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My girlfriend recently decide she needs space cause our relationship has become unhealthy for her, she says there is no one else , and that I have issues that I need to address . I went 5 days without contacting her , and then this past Monday evening , she called me . My question is what is really going on with her and what should I do ?

She is confused, give her the time and space she wants and move on with your life as she isn't coming back

If you want her back, then respect her wishes and be patient. She will let you know when she's ready to talk.

If you can't stand waiting, then make it a full break up so that you can start moving on with your life.

Either way, you can't force her to talk when she wants time and space.

I have decided to act if she is gone for good ! But its killing me inside to wonder what's going with her!

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It has been 3 weeks since giving my girlfriend space cause she felt the relationship was becoming unhealthy ! Since then when I stopped all contact with her, she just recently called me to say that she was just letting me know that she was still around ! What should I continue to do or expect down the line ?

Ask her what's up with her, then decide what to do. What are her issues with you?

Ask her whats up with her, then decide what to do. What are her issues with you?

She feels like I have anger issues, insecurity issues, but that's only because we broke up twice before ! But each time she came back to me , she pursued me !

Well is she right or not??

She's right about those issues , but if your girlfriend broke up with you twice before wouldn't you worry when she gets upset about any little thing !

She already broke up with you twice and I guess this will be the third time. What that mean is you guys have problem and the two times that you got back together you haven't solve those issues. If you can't solve those problem, I suggest you move on unless u're a sucker for punishment.

shes right about those issues , but if your girlfriend broke up with you twice before wouldn't you worry when she gets upset about any little thing !

Not at all, as after the first time they break up with me, I disappear from their lives.

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It has been a month since my ex and I at first took a break and then she broke up with me ! Since then we have slept togetherb twice ( recently 2 days ago) and we have even been out together just hanging around. But yesterday I texted her to see if she was OK ad she said yes, but my question is , what should I expect from her now ? The other day before seeing her, I texted her saying " that I know we're not together and i shouldn't expect you to want to see me anymore " and right ater that she texted me back saying she would call me later and she did, I went over for dinner and we were intimate ! Now what the hell should I do or expect? Someone pleaes tell me!

You are either broke up or you are together, not both.

Who broke up with who ? Why did you break up ?

What do you want out of this ?

Your expectations really need to come from her, not us. Having sex with your "ex" usually means you aren't really broken up... or it just means you are having casual sex... whatever the case I would discuss this with her. Judging by the way you worded this and how she seems to be the one in control, I'm assuming she did the breaking up?

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Me and my ex have been apart officially for at least a month, but since then I have stayed over her house 3 times , and had sex with her twice , my question is , is she having feelings of regret or feelings of possibly wanting me back

Too soon to tell.
Is this an ex-girlfriend or ex-wife?
How long were you together before the breakup?

I assume she broke it off with you and initiated spending the time together. How long had you been together before the breakup?

It's really impossible to know what's on her mind. It could be that she wants to get back together, BUT it could be that she just wants to hang onto you by a thread just in case someone else doesn't come along.

It’s very well possible that this girl is using you. Be careful, because it's got the potential to end in heartache – yours.

Talk to her and find out if she truly wants back together. If she isn’t committed, it's as simple as: 'Thanks but no thanks. I'm interested in a proper relationship or nothing at all'.

you are either broke up or you are together, not both.

who broke up with who ? why did you break up ?

what do you want out of this ?
She broke itoff with me , saying she needed space cause the relationship was becoming unhealthy ! I do want her back , I can't help but to be honest . But I also don't want to be a "just in case " type of guy .

I suggest that you be honest and straight about this.

Right now, you're in limbo, putting your life on hold and you've become her backup plan.

Put your foot down. Let her know that you want to get back together. If she doesn't want that, then go your separate ways.

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The woman I've been dating off and on for the last couple of years , has finally ended things between us for good! We just got back from a jamaica vacation the other day together, and although we have just been seeing each other as "just Friends" , she feels like I can't just handle seeing her when we both have time ! She says she wants and deserves more and so do I, so my question is , has she met someone else ?

No way of telling. Sounds like she wants more of a relationship and just doesn't see it happening with you and decided to part ways.

Nothing necessarily wrong with either one of you in this situation, just appreciate her honesty about it now.

She may not have yet, but she may later. Whether she has or hasn't met someone yet, disappear from her life, and rebuild your own.