View Full Version : Feeling obsessed by pregnancy
amyuk
Apr 11, 2010, 03:29 PM
Hi I'm 18 and I also have PCOS, I was diagnosed when I was 14. PCOS means that my ovaries don't work like they should basically and it will be very hard to conceive and I know it might be a very bumpy ride to pregnancy. Even if I do get pregnant there are many risks and possible miscarriages. I have wanted to start a family since I was 14 which I know is a little dumb. But know I feel myself being consumed my wanted to become pregnant and the fear of not being able to conceive. I have a lovely boyfriend of 2 years and we are very happy but I feel a strong yearning to become pregnant in fact its gotten me into abit of a state. It is impossible to have children in our life as we both have to study and get decent jobs to even begin to consider a family but I can't help getting down or a little jealous of pregnant women. I don't want to feel the way I do. I'm around my boyfriends pregnant mother and her toddler all the time so its very hard. Looking after my boyfriends brother only makes me want kids more. I need help.
pink_poodle
Apr 13, 2010, 09:43 AM
Finish school first. Im 18 and pregnant and I totally ruined my college experience. Why would you want to stay home and be a mom when you still have lots of growing up to do. Your 18 not married with NO children enjoy yourself there will be time for kids later. Just because you were diagnosed PCOS does not mean you can't conceive. Science only goes so far then there's God. Be patient Im sorry but don't b DUMB!
LearningAsIGo
Apr 13, 2010, 12:05 PM
Please take my word on this: Do not worry yourself about this now. I was 19 when I had surgery to remove an ovary due to ovarian cancer. For 10 years I worried almost constantly about my fertility. I told boyfriends that I may not be able to have kids and my family “assumed” I could not as well. It was incredibly tough and emotionally draining to worry so much for so long.
The good news is that you are aware of your condition and can work with doctors to increase your odds when the time is right. There are also many degrees of PCOS and many women with this condition are able to have children. (My friend has a “moderate to severe” case and has had four little ones!)
When the time comes, simply speak with your doctor and come up with a plan to maximize your chances of conception. While its completely natural to be concerned and aware, its another issue entirely to be too stressed and upset—which does no favors for your physical self.
Good luck to you—and remember to never loose hope!