After about 8 months since my last relationship, I've found feelings for another girl. There's just a couple of problems with this.

One is that she doesn't like anyone. I've tried to understand this, but the only conclusion I can come up with is it seems like she has no interest, or no need in it. Another possibility is a troubled past.

Two is that although I value her immensely as a friend, and didn't want to ruin that, through circumstances that don't really matter anymore, I told her that I had feelings for her. I was not surprised when she said she didn't like anyone. She told me that she enjoyed talking to me more than anyone else though, and that I was her really good friend. She asked if we were still going to hang out, all in this pretty emotionless voice, it was a little confusing. But I said of course, we can still hang out, as much as you want. I had the idea to keep as much distance as possible with her while still remaining her friend. We haven't been close friends for a long time, and I think I was already making a lot of progress.

Last night, we did hang out, but it seemed a little like she didn't care whether I was there or not. She was a little distant. When I made an excuse and left, usually she would express some kind of sadness that I was going, or ask me where I was going, but this time she just said bye.

So there's my situation, and my goal all lumped into a choppy story.

No need to beat yourself up.

Bottom lines are:

1) You told her how you felt.

2) She doesn't feel the same way.

Any reasons that she gives you is just another way of letting you down easy. It happens. You can't expect everyone to like you the way you like them.

Does she really have to say flat out: "I don't like you"?

I agree with IWish... you did what you could!

Sometimes people are just not interested in pursuing relationships. That's OK! That is their choice.

Your choice is if you want to keep going as if nothing has happened. She was honest with you; you were honest with her. That's the best thing that could have happened for the two of you.

Be her friend, don't expect anything more than that.

You tried, it didn't work, that happens. Move on.

If I were you I'd sit down and ask her what's up. She shouldn't let something like you telling her the truth come between your friendship, these things happen and they pass. Ask her what you can do to make things to back the way they were, if that's what you want.

She shouldn't let something like you telling her the truth come between your friendship, these things happen and they pass.

I don't really agree with this. Yes, these things happen. However, she should not be made to feel like she has to continue the friendship especially if she thinks it is leading the op on. False hope is not a good thing in a friendship.

Slough, give your friendship some time and give yourself some time to get over these feelings for her.

Move on, sometimes things don't happen they way we expect or want them to. Be her friend, probably one day she'll look back and come around... Be patient... Remember PATIENCE IS THE MOTHER OF SUCCESS... so f you really care for her you'll respect her choices, just take it step by step