Hi basically I met this guy at uni. We hung out nearly everyday. We both new he has a girlfriend and nothing happened between us. The whole time I liked him (but I am very good at hiding my feelings!). So all of a sudden four months ago he stops talking to me. Does not text me, doesn't reply to my texts.. So I decide to email him four months later and he replies- with an apology for not being "very communicative" because he has a girlfriend and "he found me interesting".

Anyway I have met many, many people since, have been so busy with work and studying but I can't stop thinking about this one person. Many people are interested in me- I date them but I come back to thinking about him at the end of each day. I think this may be going a little too far but he may be my soulmate? I don't know the other girl but even though I don't, I care about her and would never want them to break up because of this. My reply to his email was that he never had to worry about any of that because I just appreciate his friendship and that's all. I have decided to not contact him anymore after that last email. I will not tell him that I feel/felt the same simply because he is in a relationship and I'm just thinking about the other person. I just feel a really strong connection with him even when he is not here.. I have decided the wise thing to do is leave it up to fate... We are both 24/25 years old and aquarians if this helps! Any honest (whether negative/positive) advice would be appreciated... Thank you so much for reading..! :)

It sounds like you are obsessing over him.

He has made it clear, he is in a relationship with another woman! If he wanted to be with you, he would have tried to get in a relationship with you. Key words "He found me interesting". Sounds like a game to me.

It sounds like he simply wants to keep you strung along as a backup plan and you are buying it because you have developed feelings for him.

Have you met any other interesting guys, keep searching, you will find someone who is interested in you and make you feel special.

It sounds like you are obsessing over him.

He has made it clear, he is in a relationship with another woman! If he wanted to be with you, he would have tried to get in a relationship with you. Key words "He found me interesting". Sounds like a game to me.

It sounds like he simply wants to keep you strung along as a backup plan and you are buying it because you have developed feelings for him.

Have you met any other interesting guys, keep searching, you will find someone who is interested in you and make you feel special.

Sweetie.. I don't see a future for you with this guy. He is a player. The right one will come along someday and you'll know he's the right one. Leave this guy alone... :)

Sweetie..I don't see a future for you with this guy. He is a player. The right one will come along someday and you'll know he's the right one. Leave this guy alone...:)

You are very right, both of you! :). Thanks for that. Funny thing is I figure people out too easily- almost as if they are see through! I figured him out over a few months and he is everything I'd look for in a person. I know that these qualities are impossible to find in a person (be it guy or girl).. I have met many interesting guys before and since but I would always find a couple of things that I don't like/can't stand about them usually within the first 10 minutes. (Of course they would have no idea what I am thinking) and I keep them as friends :). I know I have to forget him and move on which is what I've been in the process of doing and will continue to work on. =) Thank you so much... xx

Honestly, there is nothing you can do to change things. I don't think your obesessing over it, your just wondering, if anything could ever came out of it. Your probably questioning yourself, well maybe I should have told him how I feel.For now you can't do that, he is in a relationship with someone else, and you have to respect him for that. No one knows the future, if its meant to be, it will happen on its own... good luck.

You are very right, both of you! :). Thanks for that. Funny thing is I figure people out too easily- almost as if they are see through! I figured him out over a few months and he is everything i'd look for in a person. I know that these qualities are impossible to find in a person (be it guy or girl).. I have met many interesting guys before and since but i would always find a couple of things that i don't like/can't stand about them usually within the first 10 minutes. (Of course they would have no idea what i am thinking) and i keep them as friends :). I know I have to forget him and move on which is what i've been in the process of doing and will continue to work on. =) Thank you so much..... xx

Good luck young lady... Your soulmate will be very lucky when you find him... Blessings

Originally Posted by honey4122
I know I have to forget him and move on which is what I've been in the process of doing and will continue to work on
I like that, he is unavailable so let him go.

I like that, he is unavailable so let him go.

Thanks sweetheart. I reckon this is the answer I was looking for..! Didn't think of it this way... He has no idea I've made him priority and I'm going to really get over him soon.. Thank you :) xx

Thanks sweetheart. I reckon this is the answer I was looking for... !!! Didn't think of it this way... He has no idea i've made him priority and i'm going to really get over him soon.. Thank you :) xx

You go out there and break a few hearts! Just kidding... You're a smart young lady and you'll do wonderful !:D

You are a strong lady that I ever know.. You AweSomE