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EVE310
Feb 19, 2010, 07:55 PM
Im in a current relation with a great guy who wants to marry me & etc he's very successful with his own business therefore he's financially stabled, the only thing is that I can't forget my ex boyfriend I still love him with all my heart & everyday second I think of him & I constantly dream of him, the last time we spoke was two months ago but we broke up about 8 months ago, I don't know what's wrong with me how can I forget him help me, I'm so depressed.

I wish
Feb 19, 2010, 08:12 PM
If you broke up with your ex boyfriend 8 months ago, that means you haven't been with your current boyfriend for very long.

Furthermore, if you're still not over your last boyfriend, that means your current boyfriend is either a distraction, a rebound or both.

What's the rush to get married? Focus on recovering from your last break up.

Then focus on building a strong relationship with your new boyfriend. Then you can consider marriage. Marriage is a huge step and you can't just jump into marriage with a rebound.

Alty
Feb 19, 2010, 08:50 PM
If you're not in love with your current boyfriend, still want the ex, then you owe it to him to be honest, let him go. He deserves the truth, especially if he's contemplating marriage.

Why not be on your own for a while, figure out what you really want, then find a boyfriend.

talaniman
Feb 21, 2010, 01:23 PM
You moved very fast into another relationship, when you had not been broken up very long, so have not had a proper, and thorough healing process. It happens a lot when you put financial stability over love, or are confused about both.

Just curious as to what the break up was about.

Sdawson90
Feb 21, 2010, 06:58 PM
In order to be in another successful and healthy relationship you have to completely let go of the other person romantically, and if the other relationship feelings are still there, and you are still this in love with him after 8 months, Do you think the ending of the last relationship was the answer?

And To be 100% honest, you've only been "broken up" with him for 2 months because you never got the chance to heal because you were still in contact with him, therefore giving you old feelings + hope.

I would suggest being on your own for a while until you are sure about what you want.

It isn't right to string someone along who is that infatuated with you, when your having doubts about being in love with another man.

You have to be completely content and happy with being with yourself before you can have a happy relationship

Cheers
-Sam

vanheart
Feb 21, 2010, 10:54 PM
Sounds like you don't know what you want.

Don't lead others on while you're figuring out. That's not right.

Sounds like you didn't want this guy or the last.

Get with yourself first. Then it will become clearer.

This isn't love.

amicon
Feb 22, 2010, 12:46 AM
I think you should be single for some time and figure out who you are and what you want in life.

Jumping from one relationship to another without healing from a breakup isn't a good idea.