Hi well here's my story I been best friends with this guy for like 3 years now and 2 years ago I went out with his brother for a year I was madly in love with him but I always really wanted his brother my best friend long story short we broke up a year ago my best friend tells me like a month ago that he;s been in love with me for 3 years I'm so in love with him its crazy BUT I can't be with him because I went out with his brother and he kissed me and I loved it I don't know what to do help!! Me

Why can't you date him? Does he have a problem with the fact that you dated his brother? Does his brother care if you date him?

I went out with sisters. It was fine. The older sister (I dated first) didn't care a year or two later when I dated the younger sister. (younger sister didn't care that I had dated her older sis either.) If he loves you and you he what does it matter who's brother he is? If he brother has a problem with it then the brother is going to have to get over it. I am sure it will not be easy to always see the brother or for the brother to see you but love is love and you picked the wrong guy first. Your bad but not a big deal. Why does it matter? I mean you can't help how you feel. Chances are the brother will get over this and you both will be fine. It'll always be kind of weird but you got to do what is right for you. And the mom might care (if the parents are still in the picture) but they will get over it in time and eventually it could become a huge joke in the family which will be fun to play with. Go for it sister. (I'm a strait guy, don't know why I just said those last 4 words lol.)

It's only a problem if you guys make it a problem.

It's not a problem is you guys don't make it a problem.

Is something making it a problem or is it only a problem in your mind?

I agree. If he don't care then why should you? If you love him you love him. If you don't have fellings for hi brother and he does not have feelings for you go for it.

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OK well yes the brother dose care if I go out with his brother because he still loves me and its not about him anymore its his family they don't want us togeter I don't know what to do it's a really long story but I love him so much and he loves me I want to be with him but no one wants us to be togerter I need your help tell me what to do

If love is worth all the hell from his family, then that's up to you.

You don't expect everyone to be happy with what your doing do you?

Better stay away from them, because nothing you can do will change what they feel about you.

You can't change the way the your ex feels. What you need to ask yourself is whether it's going to affect your relationship?

You can't control the people around you. But you can control our own choices.

Sorry if you answered this before and I missed it, but, how old are you guys?

Maybe your friend wants more, knows he can't have it & doesn't want his brother to either.

Sibling rivalry.

That's between them.

You got to decide if this is going to be worth it. On a daily basis.

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OK well he told me that he wants us to be together his brother heard a little bite about what's going on with us and he waste happy I don't want 2 brothers to fight over some girl but I really want to be with him he cares about his brother but he told me that he loves me more and I'm afraid that his brother might get in the middle of us if we get together


I'm 19 and he is 20

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OK, then you're both old enough to make your own decisions. You don't have to pay attention to anything his family says if you don't want to. Eventually, they'll either get used to it, or learn to keep their mouths shut.

It has to be worth it to you.

If the pleasure outweighs the drama.

Being honest with all involved. (being yourself)

What does his brother have against it? What are his reasons for not wanting you two together?