Why am I not getting wet when having sex and do not orgasm either?

Anxiety about having sex because you don't orgasm and worry about performing is enough to dry you up vaginally. I can see why you are concerned. You may want to try KY jelly or Astroglide which are safe to use during sexual intercourse if you are too dry. Once you find that you are wet enough, you may actually start realizing how to enjoy yourself. Of course, you really must have a partner who is experienced, caring and patient enough to want to stimulate enough first so that you enjoy yourself. Can you bring yourself to orgasm by stimulating yourself ? Having an orgasm with a partner is not the end all and be all of being intimate, just being intimate with someone and giving them pleasure the best way you can may be a learning experience for you.


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Are you able to orgasm through masturbation?

Are you giving yourself enough time to get aroused?

If your mind is on other things than sex (such as the laundry, dishes, interuptions, etc.), your body won't be as likely to respond.

My ex girlfriend would orgasm however didn't create much fluid. However if she got a little drunk she would get wet I think its a lot to do with relaxing.

Yes much to do with relaxing actually. My fiancé just had a hystorectomy and can still get wet, not as wet but still. She realized that she needed to relax about it and mentally turn herself on. I know its maybe a little odd for you being so young but fantacise about someone you find irresistible while making love with your boyfriend until you get the hang of it and things should work just fine. Just remember its sex, just sex, everyone does it, and there is nothing to be tense about. Its natural and even biblical, so just enjoy your partner and enjoy the sensation. Hope it works out for you

Also maybe try a little bit of manual self stimulation cause you know what your body likes. But if all else fails reach for the lube. Things will work themselves out in time