I grew up in a Christian home. I do believe God is real and he is part of my everyday life. But what if I stopped believing in God during my teen years because what proof did He give me that he is there for me? I love my parents and I do struggle with them emotionally because my mom is not a christian but a buddhist. My parents have hurt me emotionally and sent me to a counsel to 'resolve my issues'. But what if God forgot about me and just have given me a horrible life on purpose? I use to pray all the time and was actually a God fearing woman down to having sexual integrity and never abused my body in anyway. I feel like he misplaced me in a society with a family that expects too much and too little in certain areas. My roles as a daughter, sister, and student is strained. My parents and I have recently stopped fighting for the past few years, but I feel like what does God have to do with any of this? Why has he stopped controlling my life to a point he let me get hurt?

I don't think god is letting you get hurt its you thinking this way that's hurting, your god gave you free will he never controlled any part of your life he just shows you paths to take the rest is up to you sounds like your very strong on your own just a little lost at the min

God does not forget about any or his children of forsake them. He loves all regardless of who they are. God is not there to make our lives perfect, he is our father, he is our guide. We all go through trials and difficulties in our lives, that is a part of being human. Never stop believing in him and doing your best to walk in his light, you will be rewarded when it matters, in heaven. God Bless!

God does not control your life - you do. It's called 'free will'.

Blaming God, your parents or other things in your life for your dissatisfaction or unhappiness doesn't make sense. You're not a passive player in your life, you have choices about what to do and how to respond.

We all have challenges that we need to deal with and we all have things that happen to us which we many not want or understand.

You assume that God has forsaken you because you feel hurt, and your life isn't perfect. In fact, that's the challenge. To continue to believe when things are hard.

God is in all of us (regardless of our spiritual beliefs or religion).

Hebrews 13:5&6 Let your conduct be without covetousness; be
Content with such things as you have. For He Himself has said,
"I will never leave you nor forsake you". 6 "So we we may boldly say:
"The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?"

Hebrews 13:8, "Jeaus Christ is the same yesterday, today, and
Forever."

This is why we can trust the Lord, "the Everlasting God" whose
"ways are everlasting" and who says, "I do not change", Jesus
remains the same forever. He wants us to know Him and have an
intimate relashionship with Him. We must grow in the grace and knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ. First we are reponsible for
renewing our mind, our thinking. When we are saved, God gives us
a new spirit. Disobedience and rebellion have worn many ugly
trenches in our minds. So we must meditate on the bible, which
expresses the thoughts of God. Meditation is more than reading,
it involves thinking about what the words mean and applying
the truth we discover. When we meditate on His Word and depend
upon His Spirit's power to help us put it into practice, our minds
undergo the wonderful process of transformation. that is how
we obtain "the mind of Christ". While we are to live, in faith and hope, our most important dwelling place is in God's love. Without making His
love our unltimate dwelling, we cannot fully live in faith and hope.
We should refuse to take a step or a breath without remaining keenly
sensitive to "the greatest of these", Our Father's Love.

Love and Blessing, Maggie 3

I just feel like He gave up on me. I have a lot of drama and I do feel unloved by one of my parents. I was originally from my mom's marriage and it is a touchy issue because my biological father left my mom when I was a barely a month old. I just got my current father when I was four years old. I mean I was blessed by God to come to America (I am actually from Asian descent). God has given me a lot, but I feel like He has given me a lot of drama. If I don't blame God (who sees, hears and knows everything that goes on) then who should I blame when sometimes the worst things that happen to me is not my fault. I don't know what plan he has for me...

I remember an adage from my youth. When in doubt, doubt the doubt.
God is not the author of doubt so if you run into a situation that you have doubts about, stop and go the opposite direction.
Blame the one who is the author of fear, doubt. Blame Satan for you fears. He is the one who wants to rob you of what God has designed for your life from before the beginning of time. God is love, God is the author of peace.
Yes, I know it is difficult. If you were to learn of my history you might see that your life is pretty wonderful. I am not trying to mitigate the things you are going through now, but rather I am trying to show you how to overcome. It is not easy. Do you have a good church that you attend regularly? If you don't, may I encourage you to get into one and get involved. Get help from a pastor if you feel you need it. It is not shameful to ask for help. Heck I ask for help and prayers from my 4 small groups all the time for all the issues that are going on in my life.

The thing is I work on Sundays... All day. I am trying to attend the morning service. But I feel like such a hypocrite if I go

I just feel like He gave up on me. I have a lot of drama and I do feel unloved by one of my parents. I was originally from my mom's marriage and it is a touchy issue because my biological father left my mom when I was a barely a month old. I just got my current father when I was four years old. I mean I was blessed by God to come to America (I am actually from Asian descent). God has given me a lot, but I feel like He has given me a lot of drama. If I don't blame God (who sees, hears and knows everything that goes on) then who should I blame when sometimes the worst things that happen to me is not my fault. I don't know what plan he has for me...

Your other thread shows that you have other issues in your life:

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-sexuality/could-bf-lie-about-having-sex-another-woman-456003.html

But these issues are not created by God - they are created by you and the people, and life experiences that you choose to attract to yourself.

You need to decide what 'plan' you have for yourself and to change your thinking regarding 'blame'. Why do you feel the need to blame God, or Satan or someone else, for the unpleasant things that happen in your life?

It's really important to understand that you have the capacity to create the life that you want and that it's not up to others (or God) to make it 'right' for you.

You will always feel dis-empowered if you continue to believe that God controls your life or punishes you by creating difficult people or situations.

I just feel like He gave up on me. I have a lot of drama and I do feel unloved by one of my parents. I was originally from my mom's marriage and it is a touchy issue because my biological father left my mom when I was a barely a month old. I just got my current father when I was four years old. I mean I was blessed by God to come to America (I am actually from Asian descent). God has given me a lot, but I feel like He has given me a lot of drama. If I don't blame God (who sees, hears and knows everything that goes on) then who should I blame when sometimes the worst things that happen to me is not my fault. I don't know what plan he has for me...

It will not make life better for you finding someone to blame when things don't always go in ways you like. We are meant to go through our trials, to rise above and choose to be better people, not make excuses and blame everyone else for the way things turn out. Our background and circumstances may influence who we are, but we are responsible for who we become. God doesn't give us drama, he's given us our lives to live in our own way. Don't give up on your faith, if you hold onto it, it can help you through the hardest of times.

I don't need to blame other people and I have been given a lot of things. But I just want to be happy

I don't need to blame other people and I have been given a lot of things. But I just wanna be happy

Your happiness is in your hands, not God's.

Yes and happiness is often more a state of mind, Paul spent most of his time as a Christian in prison, being ship wrecked, and more. In his ministry before this, he was normally not paid and had to work for his income. Not a "good" life, his happiness was in his heart and spirit, not in the physcial life he lived.

So who ever said or believed being a Christain would make your life easy, make you rich or give you a good job or more, that is far from the truth.

If you are not attacked or made fun of for your faith, I often wonder if you are really working hard enough for the Lord

We all try to blame God for things that are really not his. If and when you make a step toward Christ, you can find a happiness in your heart, but often taking that step toward Christ you can find the physcial world can often get harder on you

I do realize that people around me get more frustrating when one acts godly. I see it sometimes in one of my old friends. Over the top crazy godly that she didn't think a father and daughter dance was right. I mean what is the difference between being a good christian and being a good christian hypocrite. I see no difference because I only met 3 people in my life who is one and not the other

lea_09,
Don't blame God.
The truth is that your problems are consequences of this life and world and how you react to them or because of them.
We are all victims of suffering because of that and our own free will and actions and thoughts.
You have received some good answers here.
Please take them to heart and follow through.
I believe that God does not give allow us more suffering than we can handle and many, many people are suffering much more than you are.
I pray for you that God will help you through this life and that it improves for you each step of The Way.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

Remember when Jesus was on the cross? He thought his own father had forsaken him. God doesn't forsake his children. You may say he has but he he knows you. Satan will try to deceive you and if you listen to him you will find yourself doubting Jesus.

Rebuke him and speak Gods name and say the words of the Lord and he will flee. Our Lord is all powerful and even Satan trembles at the words of the Lord. Pray and pray until you know you have touched Heaven. God Bless!:):)

Kitkat22,
Very good advice!!
The Lord's Prayer is a powerful prayer and a very good one to start a person's full prayer time for other intentions, requests, and thanks.
Giving thanks is very important for it recognizes that fact that all of our good gifts come from God.
In fact all of the GOOD we have is via the grace of God.
Praise God!!
Fred

Thanks Fred... God Bless!

Kitkat22,
You're welcome.
I'm happy to be of help.
At my age of 77 it is my calling.
I'm here to serve as best I can.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

Kitkat22,
You're welcome.
I'm happy to be of help.
At my age of 77 it is my calling.
I'm here to serve as best I can.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

Same to you Fred. God Bless

I was reading an article about the Civil War . Gettysburg, Pennsylvania was the site of a battle that turrned the tide. One of the focal points of the conflict was a little hill called, Little Round Top. . Had the confererate troops gotten past Colonel Jousha Chamberlains men a lot of historians think the Union would have surrendered, possibly losing the war. "The 20 Maine" was the last line of defense.

Christians today are also in a war. We battle Satan. We are to put on the whole armour of God and stand firm. We have a long line of defense that is greater than any human force. That force is God's love and nothing can separate us from that. Remember , "We are more than conquerors. Christ lives within us. Just like those soldiers, we are armed by a great defense. God bless You!

We all tend to stray away from faith at one point or another. I had a knockdown dragout with God a few weeks ago. I just kept asking "how could you let this happen? why me? I dont deserve this" The important thing to remember is that life is all about trials and tribulations. Tests if you will. I realized I am failing at certain tests because I keep donng the same thing. Have you ever heard of the saying, "new level, new devil"? Once you pass one test you are presented with another one. It never ends for a christian, at least I haven't seen an end. Its what keeps us strong. Ask for disernment. God will never forsake his children although it may look that way. Its spiritual warfare.

Ok enough preaching I just read your post and though I would speak my peace if it made any sense. Take care!

We are God's people. If we have trusted Jesus as our personal Saviour, He will not forsake us , even when we fail him. There is a price we pay for our sin and we pay that price right here on earth.

He knows we are sinful and weak. He knew that before he called us. The assurance of our salvation rest not in ourselves, but in God. This doesn't mean we have a free ticket to sin, we don't. We are held accountable for these sins. Blessings:)

Kitkat22,
They won't let me agree with you in the comments.
They want be to spread it around which is MY CHOICE on who to compliment.
I will NO be forced to spread it around.
I agree with what you said.
Fred

Kitkat22,
They won't let me agree with you in the comments.
They want be to spread it around which is MY CHOICE on who to compliment.
I will NO be forced to spread it around.
I agree with what you said.
Fred

Thanks Fred! You're a really good guy!

Keep praying and asking God to lead and guide you. God doesn't make us do anything, he gives a free will. He has the power to make us do what he wants us to do but that is why Jesus died on the cross so we would have free choice and forgiveness.

Now Satan is different, he's sly and cunning and he presents himself in a form of things that entice us. He doesn't have the power that God has. He cannot make us do anything, so he tempts us showing us the beautiful side of sin. It is up to us to know the difference.


I do not give Satan the credit when I do wrong I had a choice. He couldn't force me to do anything. Giving him credit only makes him stronger in your life. Thank God for choices and may God Bless you.:)

I just feel like He gave up on me. I have a lot of drama and I do feel unloved by one of my parents. I was originally from my mom's marriage and it is a touchy issue because my biological father left my mom when I was a barely a month old. I just got my current father when I was four years old. I mean I was blessed by God to come to America (I am actually from Asian descent). God has given me a lot, but I feel like He has given me a lot of drama. If I don't blame God (who sees, hears and knows everything that goes on) then who should I blame when sometimes the worst things that happen to me is not my fault. I don't know what plan he has for me...

Lea – it is understandable for you to think this way because everyone at some point crosses this road. I have been in the same situations in life as you so I feel that I can relate to your story. My parents split when I was young and there was a lot of abuse and alcoholism in my home. When I left home I did so in spite and carried a lot of anger with me for many years. I became a Christian about 9 years ago and began to come to terms with my life. Was God good for allowing me to experience the things I did? Did he have the right to let evil happen to me at such a young age? Those were questions that I wrestled with as you do too.

When I think about the life of Jesus Christ, he too, experienced tremendous suffering and pain in this life. God had allowed Jesus to endure these trials…he appointed these trials for him specifically. The torture and punishment he endured is far more radical than most of us ever endure in this life but the point is that Jesus was not above suffering. Is the servant greater than the master? Should we live a life of complete blessedness without trials? The apostle Paul said that it has been appointed to us to not only believe in the name of Jesus, but to suffer for his name sake. Jesus also said that in this world we will have tribulations... but he has overcome the world.

Suffering is a part of the Christian life because through suffering we mature in our faith. We mature in our perspective of who God is and what is important to him. I argue that if it were not for suffering, we would all remain foolish and immature. Suffering has a very powerful way of drawing us closer to God and it makes us more compassionate towards others. Both of these qualities are things that God desires in us and it is through suffering that God matures our faith. Not only that but suffering is a grace that teaches us that we truly belong to God. When our faith is tested and we remain steadfast in our commitment to God, we come to learn that we are really serious about following God. We learn that God is working something marvelous in us when we are beaten up by life but remain committed to the Lord. It is only through these trials that this reality becomes evident in our lives.

This is a trial for you and it will sort you out. What sort of person are you? Do you love God or do you hate him? Even though he sleighs you, will you still serve him? These are questions that will be answered in time but these are questions that this trial is forcing you to answer for yourself. I pray that you remain committed to God because I know that you are in God's classroom right now and your life is the lesson.

jakester,
Thank you much for sharing your life story with us.
We can all learn from it.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

- FIRST - God does not control anybodies life and why would you want God to control your life?

- SECOND - Having a relationship with God means trusting him in your life. It means continuing a relationship with him always. Through Good times and bad times.

- THIRD - Honestly in the scheme of things you can try to be everyone to everybody but your only burning yourself out, it has nothing to do with God, but has to do with more your own personal decisions in life and with your relationships.

Jesushelper76,
Yes, it is the person who is in control of he/her life not God.
But...
A person can live a life trying to live according to the will of God.
Such a life has divine purpose and is very fulfilling spiritually which adds strength as time goes on.
The more we work our faith and desire to please God the stronger we become.
Thanks,
Peace and kindness,
Fred

I'm a christian maybe not a good one but I am one jesus die for you and for me he lives in you he's always there for you no matter what your family is that way is because you need to show everyone that being a christian is hard and if you can do it so can I in the bible god says that he will never forsaken you jesus is the best thing that ever happen to this world and you beliveing in him is all that he wants from you don't think he gave up on you he is right with you I hope I helped you and I'll pray for you

lostgirl17,
Yes, all Christians need and should demonstrate they are Christians by living a Christian life hard as it may sometimes be.
As Jesus tells us that we are the light of the world and to let our light shine with the good that we do and to give the glory to God.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

God never leaves us, we leave him but he is still there. I shudder to think of all the dangers and trial I have gone through in my life and how he brought me through those. Most of the times I didn't even thank .
He still loves me. And he loves you!

I just received an email and though I would share part of it with you all.

THE POWER OF PRAYER. I believe that God only gives three answers to prayer:
>
>1.Yes!
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>2.Not yet.
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>3.I have something better in mind.
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>God still sits on the throne, the Devil is a liar.
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>You maybe going through a tough time right now but God is getting ready to bless you in a way that you cannot imagine.
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>My instructions were to pick four people that I wanted God to bless, and I picked you.
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>Please pass this to at least four people you want to be blessed and a copy back to me.
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>This prayer is powerful, and prayer is one of the best gifts we receive. There is no cost but a lot of rewards.
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>Let's continue to pray for one another. Here is the prayer:
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>Father, I ask You to bless my friends, relatives and email buddies reading this right now. Show them a new revelation of Your love and power.
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>Amen.
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>I know I picked more than four, so can you.

Here si an old saying that requires some thought.

If God seems far away, who moved?

Peace and kindness,
Fred

I feel happy sometimes and I feel sad at times. I usually am not scared of anything and I don't let things move me. I do feel like God does still inspire me and I want to be able to work in a hospital as a volunteer doctor for the Peace Corp someday. I mean I see now he has blessed me with brains in science and he can give me something to use my talents for.

I feel happy sometimes and I feel sad at times. I usually am not scared of anything and I don't let things move me. I do feel like God does still inspire me and I want to be able to work in a hospital as a volunteer doctor for the Peace Corp someday. I mean I see now he has blessed me with brains in science and he can give me something to use my talents for.

He will guide you in the way of his truth.
Pray and ask God to lead you in the way you should go.
Sometimes he doesn't give us what we ask for because he knows eactly what we need.

The prayer of a rightious man availath much" God Be With You!

lea_09,
Good for yoi.
I hope and pray that you will br able to do as you are working for.
Fred

lea_09,
Good for yoi.
I hope and pray that you will br able to do as you are working for.
Fred

Hi Fred... I believe she's doing okay.. Let's keep praying for her and each other! Blessings to you:)

Kitkat22,
Yes, I pray for all that are here and more.
Fred

Kitkat22,
Yes, I pray for all that are here and more.
Fred

We sin daily, we pray daily and Jesus blood saved us when we accepted him.

Goodnight and God Bless You. Hey We are going to be in heaven together and then we won't have to worry about anything! You are my friend!

Kitkat22,
Yes, you are more than a friend to me, you are a loved one on the good road to paradise.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

Kitkat22,
Yes, you are more than a friend to me, you are a loved one on the good road to paradise.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

Thanks Fred and you are a very good friend. We all need to love each other as God loves us. I think you are a true child of God. We don't agree on things but we're both seeking same thing. I don't think it's going to be too much longer until he comes back. Goodnight!

Kitkat22,
I often pray for the return of Jesus.
He'll put and end to wars, murder, rapes and all the other terrible things we humans do to each other.
So I pray.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

True, but sometimes I believe that christians leave a bad impression on some people like my mom. It was not coming from me, but one of my friends back in elementary school died of cancer and her parents told my mom (non believer) that they were meant to be and God put them together. After my friend died they got divorced and within a few months the wife remarried. I mean she looks at them like it is a sham and christians are a sham.

PS: she is buddhist

lea_09,
I feel sorry for your mom.
Peace and kindness,
Fred

Ifeel that god doesn't want me, I'm a new christian, and was bathtised a month ago. But the things I did before... I don't feel god will forgive. I cursed his name, and rejected him, I committed every sin and more. And now that I search for him, and as much as I do, as much as I study go to church, pray, help others come to love my god, jesus my lord and saviour, I feel deep inside that he has forsaken me and, looks down on me,is ashamed to have me speak his name,, I don't know if it's the enemy, if I'm under spiritual attack... but I want god everywhere, in my school in my life, in my family, and in my heaart... but I don't think god wants to be in mine.

I grew up in a Christian home. I do believe God is real and he is part of my everyday life. But what if I stopped believing in God during my teen years because what proof did He give me that he is there for me? I love my parents and I do struggle with them emotionally because my mom is not a christian but a buddhist. My parents have hurt me emotionally and sent me to a counsel to 'resolve my issues'. But what if God forgot about me and just have given me a horrible life on purpose? I use to pray all the time and was actually a God fearing woman down to having sexual integrity and never abused my body in anyway. I feel like he misplaced me in a society with a family that expects too much and too little in certain areas. My roles as a daughter, sister, and student is strained. My parents and I have recently stopped fighting for the past few years, but I feel like what does God have to do with any of this? Why has he stopped controlling my life to a point he let me get hurt?

God chastises those He loves. You are being given a great gift if you look at it the right way.

Romans 8:17
And if children, then heirs; heirs of God, and joint-heirs with Christ; if so be that we suffer with him, that we may be also glorified together.

Remember that God permitted His Son to suffer on the Cross:
1 Peter 2:21
For even hereunto were ye called: because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that ye should follow his steps:

Be of good cheer, your suffering proves that you are one of the elect:
Hebrews 12:8
8But if ye be without chastisement, whereof all are partakers, then are ye bastards, and not sons.

Sincerely,

Ifeel that god doesnt want me, im a new christian, and was bathtised a month ago. but the things i did before... i dont feel god will forgive. i cursed his name, and rejected him, i commited every sin and more. and now that i search for him, and as much as i do, as much as i study go to church, pray, help others come to love my god, jesus my lord and saviour, i feel deep inside that he has forsaken me and, looks down on me,is ashamed to have me speak his name,,, i dont know if its the enemy, if im under spiritual attack... but i want god everywhere, in my school in my life, in my family, and in my heaart... but i dont think god wants to be in mine.

Hazeldell, I am so sorry to hear that you feel this way. There is nothing in your past that God will not accept. He created us the way He did for His own reasons. He knows human nature and tendencies, yet He still loves us. If I were bold enough to even attempt to say what God is thinking, I would say that He is most proud of you.

Ifeel that god doesnt want me, im a new christian, and was bathtised a month ago. but the things i did before... i dont feel god will forgive. i cursed his name, and rejected him, i commited every sin and more. and now that i search for him, and as much as i do, as much as i study go to church, pray, help others come to love my god, jesus my lord and saviour, i feel deep inside that he has forsaken me and, looks down on me,is ashamed to have me speak his name,,, i dont know if its the enemy, if im under spiritual attack... but i want god everywhere, in my school in my life, in my family, and in my heaart... but i dont think god wants to be in mine.

Are you worse than Paul was? He hunted the earliest Christians down and killed them, and believed he was doing a good thing. He called himself the chief of sinners. If God could forgive him, He can certainly forgive you. As long as you're breathing, forgiveness is there. But here's the key:

IT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH HOW YOU FEEL.

Feelings are the world's worst criterion of truth. They're very real, but they tell you nothing at all about God or his will or his attitude or anything else. Feelings change. That feeling in your gut could be God or it could be some bad sushi. If you rely on feelings your life is going to be the most terrifying roller-coaster you could imagine in your worst nightmare. If you hold on to the FACT that God's word says you're forgiven and accepted, you have a solid anchor to hang on to when those feelings start trying to throw you every which way. Stand on His word and those other things won't knock you down, or if they do, you won't be down for long.