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kristine18
Mar 5, 2010, 01:59 AM
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Its been like two months since me and my ex broke up then he calls me and tells me that he wants to go back to the old days.. what should I do?

amicon
Mar 5, 2010, 02:44 AM
You broke up for a reason and you say you are over him,why go down that road again?

Larken85
Mar 5, 2010, 03:05 AM
Agreed. It ended once and probably would again. Just stay over it.

mistyjane
Mar 5, 2010, 05:38 AM
Hum... why would you go back to him?Just because he shows up? I don't think so if you're over him it means you shouldn't care about that.

Devorameira
Mar 5, 2010, 06:14 AM
Stay away from him. He's your ex for a reason - just leave him as your ex. Don't be thinking about the good things in the past, concentrate on the bad and you'll so you can remember why you broke up in the first place.

Romefalls19
Mar 5, 2010, 06:14 AM
Don't go back, time doesn't go backwards only forwards

annette88
Mar 5, 2010, 06:37 AM
The saying 'better the devil you know than the devil you don't isn't always true. Stay on the recovery road to a happier future!

Imabadman
Mar 5, 2010, 07:24 AM
I can't subscribe to the 'canned' response of, “NO.”

How about this… have you thought about the reasons you two broke up? Do you have any reason to believe these issues have been corrected? Have you looked at the Pros and Cons of reentering into a relationship with this person?

Why don't you start there? Think about it with your head not your heart. Does this relationship really make sense? If you have any doubts, then I would say, “No, let it go.”

talaniman
Mar 5, 2010, 08:38 AM
Talaniman Rule- Never let them break your heart TWICE! Didn't it hurt enough the first time?

Newguy2009
Mar 5, 2010, 01:25 PM
If you were to ask me this question 2 months ago, I would have said YEA! GO FOR IT! But that's only because I wished "my ex" wanted "me" back at that time.

You said you are over him so today my answer for you is NO. If you still had feelings for him, then it might be one of those 1 in a million things where you could at least "consider" talking about it. I suggest you don't because you may get hurt again.

kristine18
Mar 5, 2010, 04:40 PM
I'm confused...


How to get my ex stop calling me and coming by my house to talk to me.. I told him many times that I'm over him and I don't want to see him but every time I see him it brings back memories... how can I get him to get over me??

talaniman
Mar 5, 2010, 05:20 PM
How about treating him like any other unwanted guest. Ignore/block his calls and threaten him with calling the cops if he won't stop harassing you. And don't say please. If he persists, then do call the cops.

Unless you get as drastic as it takes, he will continue to bother you, so let him pay the consequences of his bad behavior, and don't be wishy washy about it, or wimpy either.

Time for talk is over, so be ready to take some action.

Got any big brothers??

kristine18
Mar 6, 2010, 09:50 PM
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I'm still confused on if I should get back wit my ex or not... these last few days I can't stop thinking about him I still like him... do you think that I will get over the feelings that I'm feeling because its been about 2 months now and I can't stop thinking about him... should I give him another try or just move on?

none12345
Mar 6, 2010, 10:23 PM
How did you guys break up? And why?

Usually Exes are ex for a reason. You two just weren't compatible. What is the reason for the break up?

After a break up, it is a human response to still think about your ex. I know I still do and its been 2 years. But as long as it doesn't intefere with your life or stop you from doing anything, its ookay.

If it does, than you are still healing, and give it some time for the feelings to pass.

kristine18
Mar 6, 2010, 10:42 PM
We broke up because his mom would get into our fights and that I didn't trust his friends because he used to go out everyday wit his friends.. wen I saw him and told him that he said that he is changed man.. and another reason for us breaking up is because his ex called him a lot and after he talked to her he use to be different towards me...

talaniman
Mar 7, 2010, 08:28 AM
Sometimes we still have feelings for exes a long time after a break up, that's pretty normal I would say. Its how you handle it is what counts, so are you staying busy and are you happy with your single life?

The only time I would think of exes, is when I was bored, or unhappy, and wished they were here.

Otherwise I would say just keep moving on, and doing your own thing.

Devorameira
Mar 7, 2010, 08:54 AM
You said that you still just "like" him, so it doesn't sound like you had a real serious relationship to start with. With that being said - Just move on.