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luvsick
Mar 28, 2010, 01:06 PM
Okay here is my situation. There is this girl I like and she is trying to decide whether to break up with her boyfriend of two years whose relationship is going nowhere or be with me. We both have strong feelings for each other and she wants both of us to write each other a letter telling each other how we feel. I need advice on how other girls would react if they were in her shoes.
Taylor over the past couple of months my feelings for you have grown, and I wonder if you care about me the way I do for you. It hurts to know that there is another guy in your life that I have to compete with. I’m tired of being second best and I’m tired of having to lie to my friends. I’ve told you before all I want is to spend some time with you and that’s not possible when there’s someone else. This is not fare to either of us. So you know how I feel about you and I don’t want to let you go but I also think that you’re not ready to let “him” go at least any time soon. The last thing I want to do is push you into doing something your not ready for. Everything in me is telling me to wait it out and see if she if you break up with him. That right there is what’s been messing with my head and it has been since that night I kissed you. But lately it’s been messing with my hart and I can’t take that much longer.

Kitkat22
Mar 28, 2010, 01:24 PM
Don't send her a letter! Ask her how she feels. There is a good chance she will show the letter to her boyfriend and you'll end up in a confrontation with him.

If she were interested in you, she would have already broken up with
The guy. Sorry

Showme_urmove
Mar 28, 2010, 01:45 PM
Kitkat is right, if she were interested in you, she would have already broken up with the guy. Do yourself a favor, don't force her to be with you, just let her come to you. But you also need to realized that if she can do this to her 2 year relationship how would you know that she won't do this to u if you ever do date her in the future.

talaniman
Mar 28, 2010, 07:43 PM
What the freak are you doing helping a cheater cheat??

bally21
Mar 28, 2010, 07:49 PM
Ya. Go away and find a girl that's available. So she's having problems with her relationship? Two years will do that to you. Think you could do better? Think some other guy won't pull the same crap on you?

Find a girl with integrity, independence, and self-control.

Kitkat22
Mar 28, 2010, 08:09 PM
Ya. go away and find a girl that's available. So she's having problems with her relationship? Two years will do that to you. Think you could do better? Think some other guy won't pull the same crap on you?

Find a girl with integrity, independence, and self-control.



Leave her alone! Don't make a fool of yourself! Harsh words I know. I don't mean to hurt you. I just want you to look at this situation clearly.:)

CanIBuyAClue
Mar 28, 2010, 09:42 PM
Definitely do not write her this letter. I think she just wants to see if you will do it just to boost her ego. It sounds like she already cheated with you (by kissing). Do you really want to have a girlfriend that will potentially do the same thing to you? At best you will simply forbid her to have any male friends. This will of course drive her away. Leave her alone. If she breaks up with her boyfriend and something materializes between the two of you somewhere down the line so be it... but I don't like where this is currently going.

Larken85
Mar 28, 2010, 09:56 PM
OK she has been with him for two years, she isn't leaving any time soon. (Expierence talking here) She depends on him for a lot of things and those are things that she would be very hard pressed to depend on you for. And if she did ever break it off with him she will always compare the two of you saying ____ always did this, or I never fought this much with ____. Do you really want to feel driven into the ground every time she says something like that? Well let me just say you don't want that. It was horrible. And she never ended up leaving the other guy. (for readers this is not a story from one of my posts. Separate incident totally) Move on and get out of the situation before you get hurt. She was the one ____ enough to kiss you while she was with someone else. And if there were drugs or Beer or something the kiss didn't even count. And DO NOT WRITE THAT LETTER BECAUSE HE WILL FIND IT AND HE WILL FIND YOU!!

amicon
Mar 28, 2010, 11:06 PM
She has a boyfriend.

She is cheating on him,with you.

Stop going down that road.

Gemini54
Mar 29, 2010, 12:12 AM
Um, I have just one simple question...

How would you feel if you were her BF and you read the letter?

Kitkat22
Mar 29, 2010, 09:30 AM
Um, I have just one simple question...

How would you feel if you were her BF and you read the letter?

Listen to Gemini54; This girl is not for you! I'm sorry. :(

HistorianChick
Mar 29, 2010, 09:55 AM
HistorianChick's one relationship rule:

If a man/woman is dating/engaged/married/or otherwise "taken", he/she is not available. PERIOD.

If you took it as your rule, you'd save yourself so much heartache.

Leave her alone. She has a boyfriend. She's not available.