus schools now have cameras everywhere, well out of or in school the whole place or most of it has cameras at every turn, literally, and that's no exaggeration.
So always report any one who tries to bully you Always!!
Kitkat22
Jun 15, 2010, 07:10 PM
Something is always done in UK if bullies are reported plus schools now have cameras everywhere, well out of or in school the whole place or most of it has cameras at every turn, literally, and thats no exaggeration.
So always report any one who tries to bully you Always!!!
Positive is right Twinkie Listen to our advice if the bullying starts it will stop if someone on staff knows about it... believe me.. I know this.:)
gerardob01
Jun 15, 2010, 07:35 PM
is this a hypothetical question? or are you actually being bullied? in general, the best thing to do is ignore them. bullies pick on people to get a reaction. they feel bad about themselves or something in their own lives but don't know how to deal with it so they take it out on other people. if they can't get a rise out of you, they'll usually leave you alone. if either a) that doesn't work or b) you or someone else is in physical danger because of it, tell a teacher or other trusted adult. nowadays with cell phones and, if you can believe the media, school's reluctance to address bullying problems, anytime you can record bullying to show adults, that's best.
also, if someone else is being picked on, don't encourage the bullying and stand up for the person being picked on. sometimes all if takes to make someone back down is saying "not cool."
I understand what your saying but sometimes even though it sounds basd he might need to show that bully that he isa not going to take it.. He needs to stand up for himself and I don't think telling a teacher at 15 years of age and in high school that's going to work. Sorry kido I think you may need to stand up for yourself and show him who is the man...
Good luck remember kido don't fight just to fight but only if you have to and absolutely no other choice...
Kitkat22
Jun 15, 2010, 07:41 PM
i understand what your saying but sometimes even though it sounds basd he might need to show that bully that he isa not going to take it.. He needs to stand up for himself and i don't think telling a teacher at 15 years of age and in high school thats going to work. sorry kido i think you may need to stand up for yourself and show him who is the man.....
good luck remember kido don't fight just to fight but only if you have to and absolutely no other choice.....
Apparently you don't have children. How can one kid fight three or four?
Whether you know it or not bullies run in packs of two or three. Telling a child to fight at school is inexcusable. BULLYING LAWS ARE MADE FOR ALL AGES.
It happens every day and some of these kids end up committing suicide when they are bullied. Check your state laws on this and then come back and tell a kid to fight...
justcurious55
Jun 15, 2010, 08:51 PM
i understand what your saying but sometimes even though it sounds basd he might need to show that bully that he isa not going to take it.. He needs to stand up for himself and i don't think telling a teacher at 15 years of age and in high school thats going to work. sorry kido i think you may need to stand up for yourself and show him who is the man.....
good luck remember kido don't fight just to fight but only if you have to and absolutely no other choice.....
That's terrible dangerous advice. violence is not an answer or solution. Getting adults involved is.
By the way, how about you try reading the rules. Disagrees are only to be used for factually incorrect advice, not differences of opinion.