AmericanGirl01
Mar 1, 2010, 05:07 PM
Hello Everyone, I hope someone on here can give me a little help.
I've been in a relationship with a guy now since September, his name is Jake. We're both in our 20's and things are going really great for us. We have great communication, trust and just a lot of fun. We've both had serious relationships in our past, so we know exact what we're looking for and I really couldn't ask for a better guy.
We've discussed our views on certain things and for the most part we share the same values. However, there's one thing that is bothering me a tad and I've discussed it with him. I've very against infedelity of any sort (whether it be having sex with another person and simply kissing them) and strongly believe that when two people are in a commit relationship that they should only be intimate with each other. I told him that I would never tolerate cheating of any sort, I would be running for the door so fast.
He isn't sure if he would break up with someone if they cheated on him. As long as they came to him and was completely honest about where they stood on it. If they expressed that it was stupid thing, and that they don't have any actual feelings for the other person and if he believes them and trusts that they are telling the truth then he thinks he can get past the cheating.
He expressed that our different views worries him a bit, that it may effect us in the future. He expressed to me that he does not want anyone else, and that he cannot see wanting anyone else in the future. I totally believe him when he says this, he is very open and honest with me and I have no reason to not believe him. He is the kind of guy that if he saw himself wanting someone else, he would definitely tell me about these before anything happened.
I'm just worried a little though. If he doesn't see himself wanting to be with anyone else in the future, why would our different views matter? He tells me he can see himself with me in his future, he's never felt this way about a girl before. He hasn't done the serious relationship thing in awhile (he's dated a lot of girls just no relationship in a few years) but knew as soon as he got to know me that he wanted to just be with me and only me.
Sorry for the rant, just needed to clear my head!
I've been in a relationship with a guy now since September, his name is Jake. We're both in our 20's and things are going really great for us. We have great communication, trust and just a lot of fun. We've both had serious relationships in our past, so we know exact what we're looking for and I really couldn't ask for a better guy.
We've discussed our views on certain things and for the most part we share the same values. However, there's one thing that is bothering me a tad and I've discussed it with him. I've very against infedelity of any sort (whether it be having sex with another person and simply kissing them) and strongly believe that when two people are in a commit relationship that they should only be intimate with each other. I told him that I would never tolerate cheating of any sort, I would be running for the door so fast.
He isn't sure if he would break up with someone if they cheated on him. As long as they came to him and was completely honest about where they stood on it. If they expressed that it was stupid thing, and that they don't have any actual feelings for the other person and if he believes them and trusts that they are telling the truth then he thinks he can get past the cheating.
He expressed that our different views worries him a bit, that it may effect us in the future. He expressed to me that he does not want anyone else, and that he cannot see wanting anyone else in the future. I totally believe him when he says this, he is very open and honest with me and I have no reason to not believe him. He is the kind of guy that if he saw himself wanting someone else, he would definitely tell me about these before anything happened.
I'm just worried a little though. If he doesn't see himself wanting to be with anyone else in the future, why would our different views matter? He tells me he can see himself with me in his future, he's never felt this way about a girl before. He hasn't done the serious relationship thing in awhile (he's dated a lot of girls just no relationship in a few years) but knew as soon as he got to know me that he wanted to just be with me and only me.
Sorry for the rant, just needed to clear my head!