I have a girl, we have a son, been together almost 6 years now...
She's a little older than me, but not by much, but my sex drive is
Strong, while her's isn't... shes got more experince than me,
But still she doesn't commit to the sex as I do, What should I do... I don't know

Ive been thinking of having someone on the side, maybe that will
Help get me the experience and some sexual urges out of me
And still beable to keep my family... I don't want to masterbate to porn
Flicks... I want some casuel sex, nothing more, but my girl just don't be
Into it as I am... if its late at night, she'll want to watch a porn flick
To get arroused... if its just us, she doesn't seem to be into it as much
Any suggestions...

May I ask how old your son is? Some women go off sex for a while as taking care of a house and children can be exhausting. Does she work? Do you help with the household chores?

My son is 3 1/2 yrs. Old, my lady doesn't work, and I do help with household chores, not much of them, but like taking care of my son, bathing him, cleaning up house around my area and stuff, I guess she could be exhausted, it is a bigger house we live in, but she wants to work, and do other stuff, but when it comes to a little time for ourselves, and me being younger, Im Ready I guess you could say, but she don't want to... or has an excuse or says maybe tonight when Im tired, talking about a porn flick or something, I don't need a porn flick, Ill tell her, but she don't want to hear it, Im thinking I'm not attractive to her anymore, or she feels like there's something better out there, I don't know, but I want to-Need to know...

FIRST-think about what you have got,and what you have to lose. Life is about being happy
And making other people happy, If your happy with what you have got ( keep it in your pants) if not get out

I think its not a very happy situation that your in at the moment.. but will cheating on her help? My opinion is that cheating is wrong no matter how you justify it, but that just me.. you seem to think its OK as long as you get what you want and she doesn't know
Have you talked to her at all about it? Not the cheating the.. lack of interest in the bedroom..
If you haven't then maybe you should, tell her you don't feel attractive to her anymore and you want to know what's going on...
If your deadset on cheating on her.. then how's about you find out if there are other options first?

That's the problem I do Love her, I love her so much, but I have these urges in me,
But Im taking in consideration that things are rough at the moment... Im not going to
Cheat on my future wife, I love her too much to do that, but damn its rough on me
Right now... so Im going to just chill out... wait it out, talk to her somehow, maybe
Throw hints to her, but if I start cheating it won't help, and Ill end up losing my girl

Have u communicated your problem with her??

You don't throw hints at her, you communicate like the man you are. I am really trying to get my head around this one, how could you say in the same sentence "I've been thinking of having someone on the side maybe that will help me get the experience and some sexual urges out of me AND STILL BE ABLE TO KEEP MY FAMILY " are you joking... what did you expect people to say - YEAH GREAT IDEA GO AHEAD!

I'm lost for words!

How old are you?

I agree with moyra.
Having people on the side is unthinkable.
No woman deserves to be cheated on just because you want to have sex.
If you're with this woman and have a kid you should have some kind of respect, love and care for her. If you didn't you wouldn't be with her.
If you love her you'll contain yourself and do what's best for your FAMILY.
Think of their needs and how cheating will put their well being in jeopardy.

When you have a family it's about sticking together and taking care of one another, put them before yourself. They'll always be there for you no matter what.


That's my dr. phil response.
And I'm only 16 hahaha.

If you plan to act out on these sexual urges and not take any consideration for what you could lose when you fulfill your own selfish needs, then I think a bit of counseling is called for.

Cheating on her will not lower your sex drive.

First thing, you've got to tell her. You don't really make that clear if you have. Then flat out ask her if there is something you can do for her that will turn her on.

Try this though, make dinner for her some night and take then give her a full body massage. Put a little romance into it and see if that helps.

I would like two know your ages, please.