Hi,
She was my best friend. She was in love but her love broke up. So she stopped speaking to guys. She also avoided me. The bereavement taught me how much I myself loved her. I wish I could propose to her. Another friend had proposed but she has turned him down. I fear if she ll assume I am just another case like him. But I feel she would be a perfect match for me. Advice

It seems the signs speak for themselves, and you need to see them.

Being in love and breaking up is a traumatic experience, and takes time to work through. Jumping the steps of healing will only cause problems in subsequent rebound relationships.

She is avoiding guys, and she is avoiding you (I presume you are a guy). She has already turned a guy down for a proposal!

What you feel toward her right now is not as important as she feels about herself. While you may feel you are good for her, and she is good for you, she is not ready to even entertain the idea.

What you could do, is just let her know you are there for her if she needs to talk, and that you respect her decision to be on her own right now. But, if she wants to contact you, she knows where you are.

Then leave her be. You can do nothing to force the issue, and if you do, you will drive her away permanently, and you could lose a good friend in the process.

Let her find her way back, and accept that that may or may not include you, as more than a friend.

I get you miss her, but she isn't ready for you, or any other guy, so leave her alone until she is healed. She will let you know when she is ready for that.

Missing someone is not a reason for love, or proposals, and right now, both are inappropriate, and show your more caught up in your own feelings, and needs, than hers, and thats selfish, and not even being a good friend.

OK I'm confused here. Such words like porposal could not really mean for marriage could they? If so how much of a catch is the girl that has been asked to marry once and is about to be by another person? You were friends and that is what she is going to be counting on you to be right now so step up and be that friend. Be careful that she doesn't always view you as just the friend but at the moment that is just the place you want to be. But if by porposal you actually meant for marriage I would hold off on that for an extended period so that the two of you can date and find out if marriage is really the best thing for you. Very confused, porposal could not have meant what I thought it meant.porposal to date perhaps? If so then please say something like asked out or something that doesn't sound so... engagmenty. But yes she may need help right now and that would put you in the perfect position to pick up the pieces but you do not want to be the rebound guy. It will not last if you are,

Grabbing onto her on the rebound would end up being disastrous in the end.

You really can't be her "knight in shining armour". You need to leave her alone so that she can heal and get healthy enough to even think about starting another relationship.

I agree but also disagree with the other people. I think you should go up to her, tell her at least how you feel about her and if you honestly love this girl, tell her that you understand whats going on with her but you love her and will wait for as long as it takes for her feelings to heal, then if you want you could still propose and tell her you will wait for her respond, that she doesnt have to give it to you right away.. I think that way your giving her time to think about things and she wont feel rushed but you will feel way better getting everything off your back because if you just leave it be like every one else is kinda telling you to do then you will just be pacing back and forth waiting... Trust me!

Chu, the problem with that is it will further confuse her mind. Think of it this way, when you have to deal with one problem that seems difficult enough, and then someone comes to you and dumps another problem on top of that, you get beyond stress and made irrational decisions, which could actually work against him.

Give her time and space to heal, that's the best thing you can do